“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I feel there is a need for something like this right now. Too much general advice is offered which isnt applied to anything in particular.


Lets rock:


If a guy continiously asks to meet your friends... he feels you arent good enough for him and he wants something better. (hopes you have hot friends he can get with)

Girls talk about sex. Always do a great job in bed. Her friends might get interested... entertain the idea of brining a girl she finds attractive for a threesome.

Never say to a girl "I heard you wanted to meet me/get to know me" or "I heard you wanted me" even if she was saying it all night to her friends, she will deny it to save her face..which is childish but so are women. ;)

Take control in the bedroom. If you dont, she will find someone who will.
You hate "cold fish" in your bed, then stop acting like one yourself.. not all girls are closet pornostars, but all enjoy variety. If you want to impress a girl, do a position she wouldnt normally expect, she will think you've gotten around, this works even if this is the first time you've done this. (I sometimes stand up, grab the girl's butt in my hands and make her lock hands around my neck.. then let her go up and down while im standing up)

Dont ask a girl what she is thinking of you/what she thinks of the relationship. You are not a girl, stop thinking like one.


Dont be afraid to call her when you dont have a plan. Some of the best times i've had out on dates were when we thought of something after we met for coffee.

Women dont think about your penis until the moment they actually see it for the first time. Unless you are really disfigured down there, stop worrying about it. (credit- wyldfire)

Waiting a number of days to call is nonsense. Call her when you feel like it, just dont call her every single time you think of sex.


When she is calling and you dont feel like talking, dont pick up. If you are busy with something else, dont pick up. You need some space. Let her wonder what the hell you are up to.


Smiling is great. People who say stop smiling should go to the dentist. People feel better when they smile, so do it.


Vary where you have sex. Some places to consider are: Public park after dark, beach, camping trip ( Go overnight somewhere close, ****fest guranteed) drive in movies, your house with parents being able to bust in on you ;)


Little liquor does wonders in progressing the sexual attraction. Remember, Drunk girl's words are Sober girl's thoughts.



Always have integrity. Cheating on a girl you commited to is not suave. Making a drunk girl cheat on her boyfriend isnt either.


To truly be good with multiple women, you must know how to make each one feel special, even if she doesnt mean anything to you. Everyone wants to feel good about themselves.

"I got other women" approach works only to some extend..usually doesnt get you very far.


Pickup lines are a joke, there are none.


If you ever wonder how you feel about a girl, ask yourself this "Do i want anything besides sex from her?" If the answer is no, then you just want sex .. keep it simple stupid.


Nobody really cares how many women you have slept with. Only the good ones should matter. Quality over quantity, always.



Don't give in too soon when she says you are doing something wrong. See if it is true for yourself, then reconsider.

If you are not in a LTR, stop giving a sh1t about what she thinks about your car/music/friends.

Dont say "Come over to fukk" when calling her. Say "let's hang out". She already knows what you are up to. (Really stupid/innocent girls sometimes fail to notice.)

There are ALWAYS some strings. Even if it is a one night stand, there are some strings... If you have a ****buddy, there is a VERY good chance she will want to be more than that as time goes on.

Lastly. This is your life. Dont change yourself to fit every girl you like, this will turn your life into chaos. Attract the girls you connect with, and dont worry about the ones who dont click with you.



-Oxide
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by Oxide

Lastly. This is your life. Dont change yourself to fit every girl you like, this will turn your life into chaos. Attract the girls you connect with, and dont worry about the ones who dont click with you.
WORD!
 

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Most of this is true, some commentary and disagreements:

1. Girls that talk about sex; Well not going to say they're great in bed but tend to be be more open about different things.

2. Waiting a couple days is not nonsense. Nothing wrong about waiting 1-2 days after getting number. But after that the girl will think you're disinterested, playing around, etc.

3. Various places to have sex. Ehhh, it's not that big of a deal.

4. Being good with women. Other than talking to them or trying to have a conversation. Who cares?

5. I like that question "Is there anything you want besides sex" from this girl.
 

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I don't give out many compliments. But you earned this one. Good job.
 

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-November:

Drinking a lot of liquor and sarging is a horrible mix... I almost bagged a warpig with a kid last weekend. No more vodka sours.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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-November 2006

Trying to fit with other guys and just sit there and act "cool" is the stupidest society fed - mental herd idea I've ever experienced.

Last night. Coyotee Ugly. 90% of the dudes sit there and drink their beer, afraid to talk to girls. We have 20 girls with us. Like THREE get approached when they leave the herd.

So do what you like. If you want to go on the dancefloor and dance, do it. If you don't - dont. Don't EVER feel the societal pressure to do anything or let anyone pressure you into doing something. (unless its someone who knows what they are talking about and they are trying to help you.. be careful here)

Sh1t... I got into one of the hottest spots downtown chicago last night.. FOR FREE with a secret password some girl gave me right before we went in. Did I let loose and have fun? Did I try to chat up bartenders who were giving me some looks? Did I enjoy myself even though it was an asian night And I was in the top 3% of height demographic?

No. I walked around. Stood like an idiot. Didnt approach any girls. Wow...


