"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What is the best way to get over a break up? Vote now!

What is the best way to handle a break up?

  • Beg her to come back to you and tell her you need her

    Votes: 1 5.0%
  • Send her presents or make grand gestures to win her back

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Write long letters/emails explaining all your mistakes and how you can put it right

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Cut all contact, delete all contact details and move on

    Votes: 11 55.0%
  • Get angry with her and send her abusive texts/emails

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Lay on a guilt trip and try to make her feel sorry for you

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Go out and bang other women

    Votes: 7 35.0%
  • Other (please give details)

    Votes: 1 5.0%

  • Total voters
    20

Jariel

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I already know the answer to this question, but I think it will be helpful for everyone going through break ups to see some poll results.

So many of us have had first hand experience of break ups, and have tried every possibility imaginable to try and win her back, and yet whenever we try to pass on our wisdom to others in that position, they tend to ignore the advice and repeat all those failed methods for themselves.

What has worked best in your own personal experience?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Renegade357

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Acceptance and time is the only way.

Also I like begging because once you ruin any chance you ever had of getting back with her by being a complete wussy it should be easier to move on lol.
 

skinnyguy

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Once you start banging other women, you'll realize what a puss you were for even thinking about her after the breakup. There are so many hoes out there that it's completely pointless to feel bad after breaking up with one of them. Breakups are good because they lead you to a better woman.
 

Masculinity

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I want to say cut all contact and wait. Assuming you were the one doing the dumping for a reason that was not terrible, your ex can become a FB. If she is the one who dumped you, however, the whole game changes. I would just go NC period.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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