Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Mr. Goods

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...a girl using "no contact" or the silent treatment as a test/game and a girl who just doesn't have any interest in you/doesn't care for you?
Are there any ways to tell which one she is doing?
If the HB decides to do this immediately when she leaves (i.e. she returns to school for a little while) after being very friendly/forward in person, are there ways to tell the difference?

I ask because: 1.) It's probably tough to tell, especially if the girl plays it out. 2.) I am an outgoing/talkative person, and would very easily fall into this trap because of my nature. I can usually see through several tests girls play, but a smart HB would know this one creates some trouble for me. I need to be ready for it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The difference lies in the type of relationship you have with this girl .

LTR and/or living together /marriage = she is testing you.

Anything else = she doesn't give a rats ass about you.
 

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Tiguere said:
living together /marriage = she is testing you.
Why is there even testing at this point? I know it has little to do with the thread, but using this test at that stage makes no sense IMO.
 

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Mr. Goods said:
Why is there even testing at this point? I know it has little to do with the thread, but using this test at that stage makes no sense IMO.
Because the behavior of broads does not make sense most of the time. That being said, women need to know that they are with a strong, assertive, dominant man. YOu see it a lot on these boards, guy gets confortable, looses his edge, and the woman goes cold on him, he comes here asking why she lost interest, if he was the dream boyfriend/husband, etc. At this point the man has stopped being who he was when he attracted her. He, in her view, has become a weak man, not attractive. We see a lot of wussified men here. I really can't blame her for $hit testing, if it is her only way to know if he is the real deal.

Man who becomes weak/comfortable = woman who gets fat. They both cause lower attraction in their mate.

In the case of the OP, she is not interested if she's giving you the silent treatment. A woman who is interested in you, would not risk loosing out on you by being immature, or just plain rude, by ignoring you.
 

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My take on stuff like this is that you never know, therefore there's no need to even talk much about it. It's all the same thing to me. Maybe she's "testing", maybe she isn't, either way you're gonna play it out the same way (i.e. just assume it's a 'test'). So it doesn't matter.

That being said I don't think I've ever dealt with a girl who was straight-up testing me. Except for one girl maybe, but I just lost interest because she stopped being around and I had other things to do.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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