"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What is this chick doing?

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Basically she gives minor IOIs. Nothing significant. She responds to texts but doesn't start conversations.

I've met her and she talks but I get a feeling she's **** teasing me. We haven't properly met, just on coincidence. (aka 2wice)

Got holidays now(3 months), so I have little chance of seeing her. But when I'm back- she's going to be living near me. In the meanwhile- do I:


just ignore her completely?

or

Text her/ call her occasionally during the holidays?(I dislike this option the most)

or

Ignore her and talk to her if I see her when we live close to one another?

or

Ignore her and try to initiate some contact when we live near one another?

The other problem may be- the sense of mystery has been ruined since I kind of blabbered when I was a bit tipsy. She knows a bit about me- ex's - yeah i know! but didn't mention anything about gaming.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Focus on girls nearby and put this one on the backburner.
 
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thanks-

so which one of the last two choices would you choose?
 

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Aazman said:
Ignore her and try to initiate some contact when we live near one another?

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This. I'm in a similar situation, I got this girl's number on my last day in Minnesota, I'm going back there in September. You don't want to be talking to her over the summer...maybe like one random/funny text at the most. But
when you get back there, don't just wait to "maybe run into her," make it happen!

I haven't tested this ever, but for my situation, I'm thinking of saying "hey I'm gonna be in your area for a few days next week, I'll give you a call if I'm free" and then of course never calling, just to keep me fresh in her mind in a non-needy way. Just an idea :D
 

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Aazman,

First off, a lot can happen in three months, so without knowing more details, I wouldn't hedge all bets on this situation. That said, you definitely must initiate contact but not in a needy way. Waiting on a chick to call is a big mistake. She won't make contact unless she is either interested big time or you are involved with her in some type of relationship. Over the summer, text her once in a while, and maybe call her like once every three weeks, but keep convos and texts as brief as possible.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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