"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What is this chick doing?

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Aazman

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Basically she gives minor IOIs. Nothing significant. She responds to texts but doesn't start conversations.

I've met her and she talks but I get a feeling she's **** teasing me. We haven't properly met, just on coincidence. (aka 2wice)

Got holidays now(3 months), so I have little chance of seeing her. But when I'm back- she's going to be living near me. In the meanwhile- do I:


just ignore her completely?

or

Text her/ call her occasionally during the holidays?(I dislike this option the most)

or

Ignore her and talk to her if I see her when we live close to one another?

or

Ignore her and try to initiate some contact when we live near one another?

The other problem may be- the sense of mystery has been ruined since I kind of blabbered when I was a bit tipsy. She knows a bit about me- ex's - yeah i know! but didn't mention anything about gaming.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Focus on girls nearby and put this one on the backburner.
 
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thanks-

so which one of the last two choices would you choose?
 

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Aazman said:
Ignore her and try to initiate some contact when we live near one another?

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This. I'm in a similar situation, I got this girl's number on my last day in Minnesota, I'm going back there in September. You don't want to be talking to her over the summer...maybe like one random/funny text at the most. But
when you get back there, don't just wait to "maybe run into her," make it happen!

I haven't tested this ever, but for my situation, I'm thinking of saying "hey I'm gonna be in your area for a few days next week, I'll give you a call if I'm free" and then of course never calling, just to keep me fresh in her mind in a non-needy way. Just an idea :D
 

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Aazman,

First off, a lot can happen in three months, so without knowing more details, I wouldn't hedge all bets on this situation. That said, you definitely must initiate contact but not in a needy way. Waiting on a chick to call is a big mistake. She won't make contact unless she is either interested big time or you are involved with her in some type of relationship. Over the summer, text her once in a while, and maybe call her like once every three weeks, but keep convos and texts as brief as possible.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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