what is she thinking about?

[sad samurai]

well, sounds familiar...can't read her mind...don't know what she is doing...
a female friend introduced her to me few weeks ago; guess she label me "a nice guy", "a good person for hudsband" --- that sucks, isn't it?

we sort of interact very often, but none of her actively communicating with me - always i msn, call, ask for "hang-out doing something" - it seems she likes to talk and hang out with me, but in the past few days things got a little bit ackward--->

she got some sore back or something and i suggested a good massage master near the neighborhood; i even said i can bring her to...but she replied "no comment" and then at last she found another massager from her sister-friend to "block" my over-enthusiastic actions, and even more...she wants to "introduce her best friend for me"....!

gee....i did not even formaly ask her out and she felt "threaten"/ "being on the hot spot" already and play the phony (or maybe the real) dual-cover tactics (introducing her best friend me???). guys...i think how to pursuit this girl is one thing, but defend man's dignity is even more serious! i tend to believe that she thought i am a good guy so use such a "soft-block" can make me feel better, or maybe she did want to introduce someone to me instead of her, BUT.... SHE HAS TO BE TAUGHT A LESSON...can any superman let me know how?

sad...sad...samurai....shame..i should cut my belly with the sword....

 

[The Deacon]

First mistake:

You hang out with her all of the time. I'm assuming that you haven't flirted with her. It's okay to hang out with chicks as long as you're building the sexual tension SOMEHOW. You could just be giving her sensual eye contact or just massaging her back. If she gives you IOIs during these times that you hang out, she's receptive to a date of some sort.

My friend, I believe you just may have been LJBF'd.

First mistake recovery

I got out of the friend zone one glorious time by consistently conveying non-neediness. You can do this by dating other chicks (and making sure she knows about it indirectly, don't tell her first-hand cause it makes you look desperate). You can also do this by simply asking her out and when she starts doing the awkward "uhhh, i can't because," just immediately cut her off and say "(her name), it's a yes or no question. Don't worry, I'm not gonna cut my wrist if you say no" in a ****y/playful manner.

Second mistake:

You offered to take her to a massage therapist.

Second mistake recovery:

Say "I'll take you to the massage therapist if you pay a small fee of 2 million bucks." The basic idea is to not be so willing to do stuff for her. Women tend to assume that men only do nice things for them for the purpose of sexual favors.

Conclusion:

This'll probably be a long fuse, my friend. It could take months to regain those comfort levels you had originally before things got awkward. Once things are reasonably comfortable, start flirting again and when you receive IOIs, act on them.

 

[mastacheef]

maybe she wanted a massage from you?

sorry its sort of hard to understand your writing, where are you from?

 

[MooseGod]

I disagree with the Deacon. Your first mistake was trying to figure out what a girl's thinking. Girls don't think. They operate strictly on a basis of emotion, most of the time anyway. So fvck what she's thinking, actions speak louder than words.

2. You say she "has to be taught a lesson." Slap yourself twice. Karma will teach her a lesson, you want none of the blood (metaphorically speaking, I hope to God) on your hands. If she's being a stone cold ***** to you, freeze her ass out. Call her bluff, and be prepared to accept the consequences.