"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What is her deal?

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So, I go to my old HS's football game tonight, becuase there were no parties going on in tha AUG, and who do I see but my supposed "best friend", at least that is what she says. So I am standing with the band, because I am a band alumni, and wanted to check them out. To get to the stands where you can sit and watch the game, you have to walk past the band section of the stands, and she walks right by me, smiles and gives me "the look", and then just keeps on walking, didn't even say Hey or give me a hug or anything. Just wondering what you fine gentelmen think about this? I am thinking about giving her the silent treatment for a few days. Is that AFC of me? Do you think I am over reacting to this situation?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I don't hug my friends everytime I see them. Basically, she sees you as a friend because that's all you've tried to be while you're viewing her as your girlfriend.

If you want to be more then make your intentions clear instead of pretending to be a friend in hopes of her waking up one day and being your girlfriend miraculously. Stop analyzing so much and make a move if you want to be more than friends.
 

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OK, she just called me (its like 1am here) and I ignored the phone, I'll probably call her tomorrow. Does anyone have any advice on what I should say to her? The reason I am making such a big deal about this is because today was the day we meet a year ago, and we were supposed to hang out or some shiot, but she never called me back about it, and then she just blows me off like that. Maybe I am just over reacting to her BS
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
I don't hug my friends everytime I see them. Basically, she sees you as a friend because that's all you've tried to be while you're viewing her as your girlfriend.

If you want to be more then make your intentions clear instead of pretending to be a friend in hopes of her waking up one day and being your girlfriend miraculously. Stop analyzing so much and make a move if you want to be more than friends.

I dont see her as my GF, because shes just not my type, but in her tradition, I am supposed to hug her every time we see each other. I used to be really attracted to her (shes like a HB8), maybe I am dwelling on those feelings instead of what I really feel for her?
 

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Next her for your own good.

OR make a move and then next her if/when it backfires.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I dont wanna next her because I like the friendship. but i dunno what to do
 

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no one else want to contribute?
 

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i've never remembered the 1 year anniversary of meeting a "friend" before and I sure as hell didnt celabrate it. but maybe thats just me.

if u wanna test the watters try this. get a lil drunk together (doesnt have to be u 2 alone, could be at a party or whatever) and then just say in a curious way, "you know, in the last week or so, I've started to see you in a way i never have before..."

and leave it at that. Let that thought sink into her head and see where she takes it.


good or bad, thats my advice.
 

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why didnt you pick up the phone. maybe she wanted a late night **** session.
 

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the only reason I remembered it was because she called me yesterday and goes:

her: Do you know what today is?
ME:no, I dont, other than thursday
her:today is the first thursday of school
me:so, what does that mean?
her:Today is the day we meet last year!
me:Is it, really (like I am gonna remember that on my own, only a woman would remember that, I would remember the first time we fvcked, but not the day we meet)

I dont understand why she made such a big deal about it last night and then wont even speak to me today?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by Julian
why didnt you pick up the phone. maybe she wanted a late night **** session.

She wont fvck me, she wont even kiss me, says it would be like kissing her brother. But shes been flirting alot more lately (she flirts alot, but not this much in along time) Maybe its because I've been using ALOT of kino on her the last couple of times i saw her
 

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Originally posted by brenbaus
She wont fvck me, she wont even kiss me, says it would be like kissing her brother.
I think ur done with this one. The topic has already come up at some point and she said THIS. That, my friend, is the kiss of death.
 
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