What kind of game is this?

[Bigdavis]

I'm bored because I'm not going out for dollar night tonight since there are storms around, so I'm going to run a scenario by you guys. It's gonna be kind of long...

Back in January the girl I was seeing called me while I was at this bar hanging out with friends... I asked her if she wanted to get together that weekend and she gave me the ole "I don't know, we'll have to see what's going on" line... Knowing exactly what that meant I said "NEXT" and proceeded to chat this tiny little 5'3'', 100lb blond up.

I was making good headway and she seemed to be into me so I popped for the number and she said "I would but I'm kinda seeing somone and I don't think that would be cool to give you my number right now". I couldn't tell if she was just blowing me off or if she really was seeing someone but it didn't matter to me either way. I knew she was in there all the time so I figured I'd see her again.

For the next few weeks I'd see her in there maybe once a week and she'd always make a point to come over and talk to me. And she's really cool and down to earth, not one of those annoying spoild *****es... So this one time she was telling me about this spot she sometimes goes on tuesday nights and I told her to give me her number and i'd text her the next tuesday to see if she was there... and she said "I can't, remember i'm dating someone"

Later on I kinda laid off going to that spot for a while, started seeing some other chicks and then the other night I was in there and her and I were talking I asked her if she was still seeing that guy and she said "Yeah but probably not for much longer"

So anyway last friday night I saw her at an after hours club and she told me she wasn't seeing that guy anymore and I was like "Oh yeah? So i guess you can give me your number now" and she said "YEAH!". So i pulled out my phone and she said "No, i'll write it down for you" (why i have no idea! WTF?)

She hung with me the whole night until closing at 5:00 and then even went to Waffle house with me and my two friends. Both of my friends could totally tell she was into me. They were like no way a girl would stay out this late with you and go to frickin waffle house if she wasn't interested. But I still didn't get a number. (Never asked while we were at the waffle house because i didn't want to seem to eager)

As we were parting ways at Waffle house she told me she'd be at our normal spot the next night and I told her I'd come by and she said "SWEET!" I came by and she talked to me but still she never offered up the phone number. (And I didn't ask, Once again I didn't want to be to eager) That night she told me she was going to be at this other spot on Tuesday so last night I went and she hung with me most of the night and it was very obvious she's into me... As i was leaving gave me a kiss and as she was holding me in a long hug I whispered in her ear "Are you ever gonna give me that number?" and she said:

"That's the plan"



I still don't have this girls number... WTF?

 

[( . )( . )]

Stick a fork in it, this ones done.

NEXT!!

I couldn't tell if she was just blowing me off or if she really was seeing someone but it didn't matter to me either way.

Well it should, theyre both blow off's. "Boyfriend" lol.

I cant gauge what your like game wise but your post reeks of desperado, ask the b!tch once and only once for her number end of story.

And I see no indication in that post of her being "totally into you".

This is textbook oneitis, plain and simple.

"Are you ever gonna give me that number?" and she said:

"That's the plan"

Mary wept Here's a better plan, dont fvck around till 5 am with a chick ever again. The hotties are usually back by midnight getting railed by some azzhole, what's your excuse for wasting this poor chicks time?

 

[Bigdavis]

NEXT!!



Well it should, theyre both blow off's. "Boyfriend" lol.

I cant gauge what your like game wise but your post reeks of desperado, ask the b!tch once and only once for her number end of story.

And I see no indication in that post of her being "totally into you".

This is textbook oneitis, plain and simple.



Mary wept Here's a better plan, dont fvck around till 5 am with a chick ever again. The hotties are usually back by midnight getting railed by some azzhole, what's your excuse for wasting this poor chicks time?

I guess in my post you can't see her sitting on my lap. I'm not kicking it with her the whole night buying her drinks and ****... I'm doing my own thing, dancing with chicks, chatting up girls but she keeps coming back over to me.

Trust me I'm not fawning over this chick like a lost puppy dog. I've been around here for a while I know how it's played. I'm just intrigued by the fact that this chick is not shooting me down, she's not telling me no she's just playing some kind of cutesy game. I'm a good looking guy that has no problems getting chicks, usually they offer their number and I never call. Whatever this one is doing is working because it's keeping my interest for more than a few minutes...

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

This thread might as well be closed now since (.)(.) pretty much summed the whole thing up in 1 post.

I have my own personal 2 strike rule which you should consider. If I ask for contact info and don't receive it, if I want the girl and see myself with any chance I will ask her out some other day. This is solely based on the read I get on the girl and if I see that she might have interest. That is the only way to clear up if there can be any kind of romantic relationship. If she says no that is strike 2. This is way better than asking for a number 3 times and still not knowing if she is interested. If she is interested she might not give you a number the first time but that can be forgiven if she agrees to go out with you in your second attempt.

I personally wouldn't hang out or be friends with a girl that refused to give me her number.

 

[Bigdavis]

This thread might as well be closed now since (.)(.) pretty much summed the whole thing up in 1 post.

I have my own personal 2 strike rule which you should consider. If I ask for contact info and don't receive it, if I want the girl and see myself with any chance I will ask her out later. That is the only way to clear up if there can be any kind of romantic relationship. If she says no that is strike 2. This is way better than asking for a number 3 times and still not knowing if she is interested. If she is interested she might not give you a number the first time but that can be forgiven if she agrees to go out with you in your second attempt.

I personally wouldn't hang out or be friends with a girl that refused to give me her number.

That's just it. She's not refusing.

