"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What Makes You Walk Away

Don Jax

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There are several threads on this forum about the importance of walking away at the slightest sign of disinterest or lack of respect.

It's a powerful move and I have no problem doing it. Not just with the women I am dating, but in family, friendship, or professional situations.

The point is that when we do it often enough, we tend to develop a low tolerance (which is good) for any situation that takes us out of the frame. On the other hand, we burn more bridges.

So, some questions:

First, have you ever regretted walking away? If yes, how do you deal with it?

Do you think we will be missed by someone when we take this attitude, even if that person is being disrespectful to you, for example? In theory, they shouldn't. After all, they are not valuing you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Isildur1

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I regret not being kinder to the real feminine women that I dated and giving too much time and attention to women who bought nothing to the table but their looks.

When doing daygame approaches I hate bitchy attitudes and stuck up entitled people - women who are feminine and submissive I enjoy the problem with the western girls is the majority have bitchy attitudes that make it impossible to uphold a decent relationship with. Hence why I enjoyed my daygame in places like China and Hong Kong I felt I was respected by the women I dated more and I believe they put a lot more effort into me
 

Don Jax

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western girls is the majority have bitchy attitudes
They suffer from God Complex.

China and Hong Kong I felt I was respected by the women I dated more and I believe they put a lot more effort into me
Unfortunately, I haven't had any experience with oriental women.

As someone who has lived in both worlds, why do you think the difference in behavior is so extreme?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Isildur1

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They suffer from God Complex.



Unfortunately, I haven't had any experience with oriental women.

As someone who has lived in both worlds, why do you think the difference in behavior is so extreme?
Western world is full of rich men and wealth so women have their pick without working hard. My female cousin is 38 and lives in New York and she’s average looking but still manages 2000-3000 matches on tinder . Still men put her on a pedestal- in contrast in places like China and Hong Kong there’s a lot less good looking high smv women to go around due to the inequality of their economies so the women put a lot more effort in to dress and look after themselves. As not doing so will put themselves in jeopardy really . I see the same in Eastern Europe

the east and Asia is competitive and benefits men a lot

western Europe Canada , US and Australia will continue to benefit the women. I don’t see these dynamics shifting https://mindful-masculinity.org/202...analysis-of-moneysexual-market-value-and-pua/
I wrote a comprehensive analysis here and I’m currently writing another blog on the capitalistic nature of dating
 
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