what is weird suppose to mean ?

[mv.89]

Hello,

Bare with me.
So I went on a university trip to Chicago. I did not know anyone at all on the bus and made few friends. Girls/guys both.

We were suppose to buy Alcohol , so me and one more guy went in there and purchased some I bought beers and a Scotch for myself. I didn't ask my roommates to pay for it and told em I got us covered. So last night during our stay everyone went to the club. The club was 18 over and I chose not to go. I stayed home and was just lieing in my bed and heard sounds that woke me up.

This one girl was talking to my roommate
Girl : this guy is weird
Guy: he is one of you , he is also a mentor
Girl : I know , but we've only met twice before
Guy: He has a weird accent
Girl: He is just weird

They didn't know I was awake and just lieing there pretending asleep but holy **** all the way back I kept thinking wtf did I do to these mofos I really wanted to get up and fvck slapp both of em but it was last day of the trip so I didn't do anything.

P.S- I' was the only Indian guy on the trip. I am 23 and very light skinned barely brown. Living in Canada for 7 years. The funny thing is the frikkin exchange students had no problem with me, The girls were pulling me towards them to take a pic and these idiots who I go to school with were like this.

So wtf is weird suppose to mean ? on our way back my self esteem was hurt so bad that I was treading my words carefully talking to anyone on the bus.

 

[Zion]

Why do you even give a fvck ?


I've had girls tell me they loved me 5 minutes in the conversation during cold approaches. Others think I'm simply weird as fvck because no one has ever approached them like that. Either way , who cares what they think ?


In my experience , the only people who downtalk other people are those with some many insecurities that they will try anything to feel better about themselves.


Not everyone will / can like you , as you yourself do not like everyone. So don't let stuff like this affect you like that.

Also , you should've confronted her / them.

 

[Smell The Glove]

Hello,

Bare with me.

No can do. I only get naked with sexy ladies.

Kinda weird of you to ask.

 

[Mr Wright]

Hey man, this might not be what you want to hear but this could be the wake up call you need. Maybe you are not totally calibrated and do act weird, like I could tell you to forget what they say and just live your life but they wouldnt have picked that up from nothing. Maybe you give off a slightly creepy vibe, guys tend to do that when they first get into this before they are more aware of what is going on around them so they react more...and someone who is always reacting can come across as a little weird.

Explain a little more about your interactions with these people

 

[mv.89]

I literally did nothing to act creepy. Everyone bought cheap liquor, I bought Scotch, everyone bought beer for themselves I bought for my whole room. I was not even making fun of anyone. I was just indulging in normal conversations, like about the city and school itself, especially with those two I remember I kept it to totally normal conversation.

I do remember my voice seems to get little heavy when I am speaking to people I do not really know could that be the reason they thought I was being weird ? Pretentious ?

I remember once on an earlier meet with that girl it was a group meeting for mentors and we were asked to tell what we did in Summer
So I told them : I came back from Vegas yesterday, did sky diving, swam with sharks, I own my own store, I'm in business third year. One guy sitting in the group who was part of Admin said "damn bro" That's it

How often is it that people hate on others if they think the other person is more cooler than them ? or they thought I was just being Pretentious ?
How does one stay humble and not seem ****y or pretentious ? and isn't being ****y a good thing anyway ?

 

[Night-hawk]

Weird can be an indication of interest. Weird is better than plain. IME most girls who called me weird did so out of an inability to figure me out. On top of that, some girls simply have a limited vocabulary, so don't take it personally.

 

[switch]

great people talk about ideas
normal people talk about "stuff"
and then we have fuktards...fuktards my dear OP, talk about "other people"

the species you just described fits the 3rd category

 

[SgtSplacker]

Usually people start thinking that way if you are being too nice to them. It makes people feel strange because they don't know why you are being nice and they figure there must be a reason... maybe you need to do this because of some shortcoming? maybe you are a creepo with little social skills and are trying to buy friends? weird...

You can't do stuff like this to people you don't know. It only serves to create a distinction between you and them, something you do not want to do in this setting. When you are just getting to know people like this it's all about fitting in, then you can express your individuality with a gesture of kindness after people get to know you a bit more.

I would go so far as to say that a good rule of thumb is to not give your friends anything for free unless they ask/need it. Otherwise they may thank you and seem happy, but they walk away with the impression that you are a source of freebies to be managed to maximize free stuff.

Even if you do give something put conditions on it so they have to earn it a bit.

Nice guys finish last my friend...

 

[mv.89]

Thank you all for your take on this. I am a lot stronger now than I was back then. It just took me by so much surprise that I was not able to process emotions properly and to even understand what just happened.

Thank you once again.

 

[VladPatton]

Usually people start thinking that way if you are being too nice to them. It makes people feel strange because they don't know why you are being nice and they figure there must be a reason... maybe you need to do this because of some shortcoming? maybe you are a creepo with little social skills and are trying to buy friends? weird...

You can't do stuff like this to people you don't know. It only serves to create a distinction between you and them, something you do not want to do in this setting. When you are just getting to know people like this it's all about fitting in, then you can express your individuality with a gesture of kindness after people get to know you a bit more.

I would go so far as to say that a good rule of thumb is to not give your friends anything for free unless they ask/need it. Otherwise they may thank you and seem happy, but they walk away with the impression that you are a source of freebies to be managed to maximize free stuff.

Even if you do give something put conditions on it so they have to earn it a bit.

Nice guys finish last my friend...

I agree with the Sgt. I would even throw in openness as well. The more open you are with people at the beginning, the more they think you are just plain weird, needy, friendless, or loaded and want to buy friends. Happened to me too. Now, I keep a nice distance until I figure THEM out and see if I wanna make them my friends.

Who the fück are those aṣṣholes anyway? To be fully involved in your affairs without the test of longevity? You don't know. So just be reserved until you can be more of your true self and don't be so nice. It just may backfire on you and you'll be called "weird" by some silly lil twit of a girl who can barely figure out how to insert her tampon.

 

[Mr Wright]

Weird can be an indication of interest. Weird is better than plain. IME most girls who called me weird did so out of an inability to figure me out. On top of that, some girls simply have a limited vocabulary, so don't take it personally.

Yeah, I'd agree with this, a female friend of mine called me odd the other day so I asked her why and she said it was a good thing, that she liked how I was straight forward about what I wanted and that I was mysterious.

Hmmm thinking about it, you may have come across as a bit try hard if you're buying everyone drinks, I know I'd find that interesting. Put it this way, I dont buy drinks for girls unless they're a platonic friend or ive already had sex with them, weirdly enough random people do buy me drinks quite often.

 

[mv.89]

I just assumed that since they are my roommates I'll buy a pack of six pack. All it is 12 bucks that's it.

To be honest. I am usually reserved and on this trip since I had no friends to go with I was like fvck it, I'm going to be open and talk to everyone. Be friendly and that backfired.

The international exchange students found me cool,specially the girls and my own school mates were like this lol

 

[mv.89]

Yeah, I'd agree with this, a female friend of mine called me odd the other day so I asked her why and she said it was a good thing, that she liked how I was straight forward about what I wanted and that I was mysterious.

Hmmm thinking about it, you may have come across as a bit try hard if you're buying everyone drinks, I know I'd find that interesting. Put it this way, I dont buy drinks for girls unless they're a platonic friend or ive already had sex with them, weirdly enough random people do buy me drinks quite often.

One of my friend has told me the same thing. He's like I do not mind at all being called weird. He's like normal they will forget. Weird sticks to them