It would be different if I was buying her drinks and stuff I would totally get it. But I've never bought this chick anything. I sit and laugh while other dudes buy her drinks and then she comes and dances on my crotch.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

That's just it. She's not refusing.

she is if she doesn't give you the number the second time you ask/refuses a date with you alone after you ask for a number the first time and were refused.

 

[Bigdavis]

she is if she doesn't give you the number the second time you ask/refuses a date with you alone after you ask for a number the first time and were refused.

I've already decided I'm not going to ask again. I'll stick with my normal routine and I know she'll run into me again. Guess we'll see how it plays out. In the meantime I'll be ****ing other chicks.

I guess on hindsite I didn't really need advice I know what i'm doing I've just never seen a chick quite act like this, so I was wondering if anyone else has ever seen it. I mean if you're around chicks enough it's not hard to tell when they're into you. Especially if you're like me and hardly ever buy chicks drinks because if you're buying drinks they might act like they're into you just to keep you around.

 

[( . )( . )]

I guess in my post you can't see her sitting on my lap.

Look mate chicks do that sort of thing all the time to lots of guys, it means zip, this goes ten fold when they are out.

I'm not kicking it with her the whole night buying her drinks and ****... I'm doing my own thing, dancing with chicks, chatting up girls but she keeps coming back over to me.

Great, then this one chick should be irrelevant.

I'm not saying she has zero interest in you, I'm saying it's not enough for you to give a fvck about.

 

[Bigdavis]

Look mate chicks do that sort of thing all the time to lots of guys, it means zip, this goes ten fold when they are out.



Great, then this one chick should be irrelevant.

I'm not saying she has zero interest in you, I'm saying it's not enough for you to give a fvck about.

The fact that she's not begging me to call her is exactly what's piqued my interest enough to actually type about it. If she had given me her number up front I might have called, made a date, ****ed her a few times and moved on. Then again I may have never called...

I'll tell you this much when she does give it to me, I'll call her. I earned that number damn it!!!

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

That is the way to go but you have to realize your value in her eyes is low and she has built up her ego. Refusing to give out the digits and making guys suffer builds up women's egos (sick but true). So while she might seem confusing to you in her mind she has done something that made herself feel better.

 

[Jitterbug]

This chick is giving you a sh!t test. The 2nd time she pulled "that oh yeah I'll give you my number - hang on, shiny things! Be right back" BS, you should've put your foot down and told her to do it now, or stop wasting your time.

 

[schttrj]

well, Bigdavis, simple and straight to u, dont mind anyways, buddy....


u acted like a wuss, to start with and she started playing with u but u only have been her acquaintance, nothing more than that. she needed to have fun and she had that.

secondly, the plan is when u first meet a girl, its not the number u want, its her pvssy u want, so go for that. if she doesnt give her number, fvck it. just get as close as possible to the CLOSE as fast as u can. thats it. why would u keep askin her number in each and every meet with her? u should have probably started kino and gone for the kiss at the right moment. And while u hang out till 5am even if u dont do any kind of nice guy stuff, LEARN TO CUT UR SUPPLY TO GIVE HER THE CHALLENGE THING!

 

[ketostix]

OK I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that not every girl is blowing you off with the boyfriend line although most are, and not every girl is up for same night pulls and ONS, though many are if they're attracted enough and led properly. But then you run into buyer's remorse more. Although I do think you are letting her slow this down to the point of becoming a friends zone situation. You need to confidentily push your agenda and if she doesn't comply, pull back, push/pull basically. What she's doing isn't all that unusual. Girls are always trying to slow things down.

 

[schttrj]

OK I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that not every girl is blowing you off with the boyfriend line although most are, and not every girl is up for same night pulls and ONS, though many are if they're attracted enough and led properly. But then you run into buyer's remorse more. Although I do think you are letting her slow this down to the point of becoming a friends zone situation. You need to confidentily push your agenda and if she doesn't comply, pull back, push/pull basically. What she's doing isn't all that unusual. Girls are always trying to slow things down.

keto, do u think she is testing him and might give him a chance? i think its better to give a specific reply to this guy. girls are so different, some need ONS and some need to show u to her parents to let u take her, im talking about that.

 

[Bigdavis]

OK I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that not every girl is blowing you off with the boyfriend line although most are, and not every girl is up for same night pulls and ONS, though many are if they're attracted enough and led properly. But then you run into buyer's remorse more. Although I do think you are letting her slow this down to the point of becoming a friends zone situation. You need to confidentily push your agenda and if she doesn't comply, pull back, push/pull basically. What she's doing isn't all that unusual. Girls are always trying to slow things down.

I agree with this, I know for a fact she was dating someone up until a couple of weeks ago. They weren't real serious but whatever... It's kind of funny how she came and found me in a crowded club last friday night which would have been not long after they stopped seeing each other and at times followed me around like a lost kitten.

I think it's a little weird that she's being catty about giving up digits but I'm not really discouraged. It seems like she's just trying to take things slow because she seems really enthusiastic about me... But the bottom line is If I don't get her there are at least 100,000 other chicks in my city.

 

[schttrj]

isnt it funny, that a guy puts forth a situation and we are all starting to analyse what can it be. come on guys, what i feel is right for this situation is not what she thinks or whether she is testing or not, i feel better he has gotta try to take it to the next level, if he can, good and if she still plays games or u think she is testing u, dont give up since a rule fo the thumb: even a bit testing from a woman means she is at least a speck bit attracted to you. but it is absolutely futile if u see she is just toying around waiting for the next MAN to cmoe her way, then u gotta show her the MAN! thats it. see bigdavis, u lead and control the situation, its not like she acts and you react. tehn u are falling into her trap.