What is the appropriate way to react when you're rejected?

[J Roc]

Why did you buy her a drink before you got her number?

 

[plate's_empty]

Yeah, buddy, I read your post, and I appreciated it before you began attacking me. Calm the fvck down.

The first sentence you sound like a woman. The second sentence would make another man dump his beer on your head and fart in your face. Either way, you're losing.

 

[fuzzball]

A woman who rejects you should immediately become a non-entity.

So the right reaction is to immediately move on to the next girl and forget this girl exists.

There are some men who persistently chase women with low interest level and over time "win them over". But a woman you have to sell yourself to is not a woman you want to be with.

Also.. I don't understand why so many men on this site what to "come off a certain way" after a rejection. Why do you give a sh!t what women think in the first place? What women think doesn't matter! A woman can hate your guts and still blow you the next day. Sexual attraction has nothing to do with approval of you as a person.

So men.. STOP giving a sh!t what women "think". It really doesn't matter and never has!

question would this it doesnt matter what they think apply to a LTR or marriage? or do women no matter what forever remain locked in the weird and chaotic world of womanverse and their thoughts forever mean absolutely nothing? i'd like to think by the time they at least become a mother their thoughts hold value or maybe i am wrong? at which point what it is to be a mother greatly confuses me because it seems like with motherhood brings vast wisdom.

 

[HalfAddict]

Its exactly answers like 'I don't tolerate bull****' that will often make the girl think they made the right decision to reject you. I am not saying you would outright say that, but body language and tone can often tell the girl that even if you used the words 'ok i'll see you around'. Its called sulking, and its what children do.

Rabba RABBA RABBA THIS IS ****IN RABBATALK.

She isn't interested? Next. Your demeanor should not change at all... as someone said previously she becomes a non-entity. If you are approaching then you are getting rejected it really should feel no different. It's whatever, happens all the time, just be cool man.

You should not tolerate bull****, ain't nobody got time for that..

You are the prize, this is not sulking unless you are walking around with your head down and your tail between your legs. Stand tall, don't be rude, just be dismissive....like I said you have more important **** to be doing than worrying about some ****ing dime a dozen hb six denying you her phone number.

In all honesty she's going to justify her decision in any most likely ridiculous way possible so who gives a **** if he's sulking anyways.. only one way to learn and that's the hard way.

 

[PlayHer Man]

question would this it doesnt matter what they think apply to a LTR or marriage? or do women no matter what forever remain locked in the weird and chaotic world of womanverse and their thoughts forever mean absolutely nothing? i'd like to think by the time they at least become a mother their thoughts hold value or maybe i am wrong? at which point what it is to be a mother greatly confuses me because it seems like with motherhood brings vast wisdom.

A woman's opinions on the topics of dating, sex, and relationships should be completely ignored. Its not a woman's place to tell a man how to act or how to treat her. Its up the man to decide what she deserves and she can either accept it or reject it.

Now.. feel free to listen to a woman's opinions on fashion, style, kids, food and any other topic outside of "how men should act". A woman has no idea how a man should act... half the time the behavior that turns her on sexually is behavior she finds offensive mentally.

Listening to women is a big mistake. Just stop doing it and you're see how masculine, strong and sexy you'll feel.

 

[justanothernormalguy]

Rabba RABBA RABBA THIS IS ****IN RABBATALK.

She isn't interested? Next. Your demeanor should not change at all... as someone said previously she becomes a non-entity. If you are approaching then you are getting rejected it really should feel no different. It's whatever, happens all the time, just be cool man.

You should not tolerate bull****, ain't nobody got time for that..

You are the prize, this is not sulking unless you are walking around with your head down and your tail between your legs. Stand tall, don't be rude, just be dismissive....like I said you have more important **** to be doing than worrying about some ****ing dime a dozen hb six denying you her phone number.

In all honesty she's going to justify her decision in any most likely ridiculous way possible so who gives a **** if he's sulking anyways.. only one way to learn and that's the hard way.

Why would you need to be dismissive? Why not just be polite and move on? Why do you feel the need to attempt to assert how little you give a **** on the girl? It seems to me that sort of thing takes more energy than just genuinely not being feeling phased by it and not reacting at all. Saying 'stand tall', well you should be doing that anyway as its important to have self-worth. Being rejected isn't a reason to start pushing your chest out and beating it like a gorilla.

If a girl rejects me, ill say something like 'Ok no problem. Take care.' then make my excuses and leave. I don't have a voice in my head, as you seem to do, shouting "Stand up tall and don't let that ***** give you ****!!!'. Because I genuinely wouldn't care...whereas it sounds like you would. Even if the girl was rude to me, I still wouldn't waste my energy giving her a piece of my mind, I'd laugh and walk off.

