What is up with hot babes with low esteem?

[mrbrooklyn]

My friend who is an average looking guy started dating this gorgeous actress. In my opinion I would rank her a 10. He is no dj, but they worked for the same company and he decided to ask her out. She accepted and they started dating. Things started to get serious and she asked him if he wanted her as a girlfriend. My friend really liked this girl and told her that he would like to make this relationship a serious one.

After that last conversation he did not hear from her for over a week. She would not return his phone calls or e-mails. Eventually he goes to her house and she starts crying. She tells him that she always ruins relationships, and that he was to good for her.

When my friend told me this story I was shocked. This girl was tall, beautiful and seemed to have a good head on her shoulders. He tells me that even though she is in her early twenties she was not very sexually experienced, she also has a history of abusive boyfriends, and she does not think that she is that atractive.

I just don't get it. This girl is as attractive as any girl you will meet out here in hollywood, with her pick of men, unfortunately she has very little self worth.


I guess the moral of the story to all you guys is that if you are afraid to approach a hot chick, dont be. A lot of times these girls are not as confident and stuck up as you might guess.

But be careful. They might be crazy.

 

[Ol'BlueEyes]

hmmm...

My guess is she attracts the bad boy type (good guys are too intimidated by her beauty to chat her up). The bad boys walk all over her, use her for sex, berate her, treat her like trash, and she blames herself for it.
Plus, since she's very attractive, she may not have the female support group. Other women may hate her for her beauty.
Does she have a tight-knit circle of girl friends?

 

[KiInCollege]

Are they back together since then, or were those tears a tool to get rid of him?

 

[California Love]

Hot girls rarely get asked and appreciate the chance to be out with a guy.

 

[fezz]

ya, but some of the hot girls I talk to are extremely stuck up, and if you are on any different social level than them, they wont even open up to you even if you are a fun guy. Do the stuck up ones have any self esteem problems?

 

[Life-Trainee]

/\ absolutely, i don't get these stuck up girls. I've met several chicks in the past that live their lives by everything their mother tells them. My friend dated a girl that was like that. When they finally got to sex after many many months of courtship (under great pressure to get married!), the girl even asked her mother whether certain sex positions were appropriate. WTF?? Goes without saying my friend dumped her faster than hot coal after that incident. I have probably the most conservative parents but I'm a complete opposite of them.

 

[Super_Natural_Charm]

Salutations,
I come to find that most females that put up an arrogant/Im too good for you/I'm beautful attitude are usually using that as a front and when you get to know them are totally different. Also alot of the times when you approach a female like that and she is with her friends the attitude is totally different. Just do what you would normally do when you approach her and if she is a ***** about it just keeep on walking with your head held high!

Besides, who has time to deal with an attitude?
Bye

 

[JohnnyLegard]

Here's the reason why this woman is insecure - she's an actress. Being an actor or actress is one of the hardest jobs to do. The general statistic for actors is that 99% of the time they are looking for jobs. Once in a while you will get a great gig, but the rest of the time you are going to countless auditions over and over again, getting rejected over and over again. So of course it's natural for an actress, no matter how beautiful she is, to be highly insecure. Imagine hitting on every woman that you walk by and getting rejected almost all the time - that's literally what it feels like to be an actor.

Another contributing factor is that she might be a Method Actor or at least incorporate Method Acting techniques into her work. Method Acting is a highly popular technique invented by Lee Strasberg in which a person has to relive events that are similar to the scene that they are depicting in order to give a believable performance. This means opening horrible past memories that normal people would never want to dwell on all the time as your job. Think about what effect that would have on your psychie.

It's a tough business, entertainment. When I was doing casting for my student short film, I had a women audition who had the part of SALLY BOWLES from the Broadway Musical "Cabaret". And that's the part that was held by A list stars like Gina Gershon and Brooke Shields. This lady was auditioning for a film that did not offer pay of any kind. Plus, she came 40 minutes early and was desperate to get into her time slot early. She was probably the most physically beautiful woman I had ever seen in real life, a great actress, but we cut her because she wasn't right for the role. Think about how demoralizing that was for her - it wasn't personal, but being rejected over and over and not having money to pay your bills all the time is extremely hard.

Just because a woman is beautiful, it does not mean that in their head they are a goddess. If you can make anyone feel good about themselves without coming off as creepy or annoying, you will be golden .

 

[Royal-tiger]

JohnnyLegard,

Very well said!

 

[mrbrooklyn]

My friend told me she has totally gone pyscho. Calls him late at night, but hangs up as soon as he picks up.

She does not have many female friends.

I don't think she has had any real roles.

To bad. SHe is a real peice of ass. Unfortunately she is just another loser. I just feel bad for my friend. You always like to see your buddies with really hot girls.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by California Love
Hot girls rarely get asked and appreciate the chance to be out with a guy.

quite true

i met this hot chick last semester, but before that she looked stuck up and did not talk to anyone in class and left before class ended. after chatting up with her in the lunchroom about an hr i found out she was apretty cool person.

she was pretty insecure and had low self-esteem. she was saying somethinga bout breaking up with her bf and moving out of his place.
this semester igot class w/her and she dresses like a bum and does nothing with her hair. b asicially a look like she just got outta bed. we dont talk much now tho but eh i dont really care.

but yea i find the hot ones normally have low self esteem adn are insecure for unknown reasons, usually they odnt get asked out as much cause theyre intimidating

 

[Austin Allegro]

ALL women have problems with self esteem - every single one of them, and often the most beautiful ones have the most problems! Women are competitive and even a bunch of hot women will be worried about who's the hottest amongst them, etc.

