What is too available?

[One on One]

We all know you don't want to be too available, but I'm a bit confused as to what this exactly means. Here are two possibilities:

1 - As long as you don't ask her out all the time and don't call her up all the time, you're fine. Just wait a few days between contacting her. If she calls you, it's okay to talk to her.

2 - In addition to part 1, make sure that you are busy and can't talk long when she calls you. Always be busy.

So, what is it guys? Do you have to cut a few of her phone calls short or just not call her up a lot?

 

[Ser_i]

I don't think you need to have exactly set time table's


but what I do is when I ask if the girl is interested to have a drink with me somewhere, I propose 2 possible moments, if she can't make it.. that's a shame cause i'm either working, or have anohter important matter that can't wait.

phone conversations: go differently, some of them I call more often others less, but I do make sure that the conversations don't take to long otherwise the uuuuhh... welllllll... aaaaahhh... will make me long insecure

 

[One on One]

How often would you generally call a girl that you have just started dating? Of course, there are many variables, but approximately what is average?

 

[trajhenkhet]

a safe bet is 10 minutes max. If you can manage it aim for 5.

 

[trajhenkhet]

To date, call her when you have time. I wouldn't call just to "talk". Unless its important. In fact in neither of my relationships did I ever call. In fact don't call back right away if your in the middle of something. Simply wait till your done doing what your doing and when you have a free moment, call back.

 

[digitalrat]

Is going over to her house to play pool with her brother and step-dad being too available?

I was over there 3 nights in a row. The 1st one I didnt even really talk to her. The 2nd we just watched a movie and we had a little kino. The 3rd night we had A LOT of kino.

I think im over analyzing this ****. Fukk!

 

[trajhenkhet]

watch it cowboy. Remember your time is valuable. Best to not make yourself available all the time. Once in awhile is alright but I would guess one should refrain from this activity till around 5-6 months into it. Its never to your advantage and can lead to complications early if your not on your toes. This is when the family gets involved. Save that for later. Early on, make an effort to build huge rapport with her parents when you first visit.