"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What I've learned from excessive MB

Newtguy

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So, I on average masturbate 3-5 times a day, often to porn. I've been on a dry spell with women for the last year. I am good looking, but have poor social skills I guess. Anyway, I was hooking up with a girl the other night and she was giving me head while I was doing stuff to her. I could barely keep my erection up and I couldn't get off from the BJ. It was kinda embarrassing, but not really. When I masturbate I can get rock hard fast and keep it up and of course finish.

So, what I am getting at is...I need to stop masturbating or cool it down big time, and get back to reality, otherwise I will continue to have problems with women in bed. My body and mind are so used to a routine with masturbating that the real thing doesn't work for me.

Be careful is all I am saying if you excessively masturbate, you could be setting yourself up for failure and the wrong mindset like I have done to myself!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Zanbato

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I've had the same problem as you a while back.

My solution was to cut out all but the most peremptorily brief and fleeting exposure to porn. It seriously is the only thing you can do.

Check out "your brain on porn" and its ilk; you'll find that there's a growing proliferation of scientific evidence that evinces the connection between frequent porn usage and frequent erection trouble with real women in real sexual situations.
 

Chamber36

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Yeah I wasn't able to *** from *******s or sex either till I was forced to abstain from porn for a month, I went and fvcked a prostitute and waddaya know, I blasted my load doggy style. I was pretty happy.

I am off the no-porn wagon though, I watched some porn yesterday while I was hung over because I didn't get laid this weekend. I suppose I will have to work on my inner game so I don't need porn.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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MisterD

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Guess I'm of a rare breed of man who can masturbate as frequently or infrequently as I please and it has no mental or physical consequences on my sex life.
 

Greasy Pig

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@Mr D. I was like you around your age. I thought it was impossible not to get hard. I'd whack off, go fvck a plate, come home and whack off again.

Then one night when I was about 27, I just couldn't get it up. It affected me for years but no fap got me somewhere close to my old self.

In other words, you might be one of the lucky ones but don't get complacent!
 

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So, I have to say... I met up with that girl again. The one that I couldn't get off with the blow job. This time we fool around I kinda get hard. She then puts a condom on me and we try to go at it. I go limp almost immediately. So embarrassing. I thought to myself, I have two choices, either I could act all nervous and blame it on the alcohol & the fact I don't like condoms, or just be truthful.

I decided to be truthful and tell her I've been addicted to MB. Or, as some people say POM(porn masturbation orgasm). I think the truth went really well with her. She seem to understand.

So, as of right now I am on 1 week with not masturbating. It's going well, but my junk seems to be dead. I guess its a phase that happens when you start this no fap. I just hope I get some life back in it soon, or this girl is going to be really annoyed!
 
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