Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What is an "ugly guy" really?

Infern0

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I mean, in my mind its actually pretty rare you see a true "ugly" guy.

I think in most cases guys who come across omas ugly they have some mix of the following.

Unfit/out of shape.
No sense of style
Low level aura or bad attitude (no confidence)
Bad skin/hair/teeth from poor health etc

Someone said "health is beautiful" which i agree with.

Whats your thoughts on this? Is "ugly guys" as common as people think? Or is it mostly a symptom of poor lifestyle?

Case in point below.

 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You're correct. Any guy can be physically attractive if they're willing to work at it.
 

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Ugliness is lacking proper biological structure for a male, like having a weak jawline for example. The guys in your pics werent ugly, they were out of shape until they fixed it. You cant fix ugly.
 

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Ugliness is lacking proper biological structure for a male, like having a weak jawline for example. The guys in your pics werent ugly, they were out of shape until they fixed it. You cant fix ugly.
Chew a pack of gum everyday and chew hard, you'll have a strong jawline in no time.

OP, we could say the same thing about women. People in general are just out of shape, don't care about themselves enough to really make themselves attractive.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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When I think of women that I find unattractive, they could move heaven and earth and it isn't going to change my opinion. I find it hard to believe that it is so different for males, that they can just lift some weights and eat better, and suddenly "poof" they're handsome.

Some people just look better than others. If Danny Devito would just hit the gym harder, he'd be pulling as much @ss as Arnold Schwarzeneggar? Really? You can maximize what you have, that's about all you can do.
 

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You're correct. Any guy can be physically attractive if they're willing to work at it.
I would generally agree with this. Most men with good physique, charisma, style, and takes proper care of themself will be at least a 7.

It is the little things like..
-glasses that fit your face
-facial hair or not
-proper haircut
-proper skincare
-enough sleep = no bags, droopy eyes, or poor posture
 

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I didn't say all guys can be 10s if they want to be. I said any guy can be physically attractive if they work at it.

Danny doesn't need looks, because he's got the cash and personality down, but I assume you weren't specifically talking about him.

If someone looked like that, yes, they could be physically attractive by working at it. They won't be AS physically attractive as a 6'2" cut guy with a strong jawline, but again, I never said that.
 

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Chew a pack of gum everyday and chew hard, you'll have a strong jawline in no time.
Chewing a pack of gum won't rearrange bone.

If you look like Danny DeVito nothing can help you.
I know what you were trying to say and I agree with you but Danny's a bad example. He look alright when he was younger. He's just old now. Better example is Andy Milonakis.
 

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Chewing a pack of gum won't rearrange bone.



I know what you were trying to say and I agree with you but Danny's a bad example. He look alright when he was younger. He's just old now. Better example is Andy Milonakis.
I was talking more about Danny's height. For women, short means ugly.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Understand there is the "not my physical type" realm. Where a woman is not attracted, BUT ONLY because she prefers a different Body type or hair color or height.

These preferences habe nothing to do with standards of physical attractiveness.

In fact, I think it's safe to say this is more often the cause of rejection.
 

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When I think of women that I find unattractive, they could move heaven and earth and it isn't going to change my opinion.
a 300 pound girl looks like an entirely different girl when she weighs 140 and goes to the gym
 

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Chewing a pack of gum won't rearrange bone.



I know what you were trying to say and I agree with you but Danny's a bad example. He look alright when he was younger. He's just old now. Better example is Andy Milonakis.
Chewing gum helps the muscle in your cheeks. It won't make your jaw bone bigger but it will make it look slightly more defined. Plus it'll be unlikely that you will have bad breath.

Andy has very good Charisma skills in my opinion. He knows how to have fun and just be an overral real dude. People's first impression of him is always going to be that "fat 14 year old" until he starts talking.
 

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true, unfixable without plastic surgery ugliness is a rare trait

most ugly people just don't put enough effort into looking good
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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With all physical attraction, men and women are the same.

If you're short, you can't grow.
If you're too tall, you can't shrink.

If you don't have a symmetrical face, you can't do much.

It's possible to get plastic surgery of course, but I wouldn't recommend it.

It's possible to get a brace (teeth), get lasek (eye surgery), go to the gym regularly, fix your diet, master your posture, get a great hair style, fix your style, where shirts guys. Smart shirts. pluck your eyebrows, clean your nails etc.

Women can go a step further and add make up, some guys I know do this too.

Arash Dibazar wears eye liner and nail polish.

On that note, you can also get some tattoos to enhance your image.

You basically clean up, dress well and work out.
 

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Rhinoplasty;
Chin, jaw, or cheek augmentation or reduction;
Eye lift or straightening;
Fillers for volume or symmetry in any area;
Liposuction for double chins;
FUT hair replacement;
Limb-lengthening procedures to get taller;
Teeth straightening;
Diet/exercise.

Ugly is a choice.

True, Danny Devito could never be a Schwarzenegger, but he doesn't have to be a Devito either.
 

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Protip: Do not depend upon physical appearance to do the heavy lifting regarding attraction. We'll all deteriorate in our looks eventually.

A strong awesome personality will make people forget all about how you look. It takes greater confidence to be awesome while looking ugly than if you look stunning.
 
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