"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What moment made you feel like a TRUE DJ?

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Hey everyone,

I just wanted to take this opportunity to first of all, get to know everyone better, and, share a bit about the DJ mentality.The self-improvement that is so often encouraged (as it should be), makes everyone try to improve in everything.So was there one moment, any moment, that made you feel like you were juggling every aspect of your life perfectly, improving like there was no tomorrow?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJoneday

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Well one day I was at the DMV with a friend, and this girl I had used to have the hugest oneitis for (Who I'd talked to ONCE in my life) walked by the window, I didn't see her by my friend goes "Hey man was that ____?" I got up, walked outside, and approached her. She didn't even know who I was, but I played it cool and continued to do my thing. By the end she gave me her number without me even asking for it, and walked off blowing kisses at me. It was like beating the hell out of my old AFC self.
 
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Alright man! Slamming courage in fear's face, especially with a oneitis, is something to be proud of!Any other stories, which made you feel like a true DJ?

Here's one of mine...

Exam results were out, and I scored the first A.So then I go out on a high, and I'm at a gym, working out for a bit. Just for fun, every five minutes, I increase the weightload on the machine, and I keep lifting heavier weights.Apparently this caught the eye of some HB's outside, unfortunately, even as they were beaming broadly, and I had a new look, changing to contacts, I had a busy schedule, and couldnt chat em up....but whoa, having control of improvement like that was DJing at its best!

Come on, more stories!
 
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I used to be a chump, AFC, kinda chubby, the works. lol. REAL baggy pants lmao.

OK. So I'm at this summer camp this summer and I've lost weight, started lifting, I get my hair done all nice cuz I have a sense of style more than a sense of which games are hot now lol. Anyways, I am clearly the alpha male dominating thit game of JENGA (the game where you pull blocks out until it falls) and I used C&f a lot too.

I'm with 4 guys 2 girls. so I'm sitting between the chicks and they're like screwing me over trying to make me mess up. So I do some kino by tickling them and then I get up all thoughtfully and I'm acting like a JENGA pro or something lmao. So I m surveying it and I'm pulling one out and I push it in like the act of screwing lol, but I'm laughing and it gets on the hotter girl. so I'm like laughing at her. She friggin TACKLES me and I'm like, aww **** wtf. But she whispers "damn AFK you made me so hot."

But I say something dumb about curfew and not wanting to get kicked out. We have a short make out/grind session though. Cuz there's a dance going on downstairs.

Anyways, so I'm kinda sweaty and I'm coming back from the bathroom. So this tall hispanic girl stops me and she's like, "are you AFK?"

So I pull some wacky **** like, "mr. AFK to you. Do I know you?"

So she goes, "no, but my friend down there sarah has the hots for you...you might not know her, but she's too shy to talk to you. Just talk to her for me."

I go, "er...that's kind creepy. how do I know she's gonna rape me or something."

so I go anyways lmao and see this cute little girl...like...14 and I just say hi, but she's really AFC and she goes, "um...no...I didn't ask to see you..hehe..um...I dunno that girl.."

so I'm like, "ok fuk u." haha jp. So i just leave. and she's kinda hesitating, so she calls me back and we chat.

Yeah....that night was the best. i mean...a year ago, i was the geek, and now I have hot chicks wanting me bad and girls asking me out. crazy shiat.
 
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I just got a new Job, and the second day i'm working with 2 hot babes, and i was interested in each and sending signals to each. So they go off to clean a table and i over hear them fighting over me. One switches her name tag with mine, and the other writes all over my hand.

That moment was great. Since then i'm seeing one of them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Actually i only realized myself about..2.5 months ago.
Not really a DJ yet..
But one ngiht i went to the mall with my friend n like 6 chicks, one of which was his gf. alll go to a diff school.
So i pickout the hottest of the group[only 1 was REALLY hot, 2 were decent and the otehr 2 were ass fugly] and work the cnf.
after about 15 minutes of knowing her we go see a movie[the whole group].
So i walk down last, and she makes ehr friends move so she can sit next to me.
haha i remember: when i was trying to hold hands with ehr i poked her ass like 5 times on accident[too ****ing dark!] but i did hold hands with her afetr knowin her for liek 15 minutes. go me. def was a HB8.5. i was proud of myself:cool:
haha well she was cool. Then some guy she was obsessed with for months showed up to the mall, so w/e. **** that *****, all her friends ended up bein pissed cause she led me on.[and theyall apparently liked me 2..wtf? none of them even really talked to me?]
So later on that ngiht we go back to my friends gfs hosue with me him, her, the guy who the girl ditched me for n one of the decent chick.
i got bombed, and still got the decent chick into me[though the next day i cut it off. we didn't hookup or nothin].
good night that was.
 
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or when one of the hottest chicks in m grade, who i'd spoken to ONCE, gave me her number randomly online while she was at her friends[who i was DJing alil] house.
go me.
 
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R3P0STAHHHHH!
 
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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
R3P0STAHHHHH!
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I had this really hot girl call me sexy in front of her husband. That did wonders for my ego.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My favorite moment would have to be somewhere in the beginning of june. I went to a party, and a HB 8.5-9 caught my eye. I start talking to her, making ****y wisecracks and whatnot. Shes giggling, playing along with me, so I start the pre-kino. I'm getting good results, so I put the kino on thick. She gives it right back to me. I say I can't sit in the chair anymore, so I move to the floor, as does she. We eventually start kissing, and I say we should go to my car. We sneak out from the party, and it all ends up going to third base. It was a damn good night, and probably my most flawless performance yet. (The HB 8.5-9 is now my GF of 3 months) :D
 
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When I created my account and posted. It said Don Juan under my name. That was my moment.
 
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There have been some awesome moments, but the one that really hit home to me was at a preview to law at a university. As well as chattting up the girl next to me and the one on the other side, and leaving with both their numbers, something else happened that seems minor but just struck me. I left and then realised id forgotten my jacket. I went back in and looked where around where i was sitting (identical lecture seats) , couldnt see it, some students there asked what the matter was. I told them. Then the best looking out of the bunch (8.5 or so) said, you were sitting right there and took me and showed me exactly where i had been. Then her friends teased her about how she had been looking at me the entire lecture. I found it at the front where some dude had picked it up but, it was awesome. The best kind of high i ever had, just this one little random moment from some random girl and confirmation that shed been eying me up. Without me being able to mess it up.
 
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Not a real Don Juan yet, but I'm getting there...

Anyways, my story happened at the beginning of the summer. I had just gotten over my Oneitis, and I go to this small party a friend of mine organized. There, I meet this girl I hooked up with 2 years before, but to who I hadn't talked in ages. Anyways, all is good, we date a little : on the second date, I de-virginized my lips with a 40min make-out session :D. So yeah, that made me feel pretty good.

Some time afterwards, I try to organize something with her, but she refuses. After I keep talking to her that day (on email), I learn that "she recently met this guy and they're now going out" (what had we been doing ? :rolleyes: ). So, I tell her "Alright." and block her out. Two weeks later, she crawls back to me, telling me that "she hasn't talked to the guy in a week and she misses me and wants to hang out with me" and some crap like that. I tell her "I don't like being played" and walk away. So, it was my turn to reject her ! :D

I told this to my best friend, and he was actually surprised of the way I acted : he was certain I would just take her back as if nothing had happened. But, the DJ mentality is starting to impregnate itself in my head, and the AFC me he knew is getting thrown out quickly :).
 
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