"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What is going to happen cause i have no fvckin clue?

jigga23

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Ok ive wrote a couple of posts about this girl. shes just really under my skin cause sh!t usually flows easier. ive pulled way hotter and more easily. For some reason i can't get fully in. First off it seems like shes nervous around me and/or uncomfortable someitmes i just think shes shy though except when she drinks. she has a preconcieved notion that im ****y and somewhat of a d1ck.

Ill give a quick bg so you can maybe break it down to see whats happening or what should be done.

Known her through mutual friends. (known of her for like 2 years)

First actually talked to her about 2-3 months ago.

Kissed her the first night a sh1t load of kino and eveyrthing.

She was somewhat flakey in the beginning. Called her to ask her out. flaked.
(tried twice)

I stopped calling her then like 1 week later she called and we hung out.

We hung out the next weekened. sh1t load of kino, got drunk at the bars went to her place did nothing with her cause was too drunk. after that she flaked on me the next day. I contacted a couple of times after but we didnt hang out. I texted her one night to ask her to a wedding, she said she didnt reply cause she didnt know what to say to me.

I stopped calling for like 2 weeks. she texts me saturday to tell me shes going out. We meet up alot of kino again. she tells me about a bday party the next weekened (mutual friend) i ask her to come home with me. she says she cant leave her friend. In my mind i was like fvck shes getting back at me so i just left and texted and said that was funny but i might not talk to u anymore. shes like ill see u next weekened i say i dont know i might be busy.

this last weekened i dont talk to her before i go to the party at the club. i get to the club i text her we meet up. but i dont know sh!t was kind of awkward barely even talked to her maybe too many friends around i guess. she was just standoffish.
I leave i text her hey i wanted to hang out with you more tonight...i want to get you know u better but i guess you think im a d1ck (she was talking to some guys i know and right after they talked to her they were like dude you cant be a d1ck to girls) and that sucks so ill take it that you dont want to talk to me goodnite pal. she replies back 3 hours later at 5:15am im driving so i cant text.

So i dont know where to go from here. Should i layoff for a couple more weeks or try to keep it rollin by asking her to come out with us on saturday or something.(i know she has her graduation on friday) shell reply to me but i dont konw i need to get her more in the comfort zone again. maybe LJBF her? Theres no way im nexting her immediatley i havent even put in a full faith effort anyways.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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