What is your opinion on women having male friends?

[inzone50]

My girlfriend who is 19 has male friends in University who she has never had sex with and some of them have girlfriends. She met them before me.

So they meet up to have lunch ones in a while because they don't have classes anymore.

It was a group of four of them. 2 guys 2 girls. But sometimes she goes meets them without the other girl there.

I've seen her friends and i would say that i am the bigger catch. I have no fear of her cheating on me but i'm just curious of how you guys handle this?

Plus, she has 2 other guy friends from the town she lived in before she went to university. Who she has known all through highschool.

She txted one of them infront of me to congratulate him on a sporting event he won.

She goes drinking with them and other females are there, but she does this rarely.

her interest level in me is high. we've been dating 4-5 months. knew each other 3 months before at work.

i am her 2nd boyfriend. her ex- was a big time AFC.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

All women have or should have healthy stictly platonic friends with members of both sexes. What is wrong with that?

Those friends will be friends of friends, friends of girlfriends, siblings of girlfriends, classmates, etc. etc. Most of them were there before she gets a boyfriend, and will be there long after. No big deal.

 

[Crazy Asian]

u have nothing fear, ur gf is not cheating on you.

and you need to give her space, and show that you are not disturbed when she hangs out with her guy friends.

 

[inzone50]

u have nothing fear, ur gf is not cheating on you.

and you need to give her space, and show that you are not disturbed when she hangs out with her guy friends.

Yep, that is my reaction.

 

[Bible_Belt]

All women have or should have healthy stictly platonic friends with members of both sexes. What is wrong with that?

I disagree. There are exceptions, and I myself have a few women I respect as friends. However, my ex-gf had countless guy "friends." From what I could tell, every single one of them was some afc who wanted to fvck her but the friend game was the best he could do. She gets male attention, and they get some illusion of a chance of sex someday. It's not healthy, and it speaks to how fvcked up we are psychologically and socially, but this is what I see 90% of the time.

Having said that, it is still the best advice, as you have already been told, to ignore it and don't be jealous. If the IL is high enough, she won't cheat.

 

[bigjohnson]

Every male friend she has will nail her given the chance. Every male friend she has is a backup plan - she might not ever exercise her insurance policies, but that's what they are; emotional insurance policies with attached penises "just in case".

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I disagree. There are exceptions, and I myself have a few women I respect as friends. However, my ex-gf had countless guy "friends." From what I could tell, every single one of them was some afc who wanted to fvck her but the friend game was the best he could do. She gets male attention, and they get some illusion of a chance of sex someday. It's not healthy, and it speaks to how fvcked up we are psychologically and socially, but this is what I see 90% of the time.

Having said that, it is still the best advice, as you have already been told, to ignore it and don't be jealous. If the IL is high enough, she won't cheat.

Don't put words in my mouth. Not talking about those type of friends. I am talking about friends she had, even if she doesn't see them often, from way before she meets you. People who are part of her social circle, from school, etc., who you should not expect her to drop just because you are her man. You yourself said it, you have a few women you respect as friends. There doesn't have to be a limit to those type of friends. SPECIALLY FRIENDS WHO'VE KNOWN HER WAY BEFORE YOU.

Usually when girls have these "Orbiters", these guys hanging around, or as you said "some afc who wanted to fvck her", then she is, without a doubt, an attention slvt, and should be called on it. Give girls, most at least, credit for being able to tell the difference between an old friend, who she never felt sexual attraction for, and the dozens of chumps hanging around in hopes of getting sex.

In your example, your ex was being somewhat disrespectful to you, and you allowed her to enjoy the pleasure of getting her attention fix from these chumps, while she knew what they really wanted out of her. Lucky for you, she is now your ex gf.

 

[backbreaker]

my opinion is the same opinion i have had the last 200 posts regarding the topic

 

[B4IFURU18?]

I'm with Gangster & Crazy Asian on this one. There's nothing you can do, and there's nothing you should worry about, she was friends with them before you.

We all share friends of opposite sex, it's normal, and healthy. You're fine...

 

[beastmaster79]

most male-female "friendships" exist becuase somone is attracted to someone else who keeps them around for validation. there could also be mutual attraction but not enough to spark a hook up. there could be a shared interest or personality trait that brings the two together in a non-sexual way. if the girl is sexy or hot, her friends probably want to bone her though.

you could be cool and befriend them or you could try to intimidate them or scare them away. or you could ignore them. they'll probably hate you either way.

