what kind of change

[surface1030]

i hear everywhere, if you want your life to change, YOU need to change. i havn't had a girlfriend for 3.5 years. i have trouble finding girlfriends i dont know why. i know alot of girls at my school. we talk a lot. i dont usually go to parties cause of all the stupid idiots who do drugs and drink and mess around. im nice, caring. i dress nice. i dont know what to chance about me in order to get a girlfriend. maybe i'm doing everything right but i just cant find the right girl? i dont know. anybody here had experience of the way i'm feelin?

 

[AlexTheGreat]

From the looks of your post, I'd say you're pretty desperate to get a girlfriend ... Thing is, and it's been stated, girls have a sort of "despe-radar", and can spot if you're too needy or looking very easily.

The best way would be to ask some of those girls what they think of you, I'd say. Ask a girl you know has no interest in you, and you know you aren't interested in, that you are very open with, if she can tell you why she wouldn't go out with you. Maybe just ask her hypothetically or something, but just get some info on what's wrong with you. Then, you will have some knowledge of what you need to change, and can start the transformation. .

Before doing this, though, what answers do you get from girls when you do ask them out ?

 

[Wiesman44]

Dude, your boring. Your "nice" , you dress good, u dont drink. Who the hell wants a guy like that in high school. All my buddies were smoking, drinking, and playing poker in high school. Great times. We didnt turn out like dead beats. Every one of us are in college. Most people experiment with drinking in high school. If you dont like drinking, no offense bro, but your gonna turn out like one of those "nerdy guys" w/ few friends. Now im not saying u have to turn into an alcoholic. Go to the parties, drink a beer or two, and socialize. Thats what high school is, socializing. Show how much fun you can be at the parties. Thats where you mingle and meet new people.

 

[JSH]

Alex: Despe radar - , mad props


As Wiseman so succintly put it, your boring. However, in order to be attractive you do not have to follow his advice. Whilst it may not **** up your life, it might if you do it out of a kind of sense of peer pressure. Do what you want to do, but have a life, enjoy yourself. be someone that you would want to spend time with.

 

[jonny football hero]

I don't agree that you are boring. I think the first thing you need to do is stop wanting a girlfriend. A g/f, as nice as they are, won't complete your life.
It doesn't matter that you don't go to parties, as long as you are doing other stuff, not just sat at home. Get a hobby that takes up all of your time.
I also don't agree with the "not drinking makes you a p$ssy", i don't drink, i just dont like it and i'm fine (sure i have a few beers, but i never get rat-arsed). If you don't feel right about going to parties, for the love of god don't go. You'll spend the whole time wishing you wern't there.
Work on the conversation, get some friends out of shcool and you'll be great.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

same here, i hardly drink ever, sure i go to parties, most people drink, i dont, does it make a diffrnece, mo mot at all, i know a few other guys that dont drink aswell. Know one cares weather or not your drink.

As for improving, you have to stop wanting girls, stop chasing, aswell as doing all the rest of the DJ stuff which you can find out more about in the DJ bible such as being confident.

hope iv been a help