What is high interest to you

[jhonny9546]

I believe we all have a sort of common thread that helps us objectively understand when a girl is interested. But if you were to notice patterns that concern only yourselves, based on your own experience, what would those be when it comes to high interest?

In my case, I’m a short guy, as you all know, I’m 165 cm tall. Many women look at me, understand that I’m a good-looking guy but short, and they remain interested but cold.
For example, except for very rare cases, I’ve never really experienced a girl I don’t know giving me a look and a smile right away. For me, it’s much more common to see a girl a bit cold at first, but I can notice she makes long stares, after seeing each other two or three times, maybe in a group of friends or just in the same class, she starts staying closer to me, spending more time with me. At that point, she’ll start giving IOIs, listening for longer, smiling, secretly staring (almost always).


The indicator that has worked for me to separate low-interest girls from high-interest ones is their effort to find excuses to be close to me and spend time together. (This always happens only after the 2nd or 3rd time we meet.)


I’m really curious to know your experience and how maybe to get a high level of interest from women right away. For me, their interest is more like a gradual flame.

 

[Smok1nAce]

From my experience in order.

They present themselves to you.
They move in for a kiss.
They ask you out.
They drop so many hints to ask them out.
Absolutely no negative attitude.
A yes attitude.
Excuse to be around you.
Undivided attention.

 

[Westminster]

From my experience in order.

They present themselves to you.
They move in for a kiss.
They ask you out.
They drop so many hints to ask them out.
Absolutely no negative attitude.
A yes attitude.
Excuse to be around you.
Undivided attention.

Good list. Also, asking lots of questions about you and your life, probably as a precursor to much of the above.

 

[justaroundthecorner]

- writes you first a long message on dating app
- she is nervous, afraid of saying something that may put you off
- she looks like movie star during courting phase
- she mirrors you
- she laughs even if you say something more stupid than funny (it's a good test to launch to check how high her IL is - girl with medium interest level OR opinionated - which is equal to not more than medium IL - will check you on it)
- she is ready to participate in your fun activities willingly
- she will propose some ideas about dates
- she will be happy to meet your friends/parents after courting phase ends
- sex in bonding phase will be awesome

There's a lot of green lights with high IL, it's the best option to pursue high IL women.

 

[BadBoy89]

I’m really curious to know your experience and how maybe to get a high level of interest from women right away.

Initiates contact - this a big one for me.
Direct eye contact while together
Nervous while together

 

[Bingo-Player]

Compliance / congruence are usually the only reliable indicators with women

Everything else can be to most extents faked .....some women make great sport out of manipulating men during attraction / dating stages and it's in male nature to overestimate a woman's interest in him

 

[Desdinova]

At that point, she’ll start giving IOIs, listening for longer, smiling, secretly staring (almost always).

I generally don't give a fvck about IOIs. They're just more of an indication that I'm doing a good job. I'll plow forward until she flat out lets me know she's not interested. If that happens, I'll just move onto the next prospect and then let her fume about how much of an a55hole I am for not wanting to date her. It's never her fault

 

[DJ Novice]

The man indicator is that she genuinely enjoys and prioritises s*x with you on a regular basis, she puts your pleasure first, she is willing to do whatever you like in bed (within reason) and she wishes to explore things she hasn’t tried before well beyond the honeymoon period.

Men love s*x and a woman who is really into you knows this and will act accordingly.

Other indicators are that she is submissive, wants to please you outside the bedroom (cooking meals, cleaning etc), appreciates your need for peace, quiet and your own space at times, isn’t a pain in the a*se to be around in terms of power struggles/petty arguments and doesn’t overly drain your wallet.

 

[Gamisch]

Most been mentioned already. Yet I wanna refer to my recent thread about total submission

Total submission or nothing

Most men don't experience enough /never experience total submission. Most are chasing women that look at them as secondary options at best and thus the entire relationship is rocky from the start. Total submission on the other hand is when a woman is completely in her feminine state. That...

www.sosuave.net

In your specific case I believe your OWN insecurity is what's really holding you back. If you're a short king make sure you get as broad as possible.

And ofcourse CREATE a life with an agenda filled to the brim. As soon as a woman enters your life and she shows high interest stifk with her for some time. Use fish to catch fish.

