"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What is Her deal?

PimpOfTheSouth

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I had oneitis for a certain girl months ago after she said she needed space. I ended cutting contact and hadnt talked to her in months. She often Private called during the period and after 3 months I decided to respond back to a text being I was now talking to other woman.

Now since I have been talking to her she constantly texts and calls me. Im mean like clockwork every morning, Its Good Morning and everynight Goodnight. She now has a boyfriend but wants to hangout, I have put her off twice. How would one of you handle a situation like this?

It seems like shes still really into me in a couple of conversations she has broke down and cried saying sorry. Maybe its the fact that she can tell im not as into her anymore.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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horaholic

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Well, I'd say she's an AW, but apparently, they are just a 'myth.'. She must be a figment of your imagination.


Seriously though, she is just an AW. She cant handle the fact that you're not pining over her anymore. Dont fall for her crying, or any other bullshyt she throws at you. As soon as you show any interest in her, she'll back off again, and make you feel unworthy. just tell her you only hang out with single chicks.
 

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dude

who knows... i think she wants the attention

im a similar situation... one of my closest friends has suddenly started getting extremely sexual with me.. starts saying how she finds me sexy, how she wonders what it will be like to fu$k me, saying how we should get over this sexual tension and just fu$k... plus she lets me touch her pretty intensely..

i feel if i try to escalate it thou any futher she will back down..

def attracted to her but not up for loosing a friendship so not going to try to escalate

dont know why shes suddenly acting like this??
 

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This Girl left me because I started acting really needy and desperate. I think the new me is freaking her out as I told her I wouldnt get back with her again.
i would tend to agree but my question is how to deal with this?
 

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see if you can set up a date. If she brushes you off cut off all contact. You should drive the other way if your coming up on a brick wall.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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horaholic

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HeMan said:
dude

who knows... i think she wants the attention

im a similar situation... one of my closest friends has suddenly started getting extremely sexual with me.. starts saying how she finds me sexy, how she wonders what it will be like to fu$k me, saying how we should get over this sexual tension and just fu$k... plus she lets me touch her pretty intensely..

i feel if i try to escalate it thou any futher she will back down..

def attracted to her but not up for loosing a friendship so not going to try to escalate

dont know why shes suddenly acting like this??
You are a MAN, right??If its a real friendship, it will be fine. At most, it might be awkward for a month. If she is good looking, just do it!
 

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Thanks for the advice Horaholic, now in pertaining to the other posts this girl defenitley wants to hangout. Thats what I was confused on I didnt know what exact approach to take.
 

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im currently in the possition of cutting all contact. its been almost a week without speaking to eachother...


when she does call me or text me. i will ignore.

until she just blows up my phone. then i will respond and be very distant...


in this situation i would give 20%...make her do all the work... if it ends up being anything...it should only be physical...

i would not get emotionally attached to her since she has already screwed you over...
 
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