what makes me become an emotional tampon?

[sandcastlebuilder]

hey guys been looking back on my life to try and fix everything that ive been doing wrong with myself and relationships.one thing i realise is that ive always had a lot of women friends and i have realised a lot of them have only given me interest because give them too much attention. i know what an emotional tampon is i just dont know why i do it any help?

 

[RangerMIke]

I suspect what you are doing is not communicating sexual interest. Do not be afraid of your masculinity, too many men today are so worried about how they are perceived and they are too timid. When you build rapport without expressing sexual interest, that is when you make friends with women.

When you meet a woman and build rapport, you have to put out the vib that you are interested in her sexually. You do this with body language and eye contact. She has to know you want to fvck her. At that point she is either going to respond favorably to what you are putting out, or not... if not she isn't interested you can make a friend or just walk away.

 

[Glassguy]

I agree with Ranger.

People are going to treat you the way you show them you want to be treated.

You are probably coming across as the ultra caring, open ear problem solver to women.

Let them know your intentions in a non degrading way and they will either accommodate that or they wont. Little effort and little wasted time.

 

[Initiatedindenial]

I suspect what you are doing is not communicating sexual interest. Do not be afraid of your masculinity, too many men today are so worried about how they are perceived and they are too timid. When you build rapport without expressing sexual interest, that is when you make friends with women.

When you meet a woman and build rapport, you have to put out the vib that you are interested in her sexually. You do this with body language and eye contact. She has to know you want to fvck her. At that point she is either going to respond favorably to what you are putting out, or not... if not she isn't interested you can make a friend or just walk away.

This is perfect.

 

[RangerMIke]

Let them know your intentions in a non degrading way and they will either accommodate that or they wont. Little effort and little wasted time.

This is really important, especially now a days. There is a careful line you can not cross otherwise you open yourself up to serious career consequences. You have to be good at reading female body language and facial expressions, not only to know when you are getting the green light and positive feedback, but also when you get a caution, or red light. You have to know how to pull back, being aggressive can be more damaging than helpful.

If you don't get a green light, there is NOTHING you can do to turn this around. The PUA pimps will tell you that it's possible to"game her" and "flip the set", which is complete BVLLSH!T. All you are going to do is waste your time, at best.... at worst be accused of sexual harassment. If you just met a chick you do not know who the fvck she is, you don't know who she works for, who her family is... nothing. There are three thing that can happen when a chick picks up on the vib that you want her:

1. Green light: She likes you and is interested. Get the number make a date.
2. Yellow Light: She likes the attention, but nothing is going to happen.. ask for the number, but don't be surprised if she flakes.
3. Red light: She does not like you and your approach is NOT welcome. Throw it into reverse and back the fvck out.

Rather than learning 'game' I would recommend to all men to learn body language. Knowing the difference between Red, Amber and Green is a lot more important than pretending to be confident.

 

[ThisNThat]

Rather than learning 'game' I would recommend to all men to learn body language. Knowing the difference between Red, Amber and Green is a lot more important than pretending to be confident.

Good post. Agreed on the PUA's who try to flip it around, regardless of the red light given.

 

[sandcastlebuilder]

thanks im curretly getting treatment for depression its the first time ive ever admitted to a doc that i have it and thats got to play a big part with having low self esteem i dont want to be like this anymore thats why im going to he docs its so hard to come out of it after decades