High interest is mostly shown through sex. She'll be your fecktoy and she'll LOVE it. Most men including meself, run away from this because we don't wanna lose out investment( what means you are broke dating ,broke as in financial/spiritual. )

High interest is or id say should be the only option to a man who values himself...

 

[plumber]

depends on the venue. high interest will start the hunt. if its a social circle they will hang around you and or discuss about you with friends who then will tell you.

usually they will initiate next step so its easy.

if you want a solid LTR, let them find you. just keep doing what you like to do and if there is nothing you like to do then find something. whatever it is, get good at it.

hunting women for fun is good, but don't hunt them for an LTR.

on the older days Doc Love had the concept that as a man we don't know when is the right time to escalate, but the woman does. its all about her interest level. your interest level does not matter.

if the girl has high interest and is hunting you it is very very likely she will get you unless you block. or you break some rule she has. it usually has to be something obvious...

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Initiates contact.
Asks me out.
Touches me.

 

[jhonny9546]

women make great sport out of manipulating men during attraction / dating stages

yes this is my experience 100%

Compliance / congruence are usually the only reliable indicators with women

From a man perspective, you're actually doing the contrary.
If She write you a text, you let her wait, but at the same time, since she need to have compliance/congruence, She need to write asap to your messages.
So, we need more IRL examples to actually understand this better.

on the older days Doc Love had the concept that as a man we don't know when is the right time to escalate, but the woman does. its all about her interest level. your interest level does not matter.

Oh tell more about it

 

[Foe]

I've had allot of high interest lately. Infact its kind of like a Sunami, new girls front foot forward, old flames righting the wrong and immediate interests laying down the sword (or whatever the female equivalent is). Have I always had this? No. I've had some idea of it, here and there. Nothing like this. Though it's been a while since I've spread my wings. So, what is this post. It's an acknowledgment that's its possible, it's an understanding of circumstance and it's a realisation that the circumstance is...........you.

 

[ValiantMale]

I feel burdened by the idea of having to writ ea list so I'm glad people mentioned alot of the things. I've been pretty spoiled at times in my life, and other times had to really work for it.. but-- as a good lookin guy with a personality and swagger alot of women just throw themselves at you simply because you exist and you're interacting with them or around them and yet aren't at their knees with attention.

**** it, i'll add some of mine:
- Treat you particularly nicer than everyone else around them
- Constantly look at you or try to gain your validation in some subtle ways
- Smile at you alot
- Laugh alot at things you say
- Touchy feely with you
-Hover around you,
-make excuses to be around you
-play aloof, try to ignore you out of everyone in the room (weird way some girls try to court you, its an ego thing too)
-pay for some of the stuff you guys do together
-buy you gifts/spend money on you
-start learning about things you are interested in
-start taking on some of your slang or lingo
-start listening to similar music as you

 

[Gamisch]

I've had allot of high interest lately. Infact its kind of like a Sunami, new girls front foot forward, old flames righting the wrong and immediate interests laying down the sword (or whatever the female equivalent is). Have I always had this? No. I've had some idea of it, here and there. Nothing like this. Though it's been a while since I've spread my wings. So, what is this post. It's an acknowledgment that's its possible, it's an understanding of circumstance and it's a realisation that the circumstance is...........you.

Going through a similar trajectory.

Even some members here dislike my arrogance but it's simply boils down to completing the puzzle. Finding out about YOUR qualities and weaknesses and work on them constantly. This alone takes so much time and energy that you won't have time nor will to carry a unstable woman .

One thing most men do wrong is they look for a womam to validate their worth. Next they try to literally lock down a woman by making life changing investments. Next thing that happens is a dead bedroom.

Look, as soon as the passion is gone you gotta run. But you can't run when you're 1. Scared you can't replace her and 2. Are scared to lose your investments. Women can smell this energy like smelling socks. Most men get " little brothered " and humiliated on a daily and YET play like it's all good just to flex on other men.

High interest is the most solid foundation. Every other foundation is bound to collapse and bury you under the dirt of that collapse.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

They give you a phone call and initiate contact most of the time. No matter the age, high interest chicks always hit my line. (women in my culture)
Whatever happens when you are physically with her comes with the territory. But it all trickles down with a high interest phone call or text from her end.