"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What is my next move?
- Thread starter Raymond
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Maximus Rex
Banned
What would you normally do?Raymond said:
And I think her interest level isn't that high, maybe about 60%. I have met her twice before, but she didn't remember my name. And when I said I got my jacket from the same brand where she got her jacket, but she said "ok, so what? What's your point." I tried to make a connection and started a topic about clothing and the brand that we both like, but her answer completely threw me off.
Maybe it was because a moment earlier she offered to buy me something when she went to get coffee. I thought for few seconds then said I was fine, I didn't need anything. Maybe she got offended or something.
I asked her to hang out. She used two different excuses: she had to meet with her mother and had a lot of study to do, and she said "maybe next time." I said "ok, next time," and she said "sure." I asked her on the same day, so it was understandable if she didn't expect it and already had a plan with her mother or whatever.
Few days later (today), I asked her again, but this time it was a day in advanced. This time she said she had to work. Surprisingly, I asked her to hang out at about the same time and same day as the last time that we met in school, but this week she had to work?
I believe it's time to next her.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.