"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what is the deal with getting a girls number and next day nothing?

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I always seem to get girls numbers at the mall saturday i try to call them the next day and they ignore me what is the deal? Yesterday I had a good interaction with her at the mall seemed receptive and i texted her when I left the mall she said Lol I got u have fun and be safe. I tried calling her tonight nothing.

What is the deal? Do I need to talk to her more build more rapport how do I do this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've been feeling the same way lol. I'm sick of this bull**** about how you can't take a girl seriously till you have at least had sex with them. Getting a girl's number doesn't mean jack **** anymore lol.
 
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ok and u guys tell me that you shouldnt be texting girls now your saying text i just dont get it i mean really. But I guses i will start texting the girl once I get the number to make her feel comfortable. and call next day ask out on date? What do you guys normally text a girl about or ask?
 
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the rapport i had was like 5 minutes and she seemed receptive and she texted me back when i got number said hope you have fun be safe said lol i got u. and i tried hitting her up today she ignored so obviously something happend within 24 hrs that changed her mind. So what I am saying is do I need to talk to a girl more get her interested right when I get her number so she doesnt ignore me next day?
 

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so obviously something happend within 24 hrs that changed her mind
Your hamster needs to take a chill pill. Picking up girls cold approach is a rough gig. You're basically trying to get convince a stranger you've never met before, out of no where, who isn't intoxicated or under the influence, that she should want to have sex with you... in about a minute.

Your success is going to be low. Just because you get the number doesn't mean you scored. She didn't answer, oh well. Stop worrying about it. On to the next one.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A couple of things:

Cold approach.... even if you are good at it, is at best a 10-20% success rate, meaning she'll meet you on a date. If you aren't good at it, then you might get a 1 out of 20. It takes A LOT of skill, and most of that is correctly IDing women that are open to your approach.

Women will give you their number without ANY intention of her ever responding because she is just trying to get rid of you. She will just screen out your call. The reason they do this is it's too much trouble arguing with a man that has just approached her. If you call and she doesn't answer, don't get butt hurt, just delete the number.

On texting: I used to say never... but it seams to work out better if you are trying to set up dates now a days then calling. BUT, playing digital footie with women is a waste of time. The only 'text' you should send a women is asking her out. I would prefer calling her since you don't have to wait for an answer. But I will say that on the few times I've asked women out by text, they flake MUCH less.... I don't know why, but I suspect that when you call a woman, her knee jerk reaction is to say yes.... even if she doesn't mean it, only later to hear "Something has come up." I don't think any date I've set up via text was cancelled.
 

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Most women are crazy, emotional and erratic. They can flake on you for 100s of different reasons, most of which probably have nothing to do with you as a person and more to do with their own insecurities.
They'll talk themselves out of dates with perfectly fine men.
Call to ask them out also. Shows more confidence imo but be prepared for no answer, quick hang up etc
 

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COLD APROCH.


EQUALS SEX APPEAL


U CAN COLD APPROACH WITH NEVK PIMPLES...OR COLD APPROACH WITH LIPS ON UR NECK...BOTH ARE SORTA BAD...BUT WE KNOWS WHO WINS
 

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Yes, I agree, slow your hamster roll...

Sounds like she may have given you her number even though she initially had mild to low interest, or she's now seeing you as desperate so NOW her interest is lowered, OR she could just be trying to have you chase her so she can brag about to all her friends.

Either way, go get another number. Nice job on that, BTW. I've been out of the cold approach game for a while, it's tough.
 

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You need to go instadates before asking for the number and stop putting much stake in getting the number.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I think it's common for a girl to talk to a guy for a bit, decide he's not for her, and drop her number just to end things on a good note.

I had this discussion with a girl once, she asked me why I didn't call her friend anymore and I told her I just wasn't that into her. This girl did not understand that nothing is something. She actually wanted me to tell the girl I didn't like her. I had to explain to her that why would I have this damaging negative conversation with another person if I could avoid it.
 

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next day call = neediness
 

Who Dares Win

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Its not such a big deal if you get her number and she disappears, I have girls I had sex with many times that ignore me, many friends report the same.

Bro this is not 1999 where you meet a girl, get her number and call her to get a date which will happen with 90% possibilities.

This is 2016, the same moment she get a beep from her cellphone you're history, its no longer about not screwing up, its about overcoming a pile of sh1t while having fortune to favour you with coincidences.
 
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