Nostalgic. said:
You ALL seriously need a big ****ing WAKE UP CALL. You should NEVER say "I love you" first to a girl, EVER. Let her do the chasing in the relationship, because IT IS THE ONLY WAY that YOU WILL HAVE THE POWER IN IT. You will have CONTROL of her emotions and can be the FIRST to walk away, since she took things to the next level and NOT you- in fact you should ALWAYS BE IN CONTROL (not her), since you're the MAN of the relationship.
I should also give you the sad, but true revelation about women and "love". Women DO NOT "love" us, EVER. It is all a lie, perpetuated by the media and society to keep men under control and women empowered by their feminist agendas. If they really loved us (as they claim to), they would NEVER leave us because love is unconditional and the so-called "love" that women FEEL for us (at times) is purely conditional (and usually only AFTER we have ****ed their brains out good and hard)- that you keep doing things for her, that you give her a "GOOD, HARD, ****ING", that you continue to be THE MAN in the relationship (which you are clearly not)...blahh blahh blahh.
It's all bull****. Don't ever believe it. EVER. The truth is women only "love" (rather, desire) what they CANNOT HAVE and as myself and others have pointed out here: "they are like cats". They hate attention- when they don't get it, they crave it MUCH MUCH more. I know it sucks to surrender to the sad, cold, harsh truth, but until you do, women will ALWAYS mess you around, use you and PRETEND to love you ONLY so they are getting what they want from you- they are manipulative, cold, deceitful, merciless creatures (if you give them the power) and in my honest opinion should NEVER be trusted- at least not fully.
I'm not saying you should treat them like dirt (I'm not a misogynist), just don't give yourself to them emotionally (THIS IS THEIR JOB, NOT YOURS)- don't say "I love you", don't say "you're my everything" ; DONT EVER give any indication that this girl has you under her thumb (emotionally), because when you do, sadly that's when she begins to "lose attraction", and starts the manipulation and games until something "better" comes along (usually some narcissistic emotionally unavailable, condescending ******* who only wants to **** and dump her). Yeah women really do consider that "better"- ****ed up I know, but its because that guy is MASCULINE and not FEMININE in the slightest. Giving "emotional" support is a FEMININE trait and it turns women off quicker than a 400lb, 50 year old asking us for a rimjob (and you should consider doing this for her once in a while- they LOVE it). It is the WOMAN'S JOB in a relationship to provide emotional support, NOT the MAN'S. The so called "in love" FEELINGS women have for us are nothing more than a strong SEXUAL ATTRACTION towards us and when that goes, so does their so-called "love".
The TRUTH is you CANNOT be EMOTIONAL with a woman if you want to KEEP HER ATTRACTED (not "in love"). MEN ARE NOT MEANT TO BE EMOTIONAL: Let me repeat that "MEN ARE NOT MEANT TO BE EMOTIONAL". The only emotional support you should provide is hugging her when SHE COMES TO YOU- DO NOT GO TO HER (signals emotional "neediness"). Hugging is the only thing that produces the "emotional" feelings (oxytocin) that makes a couple bond emotionally ("in love" feelings, supposedly)- rather it makes HER bond emotionally with YOU (become more attracted), but as long as you keep hugging her ONLY if and when SHE wants it (offer emotional support, NOT "neediness") after ****ING HER BRAINS OUT (yes, I mean it), she will REMAIN attracted to you. However, as soon as you start opening up emotionally to her (her job in the relationship), SHE will BEGIN to LOSE ATTRACTION for YOU and the more you keep it up, the less attracted to you she will become until she is no longer "in love" (the classic line) with you. This is just the way woman are wired and I'll explain why below.
Here is a little history and evolutionary psychology as to why this is the case and why we men have BEEN LIED TO (big time), by the media and society about what women want (supposedly). For centuries, men have been the hunters (providers for their family), women the gatherers (nurturers of the family). This means that men took all the risks (did all the killing etc and sometimes got killed in the process), ****ed the women (more like raped them) and afterwards it was the WOMAN'S JOB to "keep the MAN interested in HER", so that he would "provide for HER" and "protect HER".