 

[Kev07]

You can't directly do anything about her having male friends.

end of story.

 

[bigjohnson]

You can't do anything about it even IF you wanted to, but it's good to clearly understand what's really going on instead of what she will try to make you think.

 

[DWB]

A girl with tons of male friends equals one thing only..

D!cks in glass cases that say "Break Incase Of Emergency"

Tom Leykis has done this subject tons of times on air.
Girls always say they have tons of guy friends that are just friends and they arent interested in her.
So he will weasel the phone# of one of the guy friends out of the girl and put her on hold while he calls the guy.
Every single time the guy friends always say
"I'd Love To F@ck her" -- It's a D!ck in a glass case my man

Good Luck

 

[Master Bates]

So he will weasel the phone# of one of the guy friends out of the girl and put her on hold while he calls the guy.
Every single time the guy friends always say
"I'd Love To F@ck her" -- It's a D!ck in a glass case my man

Haha, that's deliciously evil. any mp3s of this?

 

[KontrollerX]

Its never a good thing.

Women don't need guy friends to hang out with as...

1. Those guys are not looking to be her friend.

2. If she wants to hang out and have fun she can do it with her boyfriend or female friends or all together.

And a person can do something about their girl having guy friends.

That person can next her.

If you don't you'll just regret it later when you find out she's been downing someother "friend's" pole.

 

[speakeasy]

I subscribe to the laddertheory.com philosophy. I think a woman has more to worry about with her guy having female friends than a guy does with his girlfriend having male friends. Women are much better at maintaining things at a platonic level. But I can tell you straight up, there is not one female friend I have ever had(that I find attractive) who I wouldn't f*** if given the chance, and I seriously doubt her guy "friends" are much different.

So you may trust your girl and all and that's cool if you do and she's trustworthy, but remember, if she's attractive, those guy "friends" want her p*ssy just as much as you do and in all likelyhood, their main motivation in being her "friend" is to hopefully try and jump the ladder some day. And of course if you do anything wrong, you can be sure you'll be the ******* jerk that she runs to them to talk about while they tell her, "I'm such a good guy, I'd never treat you like that!" If you're lucky she's one of those girls that thinks "Oh John, he's a nice guy and all but I see him like a brother..." and really means it.

 

[speakeasy]

Its never a good thing.

Women don't need guy friends to hang out with as...

1. Those guys are not looking to be her friend.

2. If she wants to hang out and have fun she can do it with her boyfriend or female friends or all together.

And a person can do something about their girl having guy friends.

That person can next her.

If you don't you'll just regret it later when you find out she's been downing someother "friend's" pole.

You know, if these guys are pre-existing friends that she's known for years, that's one thing you just have to accept. They have been there for her longer than you have and she is not going to want to turn her back on them just because she has a boyfriend. However is she was out making "friends" with NEW guys to hang out with, then I'd be pissed and then I agree with what you said above. There's no reason for her to be making friends to hang with NEW guys, unless there's some reason for it like business related reasons or something.

 

[Kev07]

Its never a good thing.

Women don't need guy friends to hang out with as...

1. Those guys are not looking to be her friend.

2. If she wants to hang out and have fun she can do it with her boyfriend or female friends or all together.

And a person can do something about their girl having guy friends.

That person can next her.

If you don't you'll just regret it later when you find out she's been downing someother "friend's" pole.

So I take it that when a guy gets a girlfriend he should also get oneitis amirite?

 

[SomeKindaHate]

You'd be surprise to see how many guys actually have true female friends, where the male is not looking to fvck her.

There is also plenty of chicks I met who are on that "i don't get along with other girls" tip.

 

[backbreaker]

I have a couple of true female friends.... both at one point in time I was attracted to, but for one reason another.. the attraction isnt' there anymore... i found out something i didn't like about them, or the timing wasn't right, or I think/know I can do better..b ut they are cool to hang around.


however, one thing I have learned over the past years with women.. they hate each other. women can be so cunning, so deciving they can't trust each other. friends will fvck/steal each others men if they think they are that good of a catch, they lie, they talk behind each others back, they steal from each other, etc.

however once you go down that road... there i no going back. and I'm cool with.. these, actually 2 women are women I want nothing to do with sexually in the future.

One of them has a BF that I'm actually pretty cool with.. it's just not like that.