What is she trying to accomplish?

[Fitters]

After a 4 year relationship that I ended , she replaced me within A MONTH.
Her "dream guy" relationship blew up in her face. She told my parents she made the biggest mistake of her life. She told my best friends she wants me back and is just waiting for me to make a move. Today she randomly texted me saying she hates the way I'm treating her.

Me: lool I'm actually intrigued by how my actions are affecting your life since I barely talked to you the past 9 months.

Her: it just does , you see me as a sex object now. I know I hurt you but you hurt me first.
Her : You know what just forget it
Her : Just forget about me asking to work things out , just follow your heart and keep doing what you are doing. Find someone new and fresh.

I didn't even bother to reply , I know it's a quilt trip thing but I'm trying to see your views as well before I reply.
Lool all his after a few pics of me eating out with my date and at a few social events that I posted on Facebook. She doesn't even have Facebook so I'm guessing her friends have me on high alert.

 

[AttackFormation]

Leave her where she belongs - in the abyss of the past. Don't even respond.

 

[Infern0]

After a 4 year relationship that I ended , she replaced me within A MONTH.
Her "dream guy" relationship blew up in her face. She told my parents she made the biggest mistake of her life. She told my best friends she wants me back and is just waiting for me to make a move. Today she randomly texted me saying she hates the way I'm treating her.

Me: lool I'm actually intrigued by how my actions are affecting your life since I barely talked to you the past 9 months.

Her: it just does , you see me as a sex object now. I know I hurt you but you hurt me first.
Her : You know what just forget it
Her : Just forget about me asking to work things out , just follow your heart and keep doing what you are doing. Find someone new and fresh.

I didn't even bother to reply , I know it's a quilt trip thing but I'm trying to see your views as well before I reply.
Lool all his after a few pics of me eating out with my date and at a few social events that I posted on Facebook. She doesn't even have Facebook so I'm guessing her friends have me on high alert.

She wants you back.

You are acting like a petulant child.

If you don't want to get back together then fine but have some dignity and respond in a respectful manner. Conversely if you'd like to have some fun with her invite her over to watch a movie.

You are making this way more complicated than it actually is.

AF nailed it and so did you. Just don't say sh!t, she isnt deserving of it. Notice how she spun it around so YOURE the bad guy. "You hurt me first". How exactly? All women are the same and will use the same rationalization, it's really quite funny.

Find a new, hotter, more fun woman. I'm sure you're more than capable. It's fun being single and able to spin plates.

Unless there is more to this story that I haven't seen, he said he dumped her, after 4 years. Judging by his communication manner in this first post, he probably didn't do it in the kindest manner. As I say, there may be more to this story but this poster is fouling up, treat ALL women in a charming and playful manner, "you don't deserve a response from meeeeeeeeeee" just oozes butthurt, it's undignified.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

AF nailed it and so did you. Just don't say sh!t, she isnt deserving of it. Notice how she spun it around so YOURE the bad guy. "You hurt me first". How exactly? All women are the same and will use the same rationalization, it's really quite funny.

Find a new, hotter, more fun woman. I'm sure you're more than capable. It's fun being single and able to spin plates.

All women are NOT like this, but a great many are. There are quite a few women who want to carry their part of the load and are accountable.

 

[YawataNoKami]

All women are NOT like this, but a great many are. There are quite a few women who want to carry their part of the load and are accountable.

Where, oh where is that mythical Unicorn?

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Where, oh where is that mythical Unicorn?

I had "good girls" earlier on in life. For some reason the "sparkly" club and party girls appealed to me after having it so stable at home and I got sucked out into the same chaotic world as the rest of you.

You don't know what you have until it's gone.

 

[soulforge]

I,m kinda in a similar situation.. i ended it with her, as she kept sabotaging the relationship over a couple of bs petty arguments...

She went back on pof 2 weeks later, and could be seeing someone now!!

