"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What is the difference between staring and eye contact?

Viper

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Yes, I want to know what the difference between staring and eye contact is. Even though I don't think I stare and I do move my eyes around, people still say that I stare. Like I'll be looking at the teacher, nodding my head, than I'll look to the left and look to the right quickly and then focus my eyes back on the teacher or in band, when our band director is talking I'll have my eyes fixed on him, but look around at the other band members, once in a while. I thought by doing that I wasn't staring, but apparently people still think I do stare at them. Something I also want to know is, if your walking through the hall, engaging eye contact with random people, should you hold eye contact with them until they're out of your sight or give them eye contact for a slight second, than break eye contact? This is something I've really been wondering about. So yeah, I want to know the difference between staring, looking and eye contact, some examples of each would be nice.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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08aisaac

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I dunno, I mean, sometimes I will initiate EC, but most of the time, I will see someone looking my way, and I will aknowlege there prescence. Guess it depends on who it is. I never stare at the teacher, mainly because I don't need to listen, or whatever.

But like I will see a chick or her friend looking, and you really have to notice it, because they do, then you just look there way, just one second after they look away, or maybe a few seconds, you can look away, so you have established yourself, but you aren't starting.
 

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The difference between Sargin and EC:

EC: Eye contact with women, make ec and hold it a sec. longer than they do.

Sarging: Approaching women.
 

The Comeback Kid

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Staring is when you DON'T make eye contact, but are still looking at them.

I think it could also be if you make eye contact with them, but you keep looking after she looks away...for a while.

It's something like that I believe. ;)
 

The Master Disaster

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EC is comforitable
Staring is uncomforitable

If you look at them the WHOLE TIME THEY TALK like 20 mins thats staring the woman doens't feel comfortable. But when she looks at you you look at her while she makes a point then look away for a couple moments thats EC.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ok this is what i do when i look at the teacher...
NODD YOUR HEAD
this makes you look like a good listener rather than a person that stares...

Also!
when you make EC with girls you should smile damit!
Going like this :eek: is not gonna accomplish anything while ur making EC
 
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ec: lock eyes, no blinkin, smile
stare: blinking like a dumbas*, no smile, = creepy
 

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yeah....definateley have to smile or it is just plain wierd....you can only not smile when you are giving a girl a seductive look, but don't overdo OR attept with a girl you haven't established yourself with (i.e. a girl you havent used C&F/kino on)

goodluck mate

~Josh
 

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wtf?
why would you look away when you are listening to someone, CRACKERS
in school i sit in whole class looking at teacher the whole time they speak, i dunno how else you can listen well cause my mind wanders too quickly if i dont look at the person, it works against them if they got a cool pattern on their shirt :(
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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