Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Love between a man and a woman is the set of brain chemicals that make young people do stupid things.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What is Love?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Black_Italian
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Even bible boy over here agrees. Like I said biochemicaly no different from eating large quantities of chocolate. A fact that has been scientifically proven.
Ninja out
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frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
bio chemically I would agree to an extent.
you coudlnt eat the amount of chocalte it would take to replicate love in a month.
then you have to consider the commitment, memories, friendship, loyalty, goals...I could go on and on.
and I know u dont want to hear from me.
but you went from My big pimpn..to nearly moving in with a women in a week.
yet u dont believe in the one thing humans have had since the beggning?
DJHoolahoop
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What I don't get is that does love exist elsewhere? Are we as humans the only being on this earth that feels this so called "love" feeling?
What point would we have in having a mate if love didn't bind us? All of you have seen it's results when love fails. People get divorced, there are fathers who would have no part with their children but are forced to by law.
There is no love there and yet when there is love it allows people to find a way to stay together, work things out and raise children.
Animals find a way to take care of their offspring as do any other form of living creature on this earth. How do they find a way to do it?
One thing I will never understand is how people will not even look at the similarities between life that exists. That because we have the ability to type, speak and read that somehow we are that much more superior to anything else on this planet.
Animals fight, animals take care of their children and provide for them in the same manner a human would, animals "cheat" on their mates as well. Yes it does happen and yet it won't matter what amount of knowledge or information you bestow upon people, if they believe in something, nothing you say will change that.
Love may just be a word invented by mankind to express the feeling two people "share" or to express the bond of two people. Then if that were true, what binds people? what makes the difference between one person and another? what purpose is there for relationships and of having gf's? Why bother with it at all? Why? Do we actually have a choice? Or is it something that takes over us?
What point would we have in having a mate if love didn't bind us? All of you have seen it's results when love fails. People get divorced, there are fathers who would have no part with their children but are forced to by law.
There is no love there and yet when there is love it allows people to find a way to stay together, work things out and raise children.
Animals find a way to take care of their offspring as do any other form of living creature on this earth. How do they find a way to do it?
One thing I will never understand is how people will not even look at the similarities between life that exists. That because we have the ability to type, speak and read that somehow we are that much more superior to anything else on this planet.
Animals fight, animals take care of their children and provide for them in the same manner a human would, animals "cheat" on their mates as well. Yes it does happen and yet it won't matter what amount of knowledge or information you bestow upon people, if they believe in something, nothing you say will change that.
Love may just be a word invented by mankind to express the feeling two people "share" or to express the bond of two people. Then if that were true, what binds people? what makes the difference between one person and another? what purpose is there for relationships and of having gf's? Why bother with it at all? Why? Do we actually have a choice? Or is it something that takes over us?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
shaken_not_stirred
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"....baby don't hurt me. don't hurt me no more." (start bopping head sideways now)
HalfAddict
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It's a bad club song.
Black_Italian
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There is a big diffrence from what we had in the begging to what we belive love is now. The way love is portrayed the way people talk about love is nothing its bullsh*t it's fake.
I never said that 2 people cant have very strong feelings towards eachother. Although those feelings are just chemicals in you're brain i never said i dont belive in them.
Anyway this is a pointless argument there will always be people liek you and there will always be people like me. We would be arguing to no end so fu*kup about it.
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Black_Italian
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Swedish then you should no this better than most. It has been scientifically proven that eating large quantities of chocolate causes the exact same chemicals to be released in the brain that are released when a person is in "love". Giving the exact same feeling......no wonder women "LOVE" chocolate.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
yo black italian, maybe youre being a little too cold about love, and have never truly experienced what it feels like, or you might just have a cold view on love....some people are like that, and no it doesnt mean youre less passionate about life or whatever, its just the way you are. and to other people love might be the strongest, most wonderful emotion one can experience....my point dont argue with another person, when theyre sharing their view about love, and that goes to the other person arguing as well.
