She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Im in the same boat as you buddy...i would LOVE a job hat lets me travel...ever thought about teaching english overseas? but then again that would require you to live in that country for a certain period of time, id much rather prefer 2 weeks stays or something like that and move to the next location.Viking25 said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why not fly the airplanes? Or international escort.Viking25 said:
BA in what? And I want to do the same thing. I'm looking into International Sales Representative and Market Researcher (who don't travel as much as a sales rep. oh well) But I have a nack for getting people to buy things they don't want/need so I figured this would be a good job for me. I like to B.S.:yes:Viking25 said:
so hows it going with that? are you acting on that idea? or just pondering?jbbrain said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I was talking to that other guy...but now to you...Viking25 said:
Anyways, statistics is used greatly in Market Research.