frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
do u play halo 2 online or anything else?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What is Love?
- Thread starter B-Lemond
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do u play halo 2 online or anything else?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
[DoN.2.Da.JUaN]
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thats why 50% of marriages end in divorceOriginally posted by E_ze05
LOVE is real....i promise you that
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
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Who said they had it?
Who said they had it?
Lost In the Seas
Senior Don Juan
i dont know, i think love is the feeling u want to be with the someone for the rest of ur life. ever have the feeling like you just picked up this amazingly hot and pretty chick from a bar, u started dating her and things went very intensive with romance and sex, but soon after u just got bored of her? if u found love with the person u wouldn't feel that way
i think humans are generally persimistic creatures, and i think it's true that it's naturally against our wills to die alone knowing that we have such a short life span (70-90 years), so we would like to have someone to be our side while the end is drawing nearer everyday, may that be our wife, gf, parent, kids, or grand kids
what one guy said earlier made a lot of sense, if humans can live 1000 years, is it practical and realistic for us to be with one person for that long (assuming you still marry at age of 20-40)? im not sure about that, but right now we can only live for 80 years, and it's just enough time to spend happy moments with your lover or family before you turn into dust
i think humans are generally persimistic creatures, and i think it's true that it's naturally against our wills to die alone knowing that we have such a short life span (70-90 years), so we would like to have someone to be our side while the end is drawing nearer everyday, may that be our wife, gf, parent, kids, or grand kids
what one guy said earlier made a lot of sense, if humans can live 1000 years, is it practical and realistic for us to be with one person for that long (assuming you still marry at age of 20-40)? im not sure about that, but right now we can only live for 80 years, and it's just enough time to spend happy moments with your lover or family before you turn into dust
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BuckwildNYC
Senior Don Juan
True "LOVE" is unconditional. "LOVE" is what a mother feels for her child. All that shyt you feel for a girl is conditional. It's based on how she looks and how she acts. Let your girl gain 100 pounds or catch her cheating on you and lets see how much you love her.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
True "LOVE" is unconditional. "LOVE" is what a mother feels for her child. All that shyt you feel for a girl is conditional. It's based on how she looks and how she acts. Let your girl gain 100 pounds or catch her cheating on you and lets see how much you love her.
again you can achieve unconditional love with another person/.
sometiems after 15 to 20 yrs and you dont get along.
you fight and fight
that doesnt mean its not unconditional....
if you and ur mom fight for yrs...you may cut off contact.
like a divorce.
BackToTheMack
Senior Don Juan
Frivolous21 in your opinion how long does it take to achive "unconditional love" with another person?
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
well its not Linear....
so I suppose its subjective.
you cant tell me you feel a special connection to your dad or uncle or cousin because they are your blood.
I dont know my dad...I have no love for him.
I do however have unconditional love for some of my friends.....
who arent blood.
your women is your friend...same friend as them..actually with a lot more commitment,
so it would take less time.
but again your brain...emotional center doenst operate on linear time..its subjective to your expierences.
so I have no idea from person to person.
I just dont want people to think its not unconditional.
im sure after 20 yrs of marriage...and you both want divorce...doesnt mean you dont love the person.
look how bad it hurt Cher with Sonny died... but they had to get divorce..because they didnt get along.
just because you achieve unconditional love doesnt mean it will last forever so happy.
but I will say when you get it..you will know it. you just have to hope she feels the same..and most women who feel the same wont lie about it.
it seems like a lot of guys here had a some bad women...some bytches who used and lied to these guys.
what im preachign here isnt AFC..its reality....I dont understand how some of thes guys can tell me love with a women doesnt exist.
they are either Insane or KBJ;s.
so I suppose its subjective.
you cant tell me you feel a special connection to your dad or uncle or cousin because they are your blood.
I dont know my dad...I have no love for him.
I do however have unconditional love for some of my friends.....
who arent blood.
your women is your friend...same friend as them..actually with a lot more commitment,
so it would take less time.
but again your brain...emotional center doenst operate on linear time..its subjective to your expierences.
so I have no idea from person to person.
I just dont want people to think its not unconditional.
im sure after 20 yrs of marriage...and you both want divorce...doesnt mean you dont love the person.
look how bad it hurt Cher with Sonny died... but they had to get divorce..because they didnt get along.
just because you achieve unconditional love doesnt mean it will last forever so happy.
but I will say when you get it..you will know it. you just have to hope she feels the same..and most women who feel the same wont lie about it.
it seems like a lot of guys here had a some bad women...some bytches who used and lied to these guys.
what im preachign here isnt AFC..its reality....I dont understand how some of thes guys can tell me love with a women doesnt exist.
they are either Insane or KBJ;s.
BackToTheMack
Senior Don Juan
They have a point of viwe that differs from yours. You also have to learn to accept that not everyone is looking for love as they have to learn to accept that it exists and can be found if you activley seek it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
I agree....I just hate to see people live without love...
no one can say love isnt a positive emotion.
why live without it?
no one can say love isnt a positive emotion.
why live without it?
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
The pain of losing your love or getting hurt may make people think twice about opening up to someone on that level.Originally posted by frivolousz21
I agree....I just hate to see people live without love...
no one can say love isnt a positive emotion.
why live without it?
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
here's my view of what love is
I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA.
Guys, just let it be. What is it? Does it even exist? Life would be banal without mysteries.
Let it be.
I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA.
Guys, just let it be. What is it? Does it even exist? Life would be banal without mysteries.
Let it be.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
The pain of losing your love or getting hurt may make people think twice about opening up to someone on that level.
yes, or you could never expierence it and chance it.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
love is a friendship with anyone. You can love your parents or your friends.
Love with your girlfriend on the other hand is friendship is somewhat different. You still must have that friendship but also lust added in but I believe that true love is able to last without that lust. Anyone can disagree with me and I don't really care.
Love with your girlfriend on the other hand is friendship is somewhat different. You still must have that friendship but also lust added in but I believe that true love is able to last without that lust. Anyone can disagree with me and I don't really care.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
Love with your girlfriend on the other hand is friendship is somewhat different. You still must have that friendship but also lust added in but I believe that true love is able to last without that lust. Anyone can disagree with me and I don't really care.
I agree....soon they will call you a feminist..and tell you have you no game..and women will walk all over you, and you will always have one-i-tis