Upon reflection, i realize both of us fuked the relationship up.. but there was other red flags too.. she knows lots and lots of dudes.. and was quite shady with her phone.

I still think about her, but not decided on what to do..


As you mate, if she wants you back the guess you will have to decide, but i know how ****ty it feels to take a girl back who has banged another dude

 

[Infern0]

I,m kinda in a similar situation.. i ended it with her, as she kept sabotaging the relationship over a couple of bs petty arguments...

She went back on pof 2 weeks later, and could be seeing someone now!!

Upon reflection, i realize both of us fuked the relationship up.. but there was other red flags too.. she knows lots and lots of dudes.. and was quite shady with her phone.

I still think about her, but not decided on what to do..


As you mate, if she wants you back the guess you will have to decide, but i know how ****ty it feels to take a girl back who has banged another dude

This sort of thing is just ego talking, you are choosing to apply negative meaning to the fact she had sex with someone else, you are choosing to let that fact diminish you on an internal level.

My opinion on these things, if you ****ed up a lot in the relationship, then you fixed that, who really cares what happened during your breakup period, she ****ed guys before you, and the past is the past.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[soulforge]

This sort of thing is just ego talking, you are choosing to apply negative meaning to the fact she had sex with someone else, you are choosing to let that fact diminish you on an internal level.

My opinion on these things, if you ****ed up a lot in the relationship, then you fixed that, who really cares what happened during your breakup period, she ****ed guys before you, and the past is the past.

Just my 2 cents.

To be honest, i don't care if she has banged another guy.. since the break up (2 months ago) i have banged maybe 6 chicks..and currently have a stable plate!!

I just miss that connection i had with her.. the problem is, we both made mistakes.. i can correct my faults.. but she does not correct hers, or sees herself as being accountable in anyway..

Plus she knows too many dudes.. and is quite shady with her phone.. i think mauser is right.. keep marching forward.. and better things will come along!!

 

[Infern0]

To be honest, i don't care if she has banged another guy.. since the break up (2 months ago) i have banged maybe 6 chicks..and currently have a stable plate!!

I just miss that connection i had with her.. the problem is, we both made mistakes.. i can correct my faults.. but she does not correct hers, or sees herself as being accountable in anyway..

Plus she knows too many dudes.. and is quite shady with her phone.. i think mauser is right.. keep marching forward.. and better things will come along!!

Well that's the key, if she is unwilling to behave like an adult, there's little you can do in that case.

I think where a lot of guys go wrong is they mess up HEAPS in a relationship, it breaks down, then they start learning game and say the girl reaches out they shut her down because they think they know it all now an don't want to go back.

It's just a mental mind**** a lot of the time, but yeah, if you dont want it or know it wont work for sure then onwards and upwards.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Spin that hamster off of its wheel. You have all the power and always remember and woman's actions speak louder than words. This ones yours with one phone call.

On a side note - you dumped her so why do you give a fvck? For what reasons did you? I'm one of the few on here that support getting back with exes under special circumstances. If she's a shady **** - she's gone for good.

 

[soulforge]

Spin that hamster off of its wheel. You have all the power and always remember and woman's actions speak louder than words. This ones yours with one phone call.

On a side note - you dumped her so why do you give a fvck? For what reasons did you? I'm one of the few on here that support getting back with exes under special circumstances. If she's a shady **** - she's gone for good.

I dumped mine for several reasons..

01.. she was rude towards me.. i called her out.. Instead of apologising, bich started arguing with me.. and tried her best to shame me into being the bad guy..
then bich disappeared for 6 days.. didnt bother contacting me..

It was a power play.. she was hoping i would contact her or come chasing!!


02.. keeps mentioning various dudes, seems to know lots of guys, she also mentioned knowing a couple of drug dealers..

03.. shady with her phone, will not use whatsapp around me, even with 15 messages waiting to be read.. turns out they was her dude friends..

