"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I text this girl I haven't talked to in awhile and ask her to hangout this weekend. She agrees, and I tell her we're going ice skating then to see a movie. She says yes. This is where sh*t hits the fan.

So I tell her we're seeing a scary movie, then she tells me we're seeing this Romance movie. Anyways, she calls me and tells me that we're no longer going ice skating, but going to the movies with like 5 other people I don't even know. I ask her why we're going to the movie with so many other people now, and she says "Is there a problem? You can meet new people."

Should I just tell her I'm not going and just move onto a new girl this weekend, or talk to her about it at school? I'm not in the mood to get ****blocked
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Naozumie said:
So I text this girl I haven't talked to in awhile and ask her to hangout this weekend. She agrees, and I tell her we're going ice skating then to see a movie. She says yes. This is where sh*t hits the fan.

So I tell her we're seeing a scary movie, then she tells me we're seeing this Romance movie. Anyways, she calls me and tells me that we're no longer going ice skating, but going to the movies with like 5 other people I don't even know. I ask her why we're going to the movie with so many other people now, and she says "Is there a problem? You can meet new people."

Should I just tell her I'm not going and just move onto a new girl this weekend, or talk to her about it at school? I'm not in the mood to get ****blocked
Tell her that's not what you expected, and tell it to her straight, that you have no intentions of hanging around in a group scenario. She will either GTFO (Which might be what she intends to do, but no loss for you there.) Or she will respect you more.
Don't let no bvtch treat you like a *****, slash until you're cash.
 

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^^ yup.
Gotta say she doesn't sound full of interest here cuz.

If she don't wanna meet you alone, and she's already taking control of YOUR plans......

I would say, "well maybe some other time then".

And then delete the number.

She doesn't respect you or your decisions.
She doesn't want to be alone with you.
She can fvck off back where she came from.

Be a man and walk away.

That's unless there's more to this story? Some details left out that change the whole thing?
 

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Purefilth said:
^^ yup.
Gotta say she doesn't sound full of interest here cuz.

If she don't wanna meet you alone, and she's already taking control of YOUR plans......

I would say, "well maybe some other time then".

And then delete the number.

She doesn't respect you or your decisions.
She doesn't want to be alone with you.
She can fvck off back where she came from.

Be a man and walk away.

That's unless there's more to this story? Some details left out that change the whole thing?
Yeah, I decided to move onto the next one. That was all of the details.
 

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Yeah, I decided to move onto the next one. That was all of the details.
Thats a little too much. If you are going to say next to every single girl who doesn't behave exactly as planned you're going to have a hard time, and be a lonely dude. Just tell her something popped up last minute and reschedule.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well, I decided to give her one more go. I called her and told her I had something come up so I can't hangout with her. She said it was fine and told me that it's her birthday this weekend, that's why she changed plans on me. So I told her we're going to hangout next Satuday since I have track practice Friday. She said that sounds great.

So hopefully things go according to what is planned next weekend. Would you suggest little contact through text, since I don't want to give her too much attention. Or am I just over analyzing because she already agreed?
 

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I would contact her through text at least once between now and then. That's like 10 days from now. If she's a HB she could meet a new guy and hook up between now and then.
 
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