"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What makes females approach?

Machine10033

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I have noticed this happening more and more with me. just last night I was out with my buddies and was not interested in getting puss. Seriously wanted to eat and drink since I’m off today. In the bar there was a group of 21-23 year old chicks. My buddy said hey I think those girls are checking us out. Next thing i know the bartender comes over and says the girl over there bought you a drink. I smile and wave and she comes running over. 21 year old blonde... starts asking me if I’m married, flirting, I’m talking to her and feel a tap on my shoulder and it’s another girl from the group.. introducing herself.... I talk with her for a bit and the other girl goes to the bathroom...this girl says if you want a girl to date my friend is your girl but if you want a girl to have fun with I’m your girl... she gives me her number and goes to the other side of the bar.

I’m curious what makes girls approach me or other guys. It never happens to my friends.. they always have to make a move and talk with them. My friend pointed that out last night. I went to that bar looking and feeling like a 3/10.. I had a tee shirt on... old jeans... needed a haircut...had one eye that was bright red from blowing a vessel out lifting... it couldn’t have been looks last night.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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lamath

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might not be only your look,.
Body language,posture, your voice tone if you are funny when talking to your friend or if you sound intelligent etc
 

EyeBRollin

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Alpha men stick out like a sore thumb. If you’re being approached you’re doing something right! She’s also slightly masculine by approaching. She should be flirting instead.

I get approached by women both online and in social gatherings. Really all you have to do is lay back and qualify her.
 

Hamurabimbi

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Looks. I was out getting hot tea at a coffee shop earlier this year. I sat reading and drinking. I was sick. Feeling cranky and not wanting to talk to anyone. This girl came in. I noticed her, she was attractive, but I was not feeling well, I gave her a neutral glance and went back to reading. Needless to say she sat down near me and asked me what I was reading. So we talked. She was interested, but I couldn’t work up the energy.
The point is there was no alpha, no charisma, no game. Just me being sick and grumpy. I’m not saying I’m all that and a bag of chips, but she must have liked what she saw. If I felt better I would have pounced on the opportunity.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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wifehunter

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"What makes females approach?"

If you're a catch, they'll want to 'catch' you.
 

jaymbrs

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I have the male version of resting ***** face however I am attractive. I get told often that I look very intimidating. What works for me is my smile. It makes females “think” they’re special when I smile at them. That’s when I usually get approached. However I do have to initiate with that smile.
 

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Women always the one who initiate most of the first contact, wether direct approaches, giving subtle hints or being in your proximity for you to shoot your shot. It's good at any of this situation to start off something.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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