"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What is the mindset of a man like?

I'm in the Mood

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I'm asking you men who know best to answer this.
What is a man and how do you adopt the mindset of a man?

Morals, confidence, sexuality...what really makes the man?

I KNOW the answer to this question will greatly help me and many other training DJs out there.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Basically it's, knowing what you love, to the point of TEARS, and constantly taking action, in the spirit of, the love you're currently experiencing, and want to share with others. It's standing for what is right to the core of your being, being honest. You're a survivor, no matter the cost. You're self-sacrificial.
 

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Confidence, control, joy of life and selfRESPECT.
 

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The mindset of a man is simply strength. At the times I have felt the most manly, it is because I have felt strong and unwavering in the face of challenge.

People are b1tching and hating on you:
A man doesn't care, and even laughs at and welcomes their pathetic attempts to bring him down. He knows who he is and is too strong to be put down by cowards. The threat of a challenge gives him renewed joy and strength to prove that he is above all those b1tches.

People all around are panicking and in confusion:
A man holds himself with a steady calm, gathering his thoughts on the situation whilst others haphazardly panic. His indifference to the high emotion and fear stands him out as the leader who can unite people and solve the problem, all the while cutting through the bullsh1t and revealing a solution of simplicity.

You are taking up a new hobby/skill/career/challenge:
A man will feel the hardship from a new challenge at first, and may even despair in those first few seconds. Yet he knows that only through determination and perseverance will he overcome the first struggles, and that the challenge will diminish. He has the strength to fight on where overs give up, the sheer wilpower to overcome even his own limitations, to provide for self-discovery unseen in common people.
 

I'm in the Mood

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I see some similar words here, but everyones responses are different.

Is there something that we can all agree on that defines a "man?"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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No... Everyone thinks differently. Did you have a certain man in mind? Read about 3 threads with a few pages of replies and choose what attributes sound good to you. Adapt them, and you will have created your own man. Nothing in the world feels better, plus there is no other way of doing it.
 

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A man is what a boy willed himself to become

there are lots of types of men
 

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Being a man list:

Do what you want to do.
Act how you want to act.
Love what you want to love.
Become what you want to be.
Dress how you want to dress.
Respect others, and respect yourself.
Treat others well.
Stand your ground when needed.
Speak your mind.
Make decisions based on what YOU want.
Don't hide your feelings, you're human.
Have goals, everyday.
Be agressive, take action.
Be a leader, others will follow.
Enjoy everything life has to offer.

And most of all, do all of these things without caring what other's think of you!

(Feel free to add to the list)
 

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the words that have impacted me the most, on what the mindset of a man should be, came within PRLs Natural Order of Things post.

Dominant qualities that the male possess in their aggressiveness are; a courageous heart, a confrontational and a hostile mind, a protective spirit, a productive and industrious nature, a bold attitude, a relentless mindset, oriented towards strict discipline. When a man goes outside of his nature of aggressiveness, he is seen as weak and irresponsible, lackadaisical, and a failure in carryout his duties as a man. He is judged harshly as a fool and incompetent.
truer words have never been spoken.

-SLB
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dominant qualities that the male possess in their aggressiveness are; a courageous heart, a confrontational and a hostile mind, a protective spirit, a productive and industrious nature, a bold attitude, a relentless mindset, oriented towards strict discipline. When a man goes outside of his nature of aggressiveness, he is seen as weak and irresponsible, lackadaisical, and a failure in carryout his duties as a man. He is judged harshly as a fool and incompetent.
Said well, damn.
I don't think you need much more than this mindset to persue your manhood.

Thanks for sharing dude, this shyt helps a lot!
 
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