This means it was HER JOB to provide EMOTIONAL SUPPORT- hugging, saying "I love you" in ugginese (caveman language), because if she didn't (after he ****ed her) her and her child were often at risk from danger, often by a sabretooth tiger surveying the landscape for a "tasty morsel". Thus she knew (instinctively) that in order for the man to WANT to protect her/her child, she had to nurture them (provide emotional support) as this was the primary switch that signalled to the man (in is small brain) that it was the only way to preserve the caveman/woman race (nothing more than a survival instinct), and so he would continue to protect her/her child from danger and also continue ****ing her (raping her) brains out to produce more offspring.
This is the way it has been from the beginning of time and I FIRMLY believe this is the way it STILL IS. Sexual attraction for men and women is still primal (as it always has been); that means men are attracted to "tits and ass" (beauty), women are attracted to MASCULINE qualities like strength/courage/dominance etc, NOT emotional 'neediness' and when we become emotionally needy (their job) it signals to their primal brain that we are 'weak males' that can no longer protect/provide for her/her offspring.
The problem is that as human intelligence has evolved men/women have constructed "theories" about what they want/don't want in relationships and what attracts them to each other (usually bull****), but the truth is the VAST MAJORITY of them have NO CLUE whatsoever, but thanks to evolutionary psychology, we now understand a lot more than we used to, but the majority of us are still "in the dark" about it. Thankfully I am here to impart these "words of wisdom" on some poor dudes here who are getting "***** whipped", emotionally manipulated, cheated on and denied of sex (one of the biggest human needs). I am going to plug you all "into the matrix" of alpha-maleness and you are going to start having the best sex/relationships with women that is humanly possible.
The saying that "nice guys finish last" (the emotionally needy) IS and ALWAYS WILL BE true- why? because "jerks" or "*******s" are not EMOTIONALLY NEEDY- they are MASCULINE and at a "primal" level this is what ALL WOMEN want in a man, regardless of what they SAY they want- DON'T EVER ****ING LISTEN TO THEM- ONLY judge them by their ACTIONS. They simply have NO ****ing clue what they WANT in us- they are "socially conditioned" to BELIEVE the qualities that they WANT, which are usually the exacting ****ing OPPOSITE from nice, caring, emotional, empathic- utter mother****ing bull**** and ALL FEMININE traits.
My advice to you and like others have stated here several times already; you are NEEDY AS **** and NEED to BACK THE **** OFF. You need to STOP being EMOTIONAL: stop saying I "love you", stop giving her hugs/kisses (give them ONLY if and when SHE wants them). You need to start being emotionally DISTANT (and remain that way) and she will come running back to you in a heart beat, but you should also continue to **** her brains out- DO NOT ask her for sex, just dominate her (throw her up against the wall and start eating her *****) or throw her on the bed, rip her panties off and proceed to **** HER HARD doggystyle (animalistic and primal)- DO NOT EVER ASK FOR SEX, EVER. That should definitely bring some of the attraction back (as it will signal to her primal brain that you are indeed a dominant/alpha male- who knows that he does not EVER need to ASK for sex), at least until you become all lovey-dovey/mushy/emotionally "needy" with her again or ASK her for sex again.
Here are the ways that you express your love to a woman, not be emotionally needy, keep her attracted to you and BEGGING you for sex:
1. **** her brains out as much AND as HARD as possible. Make sure you make her orgasm and try and make it more than once; if you cannot make her orgasm with penetration, learn to be a master at ****oral and g-spot stimulation with your fingers and tongue. You should also NEVER ask her for sex, ever. If you want sex, initiate it with her (sexually dominate her).
I also advise that you make the sex as dirty and kinky as possible (not necessarily all the time)- this means eating her ***** AND her ass (a rimjob), but make sure she cleans it out FIRST. If this disgusts you it is ok, but women love it in my experience. In short, do not NEGLECT any part of her body (women secretly resent men who do this). Women WANT to be treated like porn stars in the bedroom and WANT to participate in dirty/kinky acts (like rimjobs). Read "My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday to see what I mean.
