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[DonGiovanni]

Increase IL in one target? Theres this girl i want a LTR with (not a oneitis case) but her interest level isnt high enough and im stuck so what should I do?

 

[f283000]

Increase IL in one target? Theres this girl i want a LTR with (not a oneitis case) but her interest level isnt high enough and im stuck so what should I do?

Firs thing's first. Answer me the following

1. Have you gone out with her?
2. Is she your girlfriend?

 

[DonGiovanni]

1.kinda
2.No.

 

[blueline]

Workout, get attention from other girls around her, host a party and invite her, or play a show. You basically can't increase IL. It's a yes, no, or maybe. The maybe girl is a pain in the ass and you're better off meeting some new chicks.

 

[DonGiovanni]

Workout, get attention from other girls around her, host a party and invite her, or play a show. You basically can't increase IL. It's a yes, no, or maybe. The maybe girl is a pain in the ass and you're better off meeting some new chicks.

I thought "Maybe" meant no? and I just want something I can do to push her over the fence because If I fxck up then shes in the "not really" zone and im going to get annoyed and next her.

 

[Doc Freezy]

be a famous rapper.

in lieu of that hit on her friends. she'll wonder why you show no interest in her.

 

[DonGiovanni]

What if her friends are ugly or annoying?

 

[Igetit!]

Increase IL in one target? Theres this girl i want a LTR with (not a oneitis case) but her interest level isnt high enough and im stuck so what should I do?

There's not really enough info here to help you out.

For example....

How long have you known this girl?
How often do you see/talk to her?
Have you ever asked her out? If so,what did she say,and if not,then why not?

and one very,VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION....whenever you two do talk,WHAT DO YOU TALK ABOUT?


Oh yeah,and what did you mean by you "kind went out with her"?

There is no "kinda" going out,you either did or didn't.


Try to answer ALL of these question as DIRECTLY as you can.


We know you want to date this girl,that's where you want to go,but first,we need to see where you currently are with her.

 

[pipe007]

how about

ask her out!.... duh!

once you do, be playful tease, escalate.....

 

[DonGiovanni]

There's not really enough info here to help you out.

For example....

How long have you known this girl?
How often do you see/talk to her?
Have you ever asked her out? If so,what did she say,and if not,then why not?

and one very,VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION....whenever you two do talk,WHAT DO YOU TALK ABOUT?


Oh yeah,and what did you mean by you "kind went out with her"?

There is no "kinda" going out,you either did or didn't.


Try to answer ALL of these question as DIRECTLY as you can.


We know you want to date this girl,that's where you want to go,but first,we need to see where you currently are with her.

Alright Straight Facts No BS
1.1 month
2. everday we attend the same school(but I might be transfering)
3. No because shes young and always busy lol

and under further speculation I have deduced that kinda as a No.
We've never gone out. together. alone.

 

[f283000]

Alright Straight Facts No BS
1.1 month
2. everday we attend the same school(but I might be transfering)
3. No because shes young and always busy lol

and under further speculation I have deduced that kinda as a No.
We've never gone out. together. alone.

So why didn't you answer truthfully the first time I asked you? That's why I asked you and Iqqi asked you what we did. I kinda knew one of your weaknesses from reading your post.

You are asking about trying to increase IL in a girl you "want an ltr with."

Your weakness is that you're approaching this situation with the wrong mentality already. You want an LTR with a woman you haven't even gone out with! You want an LTR with a woman you have known for just 1 month and you only see in school! How the hell do you want an LTR with a woman you don't even know? For all you know she might be a crack head or shoot heroin on her spare time and had 3 abortions already!

This is the mentality of an afc which only attracts a negative outcome to your dating life. To want a woman for an LTR that you don't even know is putting her way above in a pedestal and setting too high expectations.

I know this is what happens to most of us when afcs. We meet a pretty girl and we immediately start imagining being in a relationship with her. We see her as angelic, wonderful and are willing to do whatever we can to have a relationship with them.

But what happens is that when we place too high expectations and become delusional with women we often fail. Most of it comes due to the way we behave with these women. Due to us putting them on a pedestal we behave like afcs and try to be nice to them thinking this will actually help us.

