"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What motivates you?

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Hey I need some serious motivation right now.. I'm down in the dumps and very long story to short, I need some motivation to get back up to where I want to be.

A few friends at a time here in Toronto isn't doing the job right. I'm not where I wanna be and motivation is the key, I just can't seem to make any of it up myself.

How do you do it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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HM, nice question!

I think everyone has their way of course! I personally LOVE to go walk my dog. It's been said that waking IS the best possible exercise.

It's SO AWSOME! !I gotta go walk to clear my head" ever heard that one? :D

.... But today I'm especially motivated!! I've been reading some humor sites and comics, and the thing I've done today is FAKING laughter. If you read that it's the best medicine, you just have got to try it to understand it.

Bascilly, your body doesn't give a **** if you're faking it or not, your mind knows it's false, but you laugh, and your body releases feel good hormones. :D

It will turn into real laughter as fast as you know it! :D

Another thing is sleeping, that I'm going to do right now. Taking long long walks makes you without energy and you need time to recover, but if you're not feeling tierd, try faking laughter for some time by looking at some jokes or ****. I GUARANTEE it's THE BEST use for your time!

http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2003/03/31/1048962698891.html
http://www.signonsandiego.com/news/health/20050927-9999-lz1c27yoga.html
 

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ima str8 up pimp said:
ive been depressed the last two weeks really miserable
So, are you going to be the first one to follow my tip and then post something saying how amazing it is that it really does work? :D
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Good articles FuryGuy.

T-nation has some damn good reading on it for sure.

I though to answer the topic question what motivates me is awesome music.

So yeah I'm pretty simple like that.
 

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Psychologists say a minute of forced laughter can help the blues, writes Richard Morin in Washington.

The news is grim these days, so we all could use a good laugh, even a fake one, says a psychologist who claims that a minute of forced laughter can chase away the blues.

"Forced laughter is a powerful, readily available and cost-free way for many adults to regularly boost their mood and psychological wellbeing,"
said Charles Schaefer, psychology professor at Fairleigh ****inson University in
Teaneck, New Jersey.

(...)

Why would phony laughter work? Because your body doesn't know it's fake, even though your brain might, Professor Schaefer said. "Once the brain signals the body to laugh, the body doesn't care why. It's going to release endorphins, it's going to relieve stress as a natural physiological response to the physical act of laughing.
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All the cool kids are doing it
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I get motivated very easily by just wanting to be better than other people, at everything. And once I am better at something than them, I want to be better than them by as much as possible.

I think it's a bit of an insecurity more than anything else so it's probably not an option for everyone.

All I can say is that I was once in the same sort of situation as you, and what I did was to absolutely turn my life on its head. I told all of my friends to go **** themselves (they were a bunch of *******s that were just dragging me down with them) and moved hundreds of miles from home. It was a sink or swim situation, and when the only alternative is abject failure, you'll get that kick of motivation.

I can't explain the sense of liberation I felt that first day I walked around my new town, I felt like I owned the whole god-damn place.
 
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