"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What is wrong with trying to pick up big chicks?
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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ok, you could care less about your reputation, 'cuz you just don't give a sh1t, you are da man, and everything... ok, ok... then date fat ladies, but i warned you
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I unfortunately know a little bit about this so I can speak from experience.
I don't know to many dudes that are chubby chasers but if you are, more power to you, it's your life. Personally, I think the vast majority of the time when a guy is going after a fat chick, he's desperate. It's either one of the following scenarios:
1. He can't do any better. His breath smells of rotting skunk carcass and he hasn't showered in a week so that's the best he can do. If you want an example, just look at the Jerry Springer rejects.
2. He thinks he can't do any better. This is due to inner game issues or limiting beliefs.
3. Desperation. You're so desperate to be in a relationship so you'll take anything. If it's not a fat chick, maybe you're taking on a crack addict or psycho. This is because you're desperate.
4. It's easy. Fat chicks require little work and almost no game whatsoever. There's also very little competition. They're just grateful to have you around. Attractive women require more work.
Whenever I've gone after fat chicks in the past, it was one of those above reasons. Same thing with people I know. I had a fat girlfriend for a while a few years ago and it was unbelievably easy. It took no work at all to pull her or keep her around. Still though, you'll hate yourself for settling and you'll find yourself not attracted to her in the process. There was another time when I called over this fat chick who must have weighed 250 pounds because I was so desperate for pu$$y and it was easy. I ended up hating myself in the process and I couldn't go through with it, not to mention the whole physical attraction factor.
Personally, I'd rather beat my meat than go that route again. Don't settle.
LOL :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
"Tons" was that a pun?? You didn't even know you made a joke, did ya??TONS - That's heavy!!!
ahahaha, if you think about mass, oh hell yeah there's TONS AND TONS out there ya know!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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There is another side to it.
Due to current trends in society (they are current, 50 years ago women did not have that much power) nowdays good looking women are extremely picky. Many fit/slim women automatically
consider themselves super attarctive based often on some very odd factors: she is slim! (especially if she is blond).
So what does it mean picky? She doesnt have problems without finding men she likes, but she is not satisfied with what she find: she can afford that behavior since dating market is heavily biased toward women.
Now, once you start dating a slim blond (I am not talkign about HB7-HB10!), what do you think will be the chances of developing a LTR with her? Unless you are very good looking and relatively rich, she is not going to stop looking for better options: she can afford that.
Cute but somewhat fat girl wont be very picky, she knows she has to value a guy. Is it a bad thing????...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Also, why do you keep bringing up the fat girls issue - it's been answered many times in your many threads on the issue... here are just 4 of them...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=66126
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70579
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=66338
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=67050
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