What is chemistry and how do you create it?

[Matt Rogers]

I have been confused recently as a lot of girls have told me that they think i am very attractive and charming but don't feel there is any chemistry between us.

This is a persistent problem. I am good looking, tall, athletic intelligent, charming and witty but cannot seem to create chemistry with women and always seem to end up as a friend.

What am I doing wrong and how can I create chemistry with girls?

Also if chemistry does not exist from the start can one create attraction and chemistry with someone? And if so how?

 

[WesCottII]

Hey,

IMO, chemistry is either there, or it isn't. You can wander down the path of Rapport, which will get you pretty close.

 

[PRMoon]

IMO, chemistry is either there, or it isn't.

I'm in agreement here, chemistry is definately something you happen across not create. It's like the sun rising or the tide going out, It happens on its own without your guidence.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Chemistry is sexual rapport.

 

[Don_Joffe]

I believe chemistry can be created, do you honestly think "smooth" talkers become "smooth" talkers without knowing how to create chemistry with each girl. My advice would be to
1. Isolate her
2. Eye contact, Smile, Whisper in ear
3. Small talk
4. Build up small talk into medium talk and then high talk
5. KINO --YOUR BEST OPTION
6. Talk about things that she enjoys and make her laugh.

 

[cave dweller]

no........

Hey,

IMHO chemistry can not be created.
It is either there or it is not.

cave dweller

 

[Jariel]

Different people have different interpretations.

I would say that it simply means "attraction" and everything that it incorporates - physical and mental.

 

[Quick]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Chemistry is sexual rapport.

We have a winner. I'm willing to bet that you're not being sexual enough, early enough. When they say theirs no chemistry, all it means is that they don't think of you in a sexual manner.

The things that don joffe listed are the techniques that you need to work on. The most important thing is to do them early, so she thinks of you as a masculine sexual being from the start. If she doesn't it's almost impossible to reverse that.

 

[The Rake]

If there's chemistry between two people, everything seems to click on all cylinders. There's physical attraction to begin with and on an intellectual level, there's total compatibility it seems. Neither of you is at a loss for words. Laughter abounds. Effortless rapport exists.

 

[GaryNas]

Chemistry is something that can't be created, it's just there or it's not. The Rake is right on the money with his comments.

 

[penkitten]

when you truely stubble upon someone and the chemistry is there, you will know it and so will that someone.
then you will know that you can not create fireworks and explosions by doing anything in particular.

 

[A&F Brand Cologne]

The best chemistry is just there. You meet somebody, click instantly, and are able to talk (and subsequently hook up) for hours at a time.

however, I think you can also create chemistry, and you can absolutely enhance it. when you meet a girl, make sure that you agree with her on a lot of things, make fun of her, make her laugh, and BE ENTHUSIASTIC! this is the most important step!

if you can get to the first kiss, then there should be no question of whether or not you have chemistry with a girl - because at this point you should explode the amount of chemistry you have and make yourself irresistable to your target. generally, if I can land one real kiss, it's all over. take your time. never stop moving your hands. act like every kiss is your last one and be as passionate as possible.

women respond to emotions and feelings rather than logic. agree with them, make them laugh, and kiss them how they like to be kissed and you'll have a fvck buddy in no time.

 

[catch]

hey... if you think about what chemestry is...

what is it...?
is it when you get along with some one? or is it when you feel like you know someone even on a first meeting??? WHAT IS INVOLVED WITH CHEMESTY????

when you connect or, bond instantly, or just feel comfortable with this particular person whome you have this chemestry????

if you think think about what chemestry is, then you will know that YOU can gain chemesty with any one...

how?????????

by being these things in another persons point of veiw....

simularity
friendly
open
honest
trusting
careing
genorous
posotive
kind
funny
talkative

and most of all being interested in the other person and being comfortable with that...

when somebody thinks of you as the above, then, you have chemestry, an instant relationship...

however...

there are ways to cheat.....