What is wrong with me?

[saturos]

I joined this site quite a while back, and i believe that ultimately, ss has helped me to become a more fun and positive person, which is to say, a better personality.
At this point, i can talk to girls perfectly fine, except for the girl i want the most. With other girls, i can hold a conversation for an hour if i want (i dont >.>) but with the girl i would ideally like to get, things get awkward fast.
It sucks: the girl i used to really be going for never really showed any interest, and now that i don't really give a shlt about her anymore and i've loosened up, she all of sudden is aggressively pursuing me.

Dammit. What am i doing wrong?

 

[Daniel1099]

your doing nothing wrong bro...

what your doing is called "push/pull"

except you did it without thinking...

you gave her TOO much attentionl, and overwhelmed her....

now that its all gone...she wants that attention back...

keep doing what ur doing haha

 

[saturos]

Well, with the other girl, its like i wouldn't mind hooking up with her or something, but she's really not who i'm after. The girl i'm after is just a failurific situation.

 

[wj-mchster-92]

I've been in this situation.

You'll find the fact, the girl you used to fancy knew it.. and now you've lost interest in her she wants you attention again.. that doesnt mean she wants YOU though, just your attention. Why? cos girls crave it.

In prove. Still flirt with her but learn from what you did wrong with her. But go for the girl you really like.

Dont kid yourself.

 

[faiNt`]

I think the worst part about people feeling "awkward" is it's like .. a chain effect. If YOU feel awkward it's damn sure SHE will too. Except here's the thing: you two are just talking. What's there to be awkward about? Conversations have normal pauses in them. Think about it this way, if you were talking to a guy friend and there was a pause, is that awkward? No, it's not.

Also, most times guys that get this feeling amplify it by themselves. What I mean by this is that they are actually doing fine and the girl feels comfortable for the time being, but the guy's mind begins to wonder and he starts feeling awkward when everything is fine.

Bottom line is don't over analyze things. Just go with the flow and be fun.