what is more important?

[descartes]

how you feel or how people think you feel?

 

[ilyadaimpaler]

The easy no brainer answer:
How you feel.

The more truthful answer:
Depends on the situation...

IE: You feel like shiit but you want to hit on a girl.
If it appears to her that you feel like shit as you hit on her then she will be much less receptive than if you were to act
as if you felt awesome.

So again, it depends on the situation. But just because you convey a different feeling than you actually feel, you should never neglect your true self.

 

[IDMeansNothing]

Always remember that perception IS the reality. So even if you feel bad, psych yourself into feeling good.

I had a lousy day today...lots of pressure at work, last night sucked for a series of reasons, it was hot muggy and raining outside today (= yukky in my book), and I was trying to find my boss so I could submit my resignation today (after 6.5 years). Couldn't track him down. More stress.

I was meeting a woman for coffee after work and I really didn't want her to see me in a fvcked up mood. I literally had to talk myself into a good mood.

I read a post last night about someone being scared to approach chics in a bar or something. One of the responses was to "step outside of your body" and view the approach in the third person. This is good advice and always works. I teach graduate school and sometimes you just have to disassociate yourself. It only takes a couple of minutes before you are naturally in the flow of whatever situation you find yourself in.

I greeted her this afternoon with an enthusiastic "Hey! blahblah" How's work? Do you finally have a project to work on? Blahblah" feigning genuine interest (there was some, because I knew it was important to HER). The first couple of minutes in the cafe, she and I ordered our coffees and shyt, and then fell right into 1.5 hrs of good discussion (that means more than light "convo"). I completely lost my moodiness. Once alone again later, some of the lingering effects returned but much easier to brush off, after a long distraction with pleasant company.

So, what is more important? It's not a black and white answer. Just remeber that you will always project how you feel. The key is to CONTROL how you feel.

 

[IamtheRemedy]

depends on what ur talkin about , but usually how U feel . . . u aren't here on this Earth for someone else . . . otherwise they'd b w/ u every second of the day . . . its about you.

 

[trajhenkhet]

Everything radiates from your center. A strong soul will radiate ******d.