"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What is she doing?

tharam04

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So there's this chick that I've been/was talking to for several months. We went out on several dates and at the beginning of this year she hit me with LJBF but said that she still wanted to hang out. Since then she has allowed communication to increase (her contacting and her responding to me contacting her).
Since then we have went out once, which I invited her to join me.

She said she wanted to join me to watch the Super Bowl, but ended up standing me up; when the game was almost over she called me from her place watching the game on her tv. :nono: She wanted me to join her the following day at a bookstore. I told her that I would but I didn't go she stood me up (Don't reward bad behavior). Since then I haven't been contacting her but she has been contacting me for various purposes, including giving her a ride to work and asking if I was going to be an event. I've also noticed a change in how often she is on Facebook (it has increased); no I'm not a stalker, it just shows in my news feed.

Is she doing stuff just to get my attention or still practicing/plotting games that she can play? :confused:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tiguere

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What is he doing?
So there's this guy that I've been/was talking to for several months. We went out on several dates and at the beginning of this year he hit me with LJBF but said that he still wanted to hang out. Since then he has allowed communication to increase (him contacting and him responding to me contacting him).
Since then we have went out once, which I invited him to join me.

he said he wanted to join me to watch the Super Bowl, but ended up standing me up; when the game was almost over he called me from his place watching the game on his tv. he wanted me to join him the following day at a bookstore. I told him that I would but ended up not going since he stood me up the day before (Don't reward bad behavior). Since then he has been contacting me for various purposes, including giving him a ride to work and if I was going to be an event. I've also noticed a change in how often him is on Facebook (it has increased); no I'm not a stalker, it just shows in my news feed.

Is he doing stuff just to get my attention or still plotting games that he can play?
 

Tiguere

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see how i switched that up and made you look like a ......well you fill in the blank.

point of the story is you seem to be concentrating and putting too much energy on this one girl.
 

Htienvu

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Tiguere said:
This is what I am doing!
So there's this guy that I've been/was talking to for several months. We went out on several dates and at the beginning of this year I hit him with LJBF but said that I still wanted to hang out. Since then I have allowed communication to increase (Me contacting and me responding to him contacting me).
Since then we have went out once, which he invited me to join him.

he said he wanted me to join him to watch the Super Bowl, but I ended up standing him up; when the game was almost over I called him from my place watching the game on my tv. I wanted him to join me the following day at a bookstore. He told me that he would but ended up not going since I've stood him up the day before (He's piss lol...). Since then I've been contacting him for various purposes, including giving him a ride to work and if he was going to be an event(to use him probably). He also noticed a change in how often I am on Facebook (it has increased); to reel him back in.

I am doing this stuff just to get his attention and plotting games that I can play him
That's from her point of view...
 
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