"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What is she thinking?!!

Vincent Freeman

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Okay, so I met this Hb not too long ago and we been pretty much hanging out and talking whenever possible. However, unlike the other Hb's I have talked to, this girl seems to like a challenge. I don't know what to draw from this, but she loves to be sarcastic with me. For example, she'll take things I have done (ie. like this once when I accidentally called my server miss instead of sir) and she'll try to bring them to get a laugh. I mean I am very sarcastic so maybe that's what encourages here to give me a challenge, but like I said, unlike most chics I dated, this girl likes to study what I do and then bring it up in a convo to begin a little battle between the both of us. I mean I love it cause I like to see how good she can come back to my comments, but at the same time I wonder what this means in her book. What would you djs think of this if it were you and what would you do about it?? Is their a restriction as to how smooth I can respond be or should I be careful with what the comments I come back with??
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tazman

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I'm no DJ, but I think you are overanalyzing things. If you enjoy it, and she does, continue to do it. Overanalyzing will definitely cause you to act unnatural, and that can actually hurt you more than just relaxing and going with what feels right, the flow.
 

Good_ol_boy

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Originally posted by Tazman
Overanalyzing will definitely cause you to act unnatural, and that can actually hurt you more than just relaxing and going with what feels right, the flow.
The technical term is "Analysis paralysis"
 

WorldCitizen

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She is testing you to see if you are stronger than her. Keep it humourous and keep up with her jokes, she will see you're NOT INTIMIDATED by her wit or looks. It's all a subconscious process, she seems to be digging you. When you can keep up with her without turning into a beta male, then she'll submit to you.
 
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