"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What is the best way to get over a break up? Vote now!

What is the best way to handle a break up?

  • Beg her to come back to you and tell her you need her

    Votes: 1 5.0%
  • Send her presents or make grand gestures to win her back

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Write long letters/emails explaining all your mistakes and how you can put it right

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Cut all contact, delete all contact details and move on

    Votes: 11 55.0%
  • Get angry with her and send her abusive texts/emails

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Lay on a guilt trip and try to make her feel sorry for you

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Go out and bang other women

    Votes: 7 35.0%
  • Other (please give details)

    Votes: 1 5.0%

  • Total voters
    20

Jariel

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I already know the answer to this question, but I think it will be helpful for everyone going through break ups to see some poll results.

So many of us have had first hand experience of break ups, and have tried every possibility imaginable to try and win her back, and yet whenever we try to pass on our wisdom to others in that position, they tend to ignore the advice and repeat all those failed methods for themselves.

What has worked best in your own personal experience?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Renegade357

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Acceptance and time is the only way.

Also I like begging because once you ruin any chance you ever had of getting back with her by being a complete wussy it should be easier to move on lol.
 

skinnyguy

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Once you start banging other women, you'll realize what a puss you were for even thinking about her after the breakup. There are so many hoes out there that it's completely pointless to feel bad after breaking up with one of them. Breakups are good because they lead you to a better woman.
 

Masculinity

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I want to say cut all contact and wait. Assuming you were the one doing the dumping for a reason that was not terrible, your ex can become a FB. If she is the one who dumped you, however, the whole game changes. I would just go NC period.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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