Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Man.Bad_Lil'Pixie said:This question would probably be best asked directly to a Moderator in a Private Message, that is unless you are trying to do something other then obtain an address.
It's a soap opera.Vulpine said:Man.
You know you're out of line when even those of the same sex are calling you out on your crap.
Harsh.:nervous:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yeah, she did! His e-mail is [email protected]Nighthawk said:Oh no she dittent!
Wow another attention seeking wh*re thread. Why do you need to make a thread? You can just PM all 5 mod and keep it to yourself. Why do you need his email anyways? Just wanna troll more and cause more drama?Wyldfire said:I want to contact him directly.
This entire thread is your attempt to stir trouble. 9,000 of your post is the last frame of a closed thread where you are crying "I never start anything, I am the victim, boo hoo". This thread is you trying to start something; you just attempt to disguise it under a ruse of contacting Allen. This is just your sniveling way to attempt to threaten or scare some mod because you didn't get your way.Wyldfire said:If you don't have the email address to contact Allen then you have no reason to post in this thread other than to attempt to stir up trouble.
There you go again, no one even asked why, further more no one really cares.Wyldfire said:It is not anyone else's business why I wish to contact Allen directly.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.