What next for an RAFC?

[Deadmansshoes]

I’ve never been good with women or a Don Juan or anything but a few years ago I met a girl speed dating, we hit it off and within a year we moved in together and rented a place. We’ve been together about 5 years now. She’s cute and very fit/sporty and we get on well, I like her but she isn’t the one and there are other problems which have slowly strangled the relationship and now it’s pretty much dead in the water. It’s just a case of which of us goes first.

I know long term the right thing for us to do is go separate ways but I am also nervous about the future. I am in good shape, live in London and have a decent job but I am 40 next year. I feel like I am too old to be dating again and I was never that good at cold approaches or online dating either – I was never a clubber or bar hopper either. Realistically what options do guys in my age bracket have? I’ve been single for long periods before and I could see it happening again. I lost a lot of control of my life and myself in this relationship and I want to get that back and be better than before but I don’t know where to start. Has anyone else been in this position and come out the other side ok?

 

[Night-hawk]

Hey man, it's natural you feel uneasy...you've both invested A LOT of time together and it's not always easy to part ways. I will tell you if you keep to growing and working on yourself you will come back out on top.

I'm sure there are other guys who can relate more to your circumstance and have good advice. Best to ya.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Age is just a number. If you dress sharp, look fit and healthy and act like you're the fvcking man, women of all ages will be attracted to you.

Never give up, never let your guard down and always keep improving yourself. The women will come.