Anyways, actually up until a couple of weeks ago I thought that i was never going to need a woman and i was never going to get married, that it was just a waste of time and energy... just like DJhoolaloop was saying, theres got to be a binding force to realize that we would be better off if we had the other half. Im not saying im in love right now, but ive deffintly been experiencing emotions like it, or so i think. Now i really do have a different view on marriage and a couple being together, and how much better the right woman would make me. its hard for me to see myself 15 years into the future, without a wife or a companion.
that quote that was in the first page that said love is an illusion that makes a woman different from others... thats quite a genuis quote. This girl that ive been seeing, even tho shes about an 8.5 makes me feel things that a 9.9 wouldnt...and in my eyes this 8.5 would be a lot better than a 9.9 anyday. so love might be an illusion, it might be for the weak, a creation of hollywood(yea hollywood played with your head and hollywood developed one of the best emotions a human can experience) or whatever else label it might get..... i think its worth it
Anyways, actually up until a couple of weeks ago I thought that i was never going to need a woman and i was never going to get married, that it was just a waste of time and energy... just like DJhoolaloop was saying, theres got to be a binding force to realize that we would be better off if we had the other half. Im not saying im in love right now, but ive deffintly been experiencing emotions like it, or so i think. Now i really do have a different view on marriage and a couple being together, and how much better the right woman would make me. its hard for me to see myself 15 years into the future, without a wife or a companion.
that quote that was in the first page that said love is an illusion that makes a woman different from others... thats quite a genuis quote. This girl that ive been seeing, even tho shes about an 8.5 makes me feel things that a 9.9 wouldnt...and in my eyes this 8.5 would be a lot better than a 9.9 anyday. so love might be an illusion, it might be for the weak, a creation of hollywood(yea hollywood played with your head and hollywood developed one of the best emotions a human can experience) or whatever else label it might get..... i think its worth it
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
undesputable-
thats exactly how I feel.
you said need her.
I said I needed my women and I got flamed.
but i Know you understand exactly where Im coming from.....having her there creates a balance and adds things to my life...to only make it that much better.
thats exactly how I feel.
you said need her.
I said I needed my women and I got flamed.
but i Know you understand exactly where Im coming from.....having her there creates a balance and adds things to my life...to only make it that much better.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
wtf are u talking about?????
stop comparing love to chemicals.....
we all know over a short time 6 months to 2 yrs..you adapt to it..and that high is gone..but will re-surface occasionally.
love is more than lust.
so u lust your family and friends? NO!
its the same concept with a women..just on a differnt level.
also the chemicals in your brain that spark what we call love..are NOT mentall imprints..which means thats not real emotion..the emotion you feel towards a sport, or friend, or anything...that takes time to develop..
so stop comparing love with a women to chocolate.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
the last disney film I saw was Miracle..I think that was about hockey..or did I miss the fairytale love story there?
again you think love is lust...lust is chemials in your brain.
love is a mental imprint in your brain. the same as your family and friends..
the only difference is that you still sexually desire her...and are closer to her than anyone else as well on the same level as your mother or father or friend..
hopefully one day you get this.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
oh and by the way.you would probably have to eat a DIESEL truck full of hersheys kisses at 1 time to recreate the power of love.
I suppose me actually being in love and you being in denail is why I am so gung-ho about this subject.
I suppose me actually being in love and you being in denail is why I am so gung-ho about this subject.
Iamnotacrook
Senior Don Juan
From what I've observed about love, it's not an emotion. If you see love as an emotion, you can "love" many, many different people. When someone says that love is an emotion, they're probably talking about the chemicals released in their bodies automatically, unless they're just talking out of their asses because they've heard other people say the same thing. I'm not going to bore you by going into detail about this, but suffice to say that these chemicals can be released by what you see, smell, touch, etc... this is not love, it's just an involuntary response triggered by instinct. However, your "love" interest will obviously trigger these responses.
Now, onto what love is...
Ever noticed how in the movies, the honorable guy will always jump into the path of a bullet to save someone? This is an extremely drastic and totally predictable example, but makes no logical sense. After all, if you took that bullet, what's to stop them from firing another and another? Are you gonna swoop back up and block those as well? **** it, on to the real deal...
If you love someone, you've conciously and/or unconciously realized that you would put their needs before yours, no matter what. This means not cheating on them, not lying to them, not trying to manipulate them, not ignoring them, and the list goes on and on.
Now, onto what love is...
Ever noticed how in the movies, the honorable guy will always jump into the path of a bullet to save someone? This is an extremely drastic and totally predictable example, but makes no logical sense. After all, if you took that bullet, what's to stop them from firing another and another? Are you gonna swoop back up and block those as well? **** it, on to the real deal...
If you love someone, you've conciously and/or unconciously realized that you would put their needs before yours, no matter what. This means not cheating on them, not lying to them, not trying to manipulate them, not ignoring them, and the list goes on and on.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.