"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TheMale

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Self Improvement !

hey people,

as some of you may know, i'm studying NLP as a profession.
last day we talked about self improvement and i thought about this forum where everybody here, obviously, are going through a self improvement.
teacher gave us some homework (project)and research and i want to gather all information i can on that topic.

i'm really interested to know, what is your key point, on what to work, and how to work it out, so you can have the best image of yourself you've always wanted to.

it also can be a reference to newbie members.

for my part it was:
*doing thing i always wanted to - for example, i always wanted to know how to play guitar, so i bought one and started to learn
*get rid of bad habits - i was playing a lot of video games and now, i don't even play anymore.
*self discipline - stopped masturbating, it's been a month now.
and there's some more i can't remember right now

waiting for your answers !
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I think in the most basic sense, fundamental self improvement usually involves:

1. Improving your career (usually this means making more money, but may also mean getting into a career that you really love. Or both).
2. Improving your appearance (diet, exercise, style, etc.)
3. Improving your social status (improving your social skills, improving your game, meeting new people, finding the right social circles, etc.)

Those are important things almost anybody could work on, and directly benefit you without taking women into account. Beyond that, things get more personalized. Like your wanting to learn to play guitar, for instance, that's a more individualized goal.

The how also varies, but your suggestions of self discipline and dropping bad habits for good ones are a good place to start.
 

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What is the key points, in your opinion, to Self Improvement !
I think that the first step before any conscious self-improvement can begin is when a man recognizes that there is ROOM for improvement in at least ONE particular area of his life.
 

TheMale

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Victory Unlimited said:
I think that the first step before any conscious self-improvement can begin is when a man recognizes that there is ROOM for improvement in at least ONE particular area of his life.
amen borther !

what after ?
assuming that i know my life sucks (hypothetically), what is the next step ?

how do you know where to direct yourself to begin self improvement, what to start ?
how do you know you got what you needed to get ? (if for example i'm a geek that wanna be a player) how do i know that my past wont follow me ?
 
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