So DO NOT TRY TO FIT IN AND BE LIKE OTHER LOSERS. Eventually you will figure out how to fit in with the cool people and it will be alright. But always, always remember, even the cool people are often retarded, and have herd mentality. Pretty much everything is controlled by the Pu$$y effect. Guys act a certain way with girls. Girls are dumb and vapid - guys continue to act nice and pretend they care.... ughhhhhh

So just enjoy your life, love your life, have fun and don't worry about what ANYONE really thinks cause chances are that is exactly what they are doing at the moment - caring.
 

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Oxide said:
If a guy continiously asks to meet your friends... he feels you arent good enough for him and he wants something better. (hopes you have hot friends he can get with)
I think there are a good bit of cases where women relate how serious they are about you based on what they know of your life. If they dont know your friends, she thinks she is just a thing you working on the side

Dont ask a girl what she is thinking of you/what she thinks of the relationship. You are not a girl, stop thinking like one.
real talk

When she is calling and you dont feel like talking, dont pick up. If you are busy with something else, dont pick up. You need some space. Let her wonder what the hell you are up to.
yup

To truly be good with multiple women, you must know how to make each one feel special, even if she doesnt mean anything to you. Everyone wants to feel good about themselves.
The "I got other women" approach works only to some extend..usually doesnt get you very far.
good solid stuff here

There are ALWAYS some strings. Even if it is a one night stand, there are some strings... If you have a ****buddy, there is a VERY good chance she will want to be more than that as time goes on.
yea i think it is because you treat a FB as just another person and she isnt used to that
-Oxide
good stuff...just reiterated the best stuff imo
 

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some great advice here
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Oxide, you've been around for years... one of the few posters that I would give props to.
 

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Oxide said:
-November 2006

Trying to fit with other guys and just sit there and act "cool" is the stupidest society fed - mental herd idea I've ever experienced.

Last night. Coyotee Ugly. 90% of the dudes sit there and drink their beer, afraid to talk to girls. We have 20 girls with us. Like THREE get approached when they leave the herd.

So do what you like. If you want to go on the dancefloor and dance, do it. If you don't - dont. Don't EVER feel the societal pressure to do anything or let anyone pressure you into doing something. (unless its someone who knows what they are talking about and they are trying to help you.. be careful here)

Sh1t... I got into one of the hottest spots downtown chicago last night.. FOR FREE with a secret password some girl gave me right before we went in. Did I let loose and have fun? Did I try to chat up bartenders who were giving me some looks? Did I enjoy myself even though it was an asian night And I was in the top 3% of height demographic?

No. I walked around. Stood like an idiot. Didnt approach any girls. Wow...


So DO NOT TRY TO FIT IN AND BE LIKE OTHER LOSERS. Eventually you will figure out how to fit in with the cool people and it will be alright. But always, always remember, even the cool people are often retarded, and have herd mentality. Pretty much everything is controlled by the Pu$$y effect. Guys act a certain way with girls. Girls are dumb and vapid - guys continue to act nice and pretend they care.... ughhhhhh

So just enjoy your life, love your life, have fun and don't worry about what ANYONE really thinks cause chances are that is exactly what they are doing at the moment - caring.
So, when you in a group of lame people and there are girls...what do you do? You just sit aside thinking "Not my crowd..."? Girls won't like that.
 

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Babnik said:
So, when you in a group of lame people and there are girls...what do you do? You just sit aside thinking "Not my crowd..."? Girls won't like that.

who cares what girls like?
 

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Babnik, Dude... wtf are you on right now... were you telling him that he's AFC for not caring what the girls like?? I hate to break it, but 'when you live for everyone else you become a prisoner of your own mind.' I'd say that more closely resembles the reality of an AFC.

Or were you trying to get the point across that the last guys comment is AFC?? Nah... who gives a shyt about what a woman really wants except in what will get you further with her, if you want that.

or even was that not sarcasm and you really like being AFC? This one I could almost believe cause with the questions I see you asking, you clearly don't have a huge grasp on this whole 'DJ' mentality... not to say that you never get laid or anything, but if you really like where you're at why would you want to improve anyway?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So pimp its scary said:
Babnik, Dude... wtf are you on right now... were you telling him that he's AFC for not caring what the girls like?? I hate to break it, but 'when you live for everyone else you become a prisoner of your own mind.' I'd say that more closely resembles the reality of an AFC.

Or were you trying to get the point across that the last guys comment is AFC?? Nah... who gives a shyt about what a woman really wants except in what will get you further with her, if you want that.

or even was that not sarcasm and you really like being AFC? This one I could almost believe cause with the questions I see you asking, you clearly don't have a huge grasp on this whole 'DJ' mentality... not to say that you never get laid or anything, but if you really like where you're at why would you want to improve anyway?
If you could care less about what woman wants and you LIKE being an AFC, and many guys do like being nice and such so then they SHOULD be because who cares of a woman likes a real man, right?
 

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You should stop getting hung up on terms. How is it possible to be a guy who always spends hours talking to girls, bringing them stuff and writing poems WITHOUT caring about women? That is an oxymoron.

To the original question:
1. Do not have a lame group of friends.
2. Yes, I will often split up from my friends and we will go our own ways in the club/bar and then meet up and see how things went.

Learning to be independent is a huge part of being successful not only in love but in life
 
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