 

[dementia]

I like saying "oh...well...that's one way to treat people...*slight laugh/grin"(inspired by crazy, stupid love - when the guy approaches a girl for the first time with his wing and then fully dismisses him like "he was just leaving" and his wing replies that and walks away. The first time I did it the girl came back and said "what did u mean by that" and I number closed by treating her like she was way uncool and I was shocked by it. Kinda like guilt tripping her / making her feel uncool. It was wierd. Having said that I need to field test it more.

 

[fuzzball]

A woman's opinions on the topics of dating, sex, and relationships should be completely ignored. Its not a woman's place to tell a man how to act or how to treat her. Its up the man to decide what she deserves and she can either accept it or reject it.

Now.. feel free to listen to a woman's opinions on fashion, style, kids, food and any other topic outside of "how men should act". A woman has no idea how a man should act... half the time the behavior that turns her on sexually is behavior she finds offensive mentally.

Listening to women is a big mistake. Just stop doing it and you're see how masculine, strong and sexy you'll feel.

weird and fascinating. they hold valid opinions on a ton of other stuff but never dating and sex. logically it makes 0 sense but i suppose theres no way around that.

 

[PlayHer Man]

weird and fascinating. they hold valid opinions on a ton of other stuff but never dating and sex. logically it makes 0 sense but i suppose theres no way around that.

Didn't say their opinions on love, sex and relationships are not valid.. I just said they should be ignored.

They are VALID only for the benefit of WOMEN. Men have nothing to gain from women's opinions on relationships. Their opinions are always self-serving and with the benefit or WOMEN in mind. Its never about the man's needs or the man's wants (why would it be? :crackup: ).

Asking women for dating advice is like a woman asking a man how to get a rich man to marry her without having sex. There is a give and take between the two genders that causes ONE side to benefit only when the other loses. This is the reason for the endless power struggle between men and women.

A woman benefits when a man spends money on her or commits to her. But the man loses money and/or opportunities to spread his seed elsewhere. A man benefits when he f*cks a woman without working for it or committing to her first. But the woman loses a relationship AND she lowers her value by adding to her c0ck count.

So why on earth would any sane man expect to get beneficial dating advice from women?

If you listen to women.. you will make a lot of women happy at your own expense. :nono:

 

[Mike32ct]

I agree with PlayHerMan.

But the "don't take dating advice from women" was also discussed by f283000, myself, and several others a while ago. See below.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=181434&highlight=Bond

 

[LiveFreeX]

You should have said,

"No loss, you are a 6 at best anyway and will probably end up a single mother before long"

then you should go abroad, meet a feminine 10, have kids and forget about that slag forever.

 

[fuzzball]

Didn't say their opinions on love, sex and relationships are not valid.. I just said they should be ignored.

They are VALID only for the benefit of WOMEN. Men have nothing to gain from women's opinions on relationships. Their opinions are always self-serving and with the benefit or WOMEN in mind. Its never about the man's needs or the man's wants (why would it be? :crackup: ).

Asking women for dating advice is like a woman asking a man how to get a rich man to marry her without having sex. There is a give and take between the two genders that causes ONE side to benefit only when the other loses. This is the reason for the endless power struggle between men and women.

A woman benefits when a man spends money on her or commits to her. But the man loses money and/or opportunities to spread his seed elsewhere. A man benefits when he f*cks a woman without working for it or committing to her first. But the woman loses a relationship AND she lowers her value by adding to her c0ck count.

So why on earth would any sane man expect to get beneficial dating advice from women?

If you listen to women.. you will make a lot of women happy at your own expense. :nono:

ah thanks for the clarification. it seems i was lumping the "opinion not valid" into the same box of "ignore it". it makes much more sense now.

What are you talking about? Do men automatically have amazing insight into women's issues because they're good at engineering and math? Check your own logic. And try to come from a position of life experience like PlayHerMan instead of wearing your own ignorance as a badge of honor.

what are you mad about? i was asking questions. i got confused. deal with it i am a noob trying to learn from my past sissy boy self.

I agree with PlayHerMan.

But the "don't take dating advice from women" was also discussed by f283000, myself, and several others a while ago. See below.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=181434&highlight=Bond

between this and PlayHerMan posting my mind is blown. it also doesnt help i am still silently sobbing over taking the GRE practice test too....why graduate school must you have a standardized test i havent taken one in over 10 years

thanks for that link. great stuff even if a bit mind blowing. though it certainly explains A LOT.

 

[HalfAddict]

You assume these are things that I do... These are things I did at one point that were required to have that ability to shrug this off.

Because normal guy, most dudes will hang their head in shame and nearly cry when that girl rejects them. So until they reach the point in which no ****s are given they must use a crutch. That crutch could be any or all of the things mentioned. Ain't rocket science. There was a question asked, and a question answered. Eventually he will get to the point where chest beating is no longer required, however until that point, stand tall, do what needs to be done until you are comfortable with the idea of "rejection"...

"There is no rejection; you are merely finding out if she has good taste. After all, she is looking for a guy that fits her interests and tastes. If she doesn't like you for whatever reason, let her! And thank her for doing so!”" - Pook

Reframing works just as well.