"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What maturity taught that youth didn't

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I personally love to stimulate my mind, and evolve every chance I get, so I observe life and its lesson. Since this is the mature room, what are some things that you think you have learned in your olders years that you just didnt know as a youth or ways in which you have changed the way you think.

things I've learned

When I was younger, I didnt hold my tongue, but have learned that in life for your own benefit you have to hold your tongue and use wisdom. I can "yes sir, no sir Mr officer" with the best of them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am a much better judge of character now in ways I could never understand in my youth. I can 'read' people now and get an accurate enough estimation of them from their behaviors, words and appearance. That may sound like I'm sterotyping, but is more like making estimations of predictability and I'm much more accurate now and adjust my approach to them accordingly.

In my youth I would never dream of being presumptuous with people since I believed in the myth of not wanting to be 'shallow', but I know that's all horsesh!t now. I got screwed over (and screwed myself over) enough times in work, personal relations and with women to learn from the experience that it's OK to go with your impression of someone. It doesn't make you shallow, it makes you prudent and a better judge of character.
 

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older women.........

Well,

I have found out, as I have grown older, that:

1....99% of all women are materialistic. ie. they will make payments on a Lexus instead of paying cash for a smaller auto.

2....99% of all women 'drown in a glass of water'. ie. You buy a green shirt, but, you should have bought the blue one. You buy a blue car, but, you should have bought the green one.

3....99% of all women are looking for the 'perfect' man----(he ain't out there)

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Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
I am a much better judge of character now in ways I could never understand in my youth. I can 'read' people now and get an accurate enough estimation of them from their behaviors, words and appearance. That may sound like I'm sterotyping, but is more like making estimations of predictability and I'm much more accurate now and adjust my approach to them accordingly.

In my youth I would never dream of being presumptuous with people since I believed in the myth of not wanting to be 'shallow', but I know that's all horsesh!t now. I got screwed over (and screwed myself over) enough times in work, personal relations and with women to learn from the experience that it's OK to go with your impression of someone. It doesn't make you shallow, it makes you prudent and a better judge of character.
I can agree with this one also. As I get older I also have learned to go with my gut as the saying goes. Ignoring that first voice has gotten me in trouble a lot as a youth, so I have learned to listen to it.
 

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The truth of the matter is, older guys have already made the stupid mistakes (and hopefully learned from them) the younger ones haven't had time to get around to yet!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Guys,

I haven't posted here until lately. But I'd like to take a crack at it.

When I was young, I failed to see where taking short cuts could possibly lead you. School, relationships, and myself. The end justified the mean. In everything it seemed.

When I matured, by not taking short cuts I realize you only get out off something what you put in. Trying harder. Not running from responsibility & accountability like so many my age of 31 and older, but knuckling up and turning to face it....
 

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BUMP
 

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Originally posted by Rollo
Guys,

I haven't posted here until lately. But I'd like to take a crack at it.

When I was young, I failed to see where taking short cuts could possibly lead you. School, relationships, and myself. The end justified the mean. In everything it seemed.

When I matured, by not taking short cuts I realize you only get out off something what you put in. Trying harder. Not running from responsibility & accountability like so many my age of 31 and older, but knuckling up and turning to face it....
I felt this post in my soul. Good life lesson!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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1.that you sometimes have tocheat your way through sertain things or you get left behinde, only the fittest survive. being a scared goody 2 shoe's cost me somethings eg(school,girls, people and work in general) time waits for no one.

2. that not all women like confident guys.

3.sex wasnt all its hyped up to be.

4.dont put any fate on a human.

6.not to care what other people thought of me, guys have called me gay because their girl wanted me,i realised that the socalled tough jocks are the most insecure.

5. dont be nice with everybody except those you show u kindness 1st.

6. never pay attenshion to what a woman says, because they dont know what they want and will never know, listening to them will only mislead you.
 

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"1.that you sometimes have to cheat your way through sertain things..."

Uhm----OK, but I thought the question was about "maturity", which usually entails something called "ethics"!!
 
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