Try to approach women 1 step at a time and from a point of view of trying to sex her and nothing more rather than "omg i want to marry this girl yet i haven't even gone out with her!"

1. get their #
2. ask them out

work your way up the ladder like that instead of "I only known this girl for a month but I want an LTR with her, but I haven't even gone out with her"

 

[Igetit!]

Thanks for answering the questions,although the MOST IMPORTANT ONE of what it is you two talk about you failed to answer,lol.


Alright,straight to the point.....


FRIENDZONE.


There's a very good chance that that's where you are. It'd be easier to determine if you had answered the "what do you two talk about?" question I asked.


I'm looking at a guy who's known her for a month (30+days),has seen her virtually every one of those days,and has never asked her out.


Although you never said what it was that you two talked about,it's obvious that whatever it was you two discuss,it has NOTHING TO DO with dating,and that's a problem.



There are only THREE WAYS that a girl responds to a guy who shows sexual interest in her.....

1:She shows interest back
2:She rejects you,or...
3:The friendzone (which is another form of rejection)


One of these three things should have already happened by now.
And if they haven't,then you haven't been doing your job of making your interest known.



It's simple: You're not going to get a date with the girl if the subject of dating never comes up. And the longer you go WITHOUT BRINGING IT UP,the GREATER the chances are that you'll NEVER go out with her.



This girl....she isn't psychic,is she? To your knowledge,she isn't a mindreader,right? Well how is she supposed to know that you have interest in her unless YOU bring it up?




You've known her a month. Well you should have asked her out over 3 and a half weeks ago. You can still ask her out now,but chances are that things will become uncomfortable between you two because for her,she's probably gotten used to you NOT BEING ROMANTIC OR FLIRTY with her.

3. No because shes young and always busy lol

You say that you haven't asked her out yet because she's young and always busy. That's horsesh*t and you know it.


If she's really always "busy",then why did you make this thread asking how to go about winning her over? What,did she suddenly get a bunch of free time three hours ago when you made this thread?




Look,all you can do is simply ask her out,and that's it. Again,your chances of dating her would have been MUCH HIGHER if you had done it early on into knowing her,but it's too late for that. You are where you are,and all you can do is what you should have done in the beginning.

 

[Darth]

^^Listen to Igetit

 

[DonGiovanni]

No no no
Im terribly sorry lol Im trying to express the situation as detailed as possible without being byassed in my favor

But no, MILD Kino is present and Interest is there! I just want to know what i can do to Gain a Little more because if I wait to long then I WILL be in the friendzone! And to answer your question, when we talk we talk about Random Shxt with me teasing her!

A man takes what he wants.
Help me increase interest.

Ps if its worth noting im doing the dj boot camp and the afc thoughts may slip through from time to time

 

[Igetit!]

But no, MILD Kino is present and Interest is there!

You say that interest is there. Umm...ok,so what are you waiting on? You say that interest in there,and yet,a WHOLE MONTH has passed by,and you still haven't done anything.


Don't be shocked or surprised if one of these days when you're talking to her about "random sh*t" she tells you about the new guy she's been dating for the past two or three weeks.


If some other guy comes in and swoops her up while you're still waiting for her interest to increase to some "mythical level",don't be angry or upset with her,and don't come back here whining about how she did you wrong because it won't be her fault.

I just want to know what i can do to Gain a Little more because if I wait to long then I WILL be in the friendzone!

Uhh...gain a little more? What does that mean? You said quote,"Interest is there!". Well if it's there,you need to strike while the iron is hot.


I think I know what you're trying to do. You're trying to wait until you're 100% certain that she'll say yes before you ask her out.


Ain't gonna happen my friend. You'll stall her interest out before that happens. You just need to go for it,but to be honest with you,I think you've ALREADY waited too long.

And to answer your question, when we talk we talk about Random Shxt with me teasing her!

With you teasing her,but not asking her out.

You talked about teasing her,but teasing means NOTHING.
You talked about kino,but kino means NOTHING.
You talked about you two discussing "random sh#t",but that means NOTHING.


You can tease,you can neg,you can joke,you can play,you can flirt around with her,you can see her everyday,you can kino her until she's bruised,but unless you ASK HER OUT,it all means NOTHING.

 

[DonGiovanni]

ok.