I've seen this time and time again. Some of the hottest most beautiful women I've met and dated, who almost always put up a confident front, turned out to have very low self esteem when I got to know them.

Jerks use this to manipulate women, but the DJ should just use this to NEVER worry about approaching women he thinks are 'too hot' or 'out of his league'.

 

[ScrewIt]

quite true, i do agree that all women are in different ways insecure and have problems. yea they are competitive, to them their looks are #1 of importance. since that's the first thing guys notice about a girl. why do you think that are bars or clubs they see 1 or 2 girls around you, eventually more will swarm to you?? so they can be YOUR center of attention and outbeat the other girls in winning your attention....

if you're a DJ, there will be AFC's who despise you cause you're doing something they cant comprehend...compeition once again my friends

 

[DJ_Dork]

The prettier the girl, the dumber she is.

 

[Omega]

Originally posted by DJ_Dork
The prettier the girl, the dumber she is.

Hey now, let's not make assumptions .

What do you think girls are? Walls of steel? Consider them like, a building. There's always a downfall no matter how great the security system is. Your mission, is to find the downfall and exploit it, thus using your manly charm to get the woman of your dreams.

Why is their such tight security? Well first of all there's valuable assets inside. This are hidden deep within the walls of the building, not open to the general public. The walls, can be seen as a ***** shield. The more robberies the more walls are going to be put up to protect the valuable items.

Anyways, personally I feel an attraction to the more outcast super-hot girl. I wouldn't want an extremely popular, high maintinance girl because of that very reason. I don't put up with **** easilly and I especially don't want to be double or even single questioning my actions around her.

 

[Big-J]

Originally posted by Life-Trainee
/\ absolutely, i don't get these stuck up girls. I've met several chicks in the past that live their lives by everything their mother tells them. My friend dated a girl that was like that. When they finally got to sex after many many months of courtship (under great pressure to get married!), the girl even asked her mother whether certain sex positions were appropriate. WTF?? Goes without saying my friend dumped her faster than hot coal after that incident. I have probably the most conservative parents but I'm a complete opposite of them.

That's because you need to read up on the DJ Bible / Fastseduction.com's FAQ and playerguide 101.

Read up on Neg-hits/b*tch shields...

 

[sfeclipse]

SO TRUE!

wow..this topic is so true...

so my friend (lets call him jim) met this girl (lets call her sally) abt 3 weeks back at a club. she's like an HB9...he's decent looking. not like wow but not like ugh either.

-got her #
-went on a date with her a week after (bar + pool + movie)
-went on another date next week (dinner at a nice restaurant)

sally gets a funky call in the middle of dinner and goes in an off mood. jim finds out her ex (went out w/him for 2 yrs) in some other country is trying to kill himself cos she broke up with him but he doesn't want to break up...so jim gets her back in the mood to jus chill. she calls him back to her place..they're abt to put on a movie and ex calls again...she says maybe we can do this some other time cos he's cut himself up and she has to talk to him

-went on a 3rd date (sushi at her place)

she says she'll prob get back with ex because he must really love her cos he tried to kill himself ! then she says how she has really low self confidence and shes been thru a lot. the ex now calls her EVERY night at 11 to make sure shes not with some dude..reason being she was at an old friends place last week and he raped her! but she says she understands why he did it and forgives him. (DAMN) so now he calls her every night...so 11 comes around and he calls, and she tells my friend to be quiet so her ex doesn't know he's here this girl is pretty hot so he wants her EVEN after all this ****. now he goes and does something totally AFCish..before he left that night, he let her know that he likes her more than a friend.



what the hell is wrong with him!

all the 3 times, he was the one who called and initiated the outing. they txt msg each other and she calls him sweety, and honey. this girl has SERIOUS issues..i told my friend to back off but he says shes really sweet and nice i've told him to at least not call her and let her call for a change. WTF is wrong with guys these days!!

he also says he wasn't bein a "nice guy" nor was he bein the "jerk"...he was a lil of both. he held the door and that kinda stuff but when she got a phone call while they were on one of the dates , he told her that it was disrespectful and he didn't think it was polite...so after that she would not take calls or if she did, would tell them to call back later cos she was out with him.

i bet she prob won't even call him unless he calls her back. but yea..point is hot women go hand in hand with low esteem.

and yea..my friend jim..this is his account he doesn't know i'm using it to post this..haha

 

[Hurri]

yea but you guys gotta admit, those girls are easier to handle than 7's and 8's have the confidence of 10's eg: strippers.

 

[Austin Allegro]

Originally posted by Hurri
yea but you guys gotta admit, those girls are easier to handle than 7's and 8's have the confidence of 10's eg: strippers.

True, but I still maintain that all women have problems with self esteem.
I've met a stripper and an artist's model (socially, not while they were working!) and you'd think they'd be superconfident but neither were particularly, they just seemed like ordinary women.

Strippers have to put up a confident front when they work, but I bet behind the scenes they worry just as much as other women - probably more so since they are showing off their bodies all the time. So don't worry about confident women, just be MORE confident!

 

[CrazyGoNuts]

I find that there are 2 main reasons why women who are considered attractive find themselves inadequate: past relationships and how guys treated them when they were growing up.

First, if a girl just has ****ty luck with guys she is gonna find herself unattractive. She can be a skinny girl and think she is fat, or she changes her hair color every month, etc. This situation always sucks because when you get involved with them you have to deal with someone elses fVck ups.

I recently realized that girls who were close with guys when they were younger are much more confident with themselves as they get older. I know a few girls who used to get picked on from the time they were 10 so that lack of self respect is something they have had for years. Its almost impossible to convice this type of girl that she isnt ugly without constant reassurance.