Some dude called her, and she avoided taking his call infront of me


04. Not willing to make any effort to make up after a petty argument

 

[Lozboss]

I dumped mine for several reasons..

01.. she was rude towards me.. i called her out.. Instead of apologising, bich started arguing with me.. and tried her best to shame me into being the bad guy..
then bich disappeared for 6 days.. didnt bother contacting me..

It was a power play.. she was hoping i would contact her or come chasing!!


02.. keeps mentioning various dudes, seems to know lots of guys, she also mentioned knowing a couple of drug dealers..

03.. shady with her phone, will not use whatsapp around me, even with 15 messages waiting to be read.. turns out they was her dude friends..

Some dude called her, and she avoided taking his call infront of me


04. Not willing to make any effort to make up after a petty argument

Think he was talking to OP mate.

OP:

Go No Contact- going back to an Ex is never good news.

My Dad says it like this: "The Dead need to stay buried"

 

[Fitters]

Update

Well its been an up and down 3 days , I finally made a decision.
At first , I was actually encouraging the idea of reconciliation but she showed me she has made no changes as a person.
On thursday we were talking and I brought up the fact that u wanted to watch Spy , she said she wanted to watch it too so I set up a date. She called back later to cancel the date and told me she was heading out to do something. I didn't bother to respond , so 7 hours later she randomly sends me a picture of her in a other guys car.
I simply ignored the message and later in the evening I went out with another girl to watch the movie , the girl took a picture and tagged me in it so I shared the picture on my time line.

Anyways , today she sends me a message about how I'm ignoring her. To be honest it really drew my attention that this girl has some growing up to do mentally. I called her and she didn't pick up. So I sent her a msg.

Me: Honestly I think it's either your mentally unstable or immature. I casually told you that you are not serious as an individual and tracking back your progress since I told you that 9 months ago. It looks like you still have some growing up to do. I don't expect a reply from you because this will be the last time I speak to you on a respectful level - you can go ahead and delete my number as well after this. And please refrain from giving my parents sob stories about me ignoring you because you have repeatedly proved you don't deserve an inch of my time. Good luck in your dealings.

I called my phone company to block her numbers , told my mom strictly to not entertain her or try to bring me into any discussions with her.
I honestly don't believe in airing out women but I felt that , after everything this is not worth the time she gets from me. Just gonna go ahead and advance talks with the girl I have been dating/banging the last 2 months.

 

[soulforge]

Update

Well its been an up and down 3 days , I finally made a decision.
At first , I was actually encouraging the idea of reconciliation but she showed me she has made no changes as a person.
On thursday we were talking and I brought up the fact that u wanted to watch Spy , she said she wanted to watch it too so I set up a date. She called back later to cancel the date and told me she was heading out to do something. I didn't bother to respond , so 7 hours later she randomly sends me a picture of her in a other guys car.
I simply ignored the message and later in the evening I went out with another girl to watch the movie , the girl took a picture and tagged me in it so I shared the picture on my time line.

Anyways , today she sends me a message about how I'm ignoring her. To be honest it really drew my attention that this girl has some growing up to do mentally. I called her and she didn't pick up. So I sent her a msg.

Me: Honestly I think it's either your mentally unstable or immature. I casually told you that you are not serious as an individual and tracking back your progress since I told you that 9 months ago. It looks like you still have some growing up to do. I don't expect a reply from you because this will be the last time I speak to you on a respectful level - you can go ahead and delete my number as well after this. And please refrain from giving my parents sob stories about me ignoring you because you have repeatedly proved you don't deserve an inch of my time. Good luck in your dealings.

I called my phone company to block her numbers , told my mom strictly to not entertain her or try to bring me into any discussions with her.
I honestly don't believe in airing out women but I felt that , after everything this is not worth the time she gets from me. Just gonna go ahead and advance talks with the girl I have been dating/banging the last 2 months.

Get rid... sounds like she is taking the pizz