"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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What is the end game?

DoItAgain

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I'm just wondering what the end game is with women...I mean, when all is said and done, what do you want from a woman...a quality girlfriend/wife and so on?

I'm at a point where I believe that most attractive women (and a lot of the not so attractive ones) come with baggage and drama and other than their physical appearance and sex are nothing but trouble. At the same time, I can't stop thinking about women anyway.

I was trying to think about what I'd want...and I can't honestly say I know what I want in the future women-wise. I know what I don't want (marriage and kids) but I don't know what I want, if anything.

At the moment, what motivates me is finding a girl who's as sexual as I am, but is into sexual monogamy. The kind of girl that has a kinky side for the right person...and isn't looking for meet her future husband, is just looking to hang out/have fun/have sex in different places/have a frisky relationship in general...and the connection is based on the physical connection, not talking about problems or boring stuff.

You could say "you're looking for a friends with benefits"...but I could be exclusive with such a woman.

So I guess what drives me is finding a woman I can't keep my hands off of who feels the same way.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

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The game ends when you die or when viagra cannot get your rocket launcher hard...

I think you are contradicting yourself when you say: You wanna be exclusive with a woman but at the same time you want to have a friend with benefits.

Exclusive with a woman = LTR (Long-Term Relationship)
Friends with benefits = Fun without the Relationship

So it's impossible to have both at the same time because if you don't wanna hear the problems and you are just in for the sex, you must detach yourself from emotion and expect the chick to have sex with other guys. Also, you can lose the girl if she decides to have a LTR with someone else.

If your looking for commitment, sex is just a part of the package. There's gotta be understanding, love, trust, fidelity. So if you wanna commit understand that you gotta be able to lead the girl and hold you ground when you guys are arguing (because it's going to happen)

About the fact that you are contradicting youself, did you meant that you wanna be in a LTR with the sexual passion that comes with a friend with benefits relationship ?
 

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Yes, that's what I meant.

I want a girl who show up at my house wearing nothing but an overcoat...or will let me rub her leg when we're out to eat...doesn't have a stick up her a$$ in general. Basically I want Roz from Frasier...a girl that loves sex, loves fun and passion, but also has a serious side when needed...but when needed being the operative phrase.

I'm not looking for some boring, let's hang out with boring friends and get drunk, go to movies, type of relationship.

The good news about myself is that if I'm physically attracted to a woman, it doesn't fade. I'd rather be with a girl that's a 9 or 10 to me lookswise than have a string of women that are a 6-7-8 to me.
 

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DoItAgain said:
Yes, that's what I meant.

I want a girl who show up at my house wearing nothing but an overcoat...or will let me rub her leg when we're out to eat...doesn't have a stick up her a$$ in general. Basically I want Roz from Frasier...a girl that loves sex, loves fun and passion, but also has a serious side when needed...but when needed being the operative phrase.

I'm not looking for some boring, let's hang out with boring friends and get drunk, go to movies, type of relationship.

The good news about myself is that if I'm physically attracted to a woman, it doesn't fade. I'd rather be with a girl that's a 9 or 10 to me lookswise than have a string of women that are a 6-7-8 to me.

That's cool man, but you really have to enjoy the process of meeting girls. Because you will have to qualify lots of girls in order to find the one that meets your needs. Some will reject you, some will be party girls that are not serious, some will be way too serious. So have fun, go out, have sex ! ;) That way you will not project the image that you will do anything to be in a relationship (girls don't fall for that type of attitude)

Remember: You will CHOOSE to have a relationship not SETTLE for one.

P.S: The last quote is interesting, because personally, I rather have a bunch of 6,7 and 8 on my team, spinning plates, having fun with all of them and THEN aim for that 9 or 9.5 (looks wise) because I will be more confident. My sexual needs won't be depending of her.
 

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Everyone's end game is different. My personal goal is to have as many women that I consider 8.0 and above cause me to have an orgasm with one or more of their three available holes before I die. Pretty simple.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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