"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What modivated you to become a DJ?

Eugene123

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Well just interested on how everyone started walking on this path.

Share you stories here!

Mine: In Middle school, I would hang out with the guys that would be really good with girls. But I was not one of those guys. I thought I was a person who would just sit out on the sideline and watch others game on the girls, and if I was lucky maybe a girl would talk to me. I wanted desperately to learn how to become like them, but to shy to ask "How?"... so i asked good old trusty goggle. And soon my journey had begun.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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comic_relief

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a oneitis named Tina S. that made my life a living hell (of my own making)

I still thank her everyday for giving me that kick in the @$$.

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thissean

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my ex girlfriend hooking up with a guy 2 weeks after our 2 year long relationship.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SLY

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I don't believe there are any faithful women out there left. I have come to a realization that any women are capable of cheating - and there is no such thing as true love. Also, I don't want to "settle", I want what I know I can have.
 

DJVladdy

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A bytch called Marianna (yes that's her real name i dont make up names)
lead me on, rejected me (LJBF), I flipped out and called her a bytch, but then I liked her still, oneitis u guys call it... so i went from liking her to hating her, to obsessing about her, to hating again, to actually thanking her... as in the case with comic i needed that kick in the balls lol
 

KontrollerX

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On another forum I was a part of a poster named New Order posted a link to this board.

I clicked the link and read the posts I found and it all clicked in my head that what these guys here were saying has to be true because I felt an unravelling in my brain of many things that to me had been mysteries up to that point and for each post I'd read I finally felt everything coming together and making sense for why I'd had so many difficulties in life up to that point and my difficulties were the result of three letters that fully represented me for 25 years...

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F

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So what motivated me to become a DJ is the awakening that what all these guys were saying is true and the answer to my questions.
 

Alphamale1821

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I was a natural who didn't realize his true potential. I was simply a "aloof, goofy cool kid" who didn't really know how to be himself. Thank god for my friend Robert telling me about Alphamale and Carlos Xuma's sampler on Confidence.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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The Deacon

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Haha, I wish I could say my old one-itises were after me. The motivation came from years of girl rejection. I wasn't rejected by like, every girl I talked to, but the really hot ones. This bothered me. I wanted to kiss hot chicks. If you look good, average women will let you make every mistake in the book and still cling onto you, but not the pretty ones. I read "The Game" so I could get motivated to upgrade to the pretty ones.
 

DJVladdy

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I'm naturally a dominant masculine alpha type. Just with issues and some poor choices/habbits
 

Evolution

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My story.

I first stumped into the world of pickup, when I got struck with one-itis back in 11th grade High school (a year ago). She was asian HB8 by my standards (probably a HB7 now). But I wanted her, but I didn't know how to approach her.

So one lonely night I googled "how to become a player" and this is where my journey began.


A whole world opened up before me, there was a ton of resources on how to attract women, and how to get girls. I was a bit skeptical, I though no way this would work.

Then I was recommended to read the book "The Game" By Neil Strauss. I was blown away, I stayed up very late reading the book page by page.

And I would go to school hyped up, I would talk about this stuff to my guy friends (embarrassing now that I think about it). And approach a girl every and there (and **** up horribly). Eventually I got the balls to approach the HB8 girl, and tried out everything on her = kino, palm reading, lame **** like that.

Kino blown my mind, I never thought you could do that with a girl. I was always the nice guy before. I use to buy girls gifts (yes im guilt of that). I NEVER thought you could touch a girl. Well that went out the window fast.

So, during the next months I tried out a lot of the stuff, but never really got anywhere (because my inner game was still a wreak, and my old friends were really holding me back).

Secretly though, my life was suffering. I had terrible grades at the time, I was failing several classes. And I was depressed, I almost killed myself.

It wasn't I transfered out, that there a huge change of fortune for me.

In my new school, I started out as a loner. But within a month, I quickly became "a player". But I hated being called a player. There was where everything started clicking for me.

My inner game was repaired, thanks to David Angelo. And I made tons of new friends, and I was pulling girls left and right.



Long story, short, I transfer out. Now I'm in college+high school and building the life I always wanted. The journey was amazing for me, I met some people who literally changed my life. And in another life time I would have probably never met them, if I didn't stumble upon this.
 

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I had a Long Distance Relationship and we cared about each other but I was an AFC back then.....then one day we were arguing about some stupid sh1t and I went outside beacause I love looking at the moon and I was angry at her for something and I started yelling at her for not paying attention and she just said "HUH," "WHAT" "Shut up" and I just go soo pissed off I hung up , she called like 2 mins later like "What the fvck," III(I(IIIIII fvcking said sorry sorry and then she said she was tired and fell asleep!!!! When I hung up the phone I threw it away (I live out in the boonies 8 acres so the stars and moon was good...and starting yelling and laughing at the same time on my knees(I think I laugh because of my insecurity and unability to comprehend my emotions I think which I still do this day( I was on my knees laughing and so angry I began to cry I stayed there for 3 hours on my knees no joke and wondered why I was like this.......

I began to work out again and that was the day I started on the path of DJdom....I dont know how I found this site but am glad I did....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A one-itis who gave me a swift kick in the ass out of AFCness.
 
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