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What kind of women respond well to guys treating them nice?

big weezy

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What kind of women respond well to guys treating them nice?

Not too nice, I mean nicer than average. Are these girls normal or is there something fundamentally wrong with them?

Even girls who have been treated like sh1t by their ex's go back to guys who treat them the same way. Are they just fed up of being treated badly they try a nice guy but will inevitably go back to jerks??
 

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There are lots of decent, sane, grown women out there who don't want some jerk playing games with them.

Your goal is to be confident, independent, and have standards and beliefs that you are passionate about. A "normal" woman wants this kind of guy. But in your journeys, you're going to come across a few girls here and there who love drama and want to chase jerks.

In summary, you can be a nice guy without being a pushover. Just make sure that your version of "nice" involves being a confident, passionate man. Normal "non-crazy" girls will pick up on it.
 

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You can be nice as sh!t, just don't be needy. There always has to be a balance as well. You dont have to be a jerk, but just produce negative emotions in her as well. That's been my mistake, I've been too nice.

Girls become attracted to me due to my ****y/funny attitude. Then when they like me I usually don't make fun of them anymore, so all I give them are positive positive positive emotions. Sure, writing them a poem is great! But next time I'm going to write the girl a poem and then ignore her for a little bit. They crave that roller coaster of feelings. It's stupid, but that's just the way it is.

Look at it this way. You know if you were dating a girl and then if you saw a nice fat roll develop on her stomach, you'd lose attraction for her? Well that's what happens to a girl when you stay the nice guy.

Nice guys finish last. I speak from experience.
 

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nice guys are like the equivalent of fat chicks to women. After a certain age, when they wanna settle down most girls grow past that jerk fever phase and pick up a nice guy to settle down with and enslave.
 

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Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I find girls who are like nice guys are the more independent ones.. The ones that are in charge (or at least think they are in charge). I know cause that is one of the reasons I am on here. I think those girls are such a pain in the ass and that's who I have always ended up dating. They are the ones you don't need to be overconfident because they think more logically.
 

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alwayslead8821 said:
I find girls who are like nice guys are the more independent ones.. The ones that are in charge (or at least think they are in charge). I know cause that is one of the reasons I am on here. I think those girls are such a pain in the ass and that's who I have always ended up dating. They are the ones you don't need to be overconfident because they think more logically.
can you explain more man. i really want to know what you're saying, but cant quite get it..

you think independent women are like nice guys?

then you think independent women are a pain in the ass because they think more logically? but you dont have to be overconfident around them?

maybe i'm just stoned.. but i tried to read carefully
 

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Define what you mean by *nice.*
 

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Ah this is the topic I have always pondered on. Well heres the thing girls say they want the nice, but go for the jerks. My thought is what if you were right in the middle? That would make you the boss and every girl would love to get to know you. When I say in the middle, its like being confident, do what you want to do, be a man :p, and actually just have fun in life. The nice side you use, holding doors for women, and not being an *******. This whole concept had me stumped for a looonnnngggg time.
 

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I think all girls love nice guys. But quality girls dont like insecure guys. Insecure guys are usually desperate and try to be extra nice in order to be accepted.
The bottom line is that people (specially women) can see thru this bull****.
Know the difference between genuine nice and desperate nice. This is the key.
Do certain girls like desperate nice guys? only the desperate girls, they ignore your desperation because they are also desperate for companionship. These are the chicks that are at the bottom of the barrel in looks and personality.
 
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Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To answer your question with the closest thing to a description of the kind of girl:
She must have high self-esteem (a low self-esteem girl will not feel worthy of niceness)
She must have a Low sex-drive (just trust me)

What you have to do is not be a push-over. You may be nice and do things that you want to do. But you need boundaries and you need to lead.
 

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big weezy said:
What kind of women respond well to guys treating them nice?

Not too nice, I mean nicer than average. Are these girls normal or is there something fundamentally wrong with them?

Even girls who have been treated like sh1t by their ex's go back to guys who treat them the same way. Are they just fed up of being treated badly they try a nice guy but will inevitably go back to jerks??
Women don't respond well to pushovers.


You can be nice and not be a pushover. When you know how to do that, you enter the realm of the ladies' man
 
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