What is it ok for me to do this?

[vonbock]

I am going afer a girl whose interest level I would say is about 60%.

I called her up to go to the movies for the next day and she hesitates and makes a lame excuse that she is going out with her girlfriend who she already hangs out with 3-4 times a week. I said fine "call me if you want to go see Transformers tomorrow" Just saying this to be nice but I had a gut feeling she didn't want to go.

Next day I wasn't going to sit around and wait for her answer so I called up a buddy and made plans with him. This girl then text messages me at 5 pm and says that she has now a family dinner to go to and if we could go catch the late movie. Or can she take a "raincheck" I wanted to shoot back "what about your friend that you need to hang out with?" but I didn't.

I just text messaged her back and said I am going out with someone so she will have to take a raincheck. I am going to stop calling this girl up cuz she is so wishy washy everytime I call her up, but what I did, was that rude or I could have been more polite about it.

 

[Obsidian]

i like your style man. I might've caved and gone with her, but you in fact did the right thing. Don't accept wishy-washy behavior.

 

[speakeasy]

She's a flaky azz girl. Flakiness means that you are not that important to them, they don't respect your time(For some girls they make plans with a guy and in their minds it is just an option, not an obligation. If they have three things to choose from that night and one is more important than going out with you, including washing their hair or just being "tired", they'll flake on you).Put it this way, if she had a date with Brad Pitt, she'd have found a way to go. I don't put up with flakiness from ANYONE. Neither should you. Shut her out for a bit to punish her. Make it clear that when you make a plan, your time is valuable and you're not into this wishy-washy bullsh*t.

 

[penkitten]

good for you

 

[Max Power]

Put it this way, if she had a date with Brad Pitt, she'd have found a way to go. I don't put up with flakiness from ANYONE. Neither should you. Shut her out for a bit to punish her. Make it clear that when you make a plan, your time is valuable and you're not into this wishy-washy bullsh*t.

speakeasy speaks the truth.